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Hopalong

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heading to court with Nbrother
« on: December 03, 2008, 08:20:54 PM »
Hoo boy.
The hearing is happening Friday morning.
I am dreading it but whatever will be will be and I will be all right.

The one thing I've decided is that no matter WHAT the ruling is, I will not allow him to have access to the space where I live. Never again.

If I'm tossed onto the sidewalk, fine. I will not let him in.

I am being dramatic but it's nerve-wracking. I wish my lawyer were more involved. Or maybe he is and listening to me be scared and dithering over my mistakes has driven him nuts.

Anyway, I have good friends to witness to my care of my mother (and fear of my brother). He has thoroughly poisoned the nursing home staff (not the regular nurses and aides, who see me all the time--but the administrators). So he may call them and they will fuss over my paying late. Haven't for three months, but I did, it's true.

Oh well.

What will be will be.

If y'all can send serenity, especially Friday morning, I really believe that works.

love to you and thanks too,

Hops
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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #1 on: December 03, 2008, 09:10:46 PM »
Sending you peace, serenity, love, kindness. Also so proud of you for deciding never to let him in your life again.
Good luck and know I will be thinking of you and praying for you.
Love, Beth
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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #2 on: December 03, 2008, 09:59:39 PM »
Sending serenity, peace, comfort, calm, and strength ... will be praying for you over the next several days.

Imagine all of us amazons and gladiators standing in a circle of strength and serenity around you, and as wall between you and
puny 'ol wormtail.

I believe too Hops.

(((((Hops)))))

Love,
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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #3 on: December 03, 2008, 11:00:05 PM »


Hi Hops,

I'll be praying for you about Friday.  I hope you get to send your brother a BIG bill when it's all over.

tt

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #4 on: December 03, 2008, 11:27:13 PM »
Hi Hops,


Believe in yourself, Believe in your attorney, Believe in your higher power...sending you strength, calm, peace, and some Kick Ass...don't let him in your head...Focus....I have power no one can take...I am strong.

You won't be in the street...have Faith in yourself!!  Believe!!

Love
Deb

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #5 on: December 04, 2008, 12:20:03 AM »
I'll be sending you peace on Friday morning.  I will be sitting in chapel as my son's school presents Lessons and Carols in a program that is beautiful beyond description.  A segment from years past will be on the local PBS station tomorrow night.  I will send a bit so you will know the beauty of the sound.  While I am there I will think of you and you will hear angelic voices singing songs of "Peace" and "Goodwill on Earth."  Just the words you will need to hear.  Just the concepts that you will need to experience:  Peace and Goodwill on EArth to you Hops.


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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #6 on: December 04, 2008, 07:03:19 AM »
Hops - I believe in your serenity, your strength, your innate kindness and that you have a security that simply can NOT breached by anything or anyone. Above all else, your courage to face anything with grace, dignity, and super-intelligence. No one can take that from you.

Remember to breathe slowly - and if the nerves start, focus on feeling your fingers and toes. Know that all of us are going to be with you in spirit and that no matter the outcome (which I believe will be in your favor) we will be here anxiously waiting to hear the news, and to offer what it is you need at that moment.

It will be OK; everything will be all right.
Success is never final, failure is never fatal.

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #7 on: December 04, 2008, 07:39:44 AM »
Hopsy, I know you are going to do so well on Friday.  When you first told us about it, I was anxious over the length of time it would take for you to get to court.  In my heart, I wanted you to be able to get it over with and get on with life--whatever the verdict.

But over the months it has taken to get to this point, it has become apparent that the delay was all for the good.  During that time, you have grown by leaps and bounds--you are not the same person you were several months ago.  You have developed so much courage, so much stamina, so much determination. And so much acceptance of yourself. 

When you walk into court on Friday, you are going to have butterflies.  Who wouldnt?  But you have spent the last several months forging the peace that you will need on Friday.  You will have it in abundance.  And you will be in all of our hearts that day...Be sure to rush home and tell us how it went!

I'm looking forward to hearing the next chapter in your story! 

Much love,
CB

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #8 on: December 04, 2008, 10:37:42 AM »
Absolutely, Hops.  Hang in there.  Don't let him goad you into behaving the way he wants you to.  Don't let him throw you off your game.  Judges see humanity in all its forms, all the time.  Here's hoping yours sees straight through the BS and does the right thing.

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #9 on: December 04, 2008, 10:39:08 AM »
Kick butt.

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #10 on: December 04, 2008, 02:17:10 PM »
Hops:  It is what it is.....I will send thoughts and prayers your way on Friday.........after it is done then another chapter of your life will have a period at the end of it...
Kelly

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #11 on: December 04, 2008, 03:51:06 PM »
All the very best, Hops

...and whatever, sue him for slander, or libel if you have anything on paper.
I wish you peace and wellness and strength to just say it like it is (without the profanity tho') the
M*F*r he is!

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #12 on: December 04, 2008, 08:17:23 PM »
Hops....

sending you hugs, warmth, serenity and a reminder that you're a good daughter.

So you put a check in the mail late, a time or two?  That seems so small when one looks at the whole picture.... and your friends here do.

(((((()))))))  Imagine we're with you tomorrow morning...... you'll be in our thoughts.

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #13 on: December 04, 2008, 09:29:06 PM »
Here is the link to the brief radio sample of the music program my little one is singing in tomorrow.  It is filled with peace and goodwill and I will be sending you thoughts of the peace tomorrow.  The program is performed in an episcopal cathedral that is very traditional with a vaulted ceiling and beautiful stained glass.  It will be packed with a crowd of 2000+ and darkish, cozy on a cold, rainy day but filled with warm and I will be sending such feelings your way to sustain you through the bleek midwinter day in that cold, empty legal environs.

Listen to a minute of the music tonight and then let a note of two resound in your thoughts tomorrow and know that I am thinking of you.  Your friend - GS

http://www.wbhm.org/Tapestry/advent.m3u

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Re: heading to court with Nbrother
« Reply #14 on: December 05, 2008, 06:51:02 AM »
You're probably up and worrying around the house now, Hops.


Drink plenty of water and eat your vitamins...... maybe some extra vitamin C and fish oil.

I'm thinking of you...... ((((Hops)))

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