Thank you Beth and Hops.
Yes. it is out! He is 80 years old, and somehow, with his dumb ignorance, I could not let him go to his grave not even realizing what he had done to me.... with my own lack of assertivness.
As my boss, the 2 of us only in one office, my desk in front of his, he told me that he loved to look at my ankles, legs, my ass, when I moved to get up and walk out of the office to go elsewhere. I hated that, but I knew everyone thought he was a "nice guy". I was not assertive, and I needed my job for my daughter and me, so I said nothing, but I held resentment.
Then I was in the accident and he kept my job for me--- talk about making a person "beholden to " oneself..... feel indebted...! Then less than 3 months in hospital his cards were signed Love. I talked with him. He said nothing. He was always there, always there, always there, always there and then one day having my bladder irrigated, with a closed curtain, he just swept the curtain aside and came it. I swore at him to ge the H*LL out.
Onwards 1967-2008 nothing but stuff, that I swear he never even realized, but I had to get it out, for MY own good!
I am not afraid of him, not worried about him, not anything about him now. He was the ignorant perpetrator and I was the victim.........no more!
Love
Izzy
