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Lupita

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power games
« on: June 21, 2008, 06:17:51 PM »
Do you want to know who wins the power games?


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The one who does not play it.







I have to confess, I have been so much tempted to give my opinion in the last frictions that took place in the board, but with the Lord's help I have been biting my tongue and biting my nails, and my toe nails, and almost cutting my fingers so I do not type my opinion. Until this moment I have been successful.

Please, Lord, keep my mouth shut. Please, please!!!!!!!

I love everybody here. God bless you all.

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Re: power games
« Reply #1 on: June 21, 2008, 06:21:31 PM »


((((((((((( Lupita ))))))))))))))


Your wisdom surpasses all of whom have walked this board, sincerely.

I consider you in my heart - to be a shining beacon.

Leah x
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Re: power games
« Reply #2 on: June 21, 2008, 06:29:35 PM »
Lea, Thank you. I ahve learned that we cannot remedy a relationship by condemning it. If somebody hates us we do not make it better by hating his or her back. We make it worse. How did I learn that? At my last place of employment. I did not let go of the first few offenses and the things got wrose. If I had forgiven them after the first few offenses, things would have stopped but I hated back and made it worse.

Huge lesson. Hope that I do not do that at my new place of work. I will bless them and love them and firgive them if they offend me because I want to be free of fights there.

I need to have peace. Ther eis nothing better than inner peace.

Inner peace does not come with ego. The gigger the ego the less the inner peace. let's us do the ego-ectomy together. Remember Lea? we said that we were going to do it together in another thread.

No ego = no problems.

Not easy, at least we try.

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« Reply #3 on: June 21, 2008, 06:36:16 PM »
Hi Lupita,

Healthy ego comes with voice  --   as opposed to be passive.   I used to be passive, and a doormat (all my life).

Basic human rights gives each person a right of reply -- in peace time. 

And in my heart is peace, I logged onto the board in peace, and posted in peace, with inner happiness and joy.

Remember, when I posted about "Hypercompetitiveness" ..... I do, and also, when we shared about "Lastworditis"   because that was the state of play in the game.

I don't like "power and control"  games, seen the fallout to many times in life, too many lives damaged. 


I believe in all human beings being equal regardless of where they live, what they have or don't have, or the color of their skin.

Anyway, your posting was interesting on more than one area of thought and study at present.

This will be my final posting for today, bedtime beckons!    :)

"God Bless You" Lupita, and I was so overjoyed and uplifted to read your wonderful news this morning.   

And, I do so hope that you move into your wonderful SEA view home -- and enjoy.        I love the sea.

Love, Leah x
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Re: power games
« Reply #4 on: June 21, 2008, 07:10:09 PM »
I was talking about my expereince at work and the CDs of Wayne Dyer. He is the one who says that and I am adopting his phylosophy. I think the les ego, the more detached we are.

Dear Lea, this is about my experiences. Please, do not make it your final post. There is no reason for that.


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« Reply #5 on: June 21, 2008, 07:15:23 PM »
I was talking about my expereince at work and the CDs of Wayne Dyer. He is the one who says that and I am adopting his phylosophy. I think the les ego, the more detached we are.

Dear Lea, this is about my experiences. Please, do not make it your final post. There is no reason for that.


Love to you.


Lupita,

I just saw your posting, how do you rate Wayne Dyer's material ??   

I ask because I spotted something that looked really good, yesterday, on the web.


I have recently completed a work on knowing how to spot the   Child  ego    and the   Adult ego    regarding interactions with people, and the games and stuff that they do etc.

This is for my job.

Well, and myself also, of course.

I posted yesterday about N's bosses  (I had an awful experience in a job a few years back and left).
Leah x
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Re: power games
« Reply #6 on: June 22, 2008, 02:09:23 PM »
Hi Lea, I have been busy, sundays are very busy for me. Just came from church.

I think that they are very helpful, as long as they do not interfer with your faith in Jesus. I substitute Universe by God or Jesus, and I substitute Dao with God or Jesus, other than that, I find them very helpful.

I will use them to try to be successful in my next job where I want to make friends and will return a bad look with a smile and help and they will love me to peaces because I will work hard for them.

Yes, and for self esteem I use Louis Hay. She is good uplifting slef esteem. Again, I substitute universe by Jesus or God. Dyer is helping me to keep my mouth shut. To listen more to others without giving opinion and to give love to people who dislike me or critizice me. That was my worst problem. To hate someone because they hate me instead of being nice to melt them with love. I will try. I will try. I will try.

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Re: power games
« Reply #7 on: June 22, 2008, 06:23:59 PM »
I just wanted to add that this phrase that I used to start this thread, the winner of power games is the one who does not play them, I got from CB. Wise person CB.


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Re: power games
« Reply #8 on: June 22, 2008, 07:31:12 PM »


I learned from Lollie  --  "...  Walk Away from the Table"   and that is my choice.       I have learned much from Lollie, a wise woman indeed, and genuinely kind too.          Leah x
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« Reply #9 on: June 23, 2008, 11:38:56 AM »
Hi Lea, I have been busy, sundays are very busy for me. Just came from church.

I think that they are very helpful, as long as they do not interfer with your faith in Jesus. I substitute Universe by God or Jesus, and I substitute Dao with God or Jesus, other than that, I find them very helpful.

I will use them to try to be successful in my next job where I want to make friends and will return a bad look with a smile and help and they will love me to peaces because I will work hard for them.

Yes, and for self esteem I use Louis Hay. She is good uplifting slef esteem. Again, I substitute universe by Jesus or God. Dyer is helping me to keep my mouth shut. To listen more to others without giving opinion and to give love to people who dislike me or critizice me. That was my worst problem. To hate someone because they hate me instead of being nice to melt them with love. I will try. I will try. I will try.

Hi Lupita,

Thank you ever so much for sharing.   I do think you have made a valid, most poignant point, with regard to being proactively discerning and wise as in your application of substitution.   For a healthy open worldview.

I have read and applied wisdom from various sources having done likewise, and learned much, gaining effective tools for life.   

Louise Hay is inspirational, shining a light on the everyday application of choices for healthy emotional well being.   

Being underpinned by the foundation of one's personal faith as a mature Christian, as you say, substituting certain words/phrases, with Jesus (God) which is how we walk the walk of our faith, looking to Jesus, and not the world.

Louise Hay: I do appreciate and value her quote:    "the thoughts we think and the words we speak - create our experiences"    - being my heart's choice.


Well over a year ago now, I discovered Beth Moore, and her book "Breaking Free"  for a life of freedom, which has been an enormously helpful healing tool.


Gosh, Lupita, you have worked diligently, and the fruit of your labor is clearly evident, by you just being you, as you openly exemplify here in engaging with honesty and wisdom.    "well done you" 

Very best wishes to you in all your future endeavors.

Love, Leah
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