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Singer:
Hi Mattiedread,

My Nmother is 79 and has become quite reclusive. She still imagines the world  is her audience and has difficulty even going across the street to the mailbox. Going to the grocery store requires 3 days of preparation, both physical and mental. It must be exhausting.

I feel sad for her, but can't help much since she senses that I'm on to her and doesn't trust me anymore.

For companionship she favors the television and the sweets that she picks up when she does manage to get to the store. Like your mother, television is her new reality, and preferable since it can be controlled.  I try to stock her freezer with "real" food about once a month, if she'll let me in the house which is becoming more and more infrequent.

Singer

Ellie:
Ahaa, Ns and pets. I've just got to share this story.

6 years ago Nparents had my lil sis take care of their beloved little doggie over night - can't fathom to this day why, but they did. Nmom was inseperable from this dog.

My sis always takes her dog with her everywhere and did not use a leash this particular day. She had a paper route and it had snowed quite a bit so she was walking with the dogs to throw papers on porches. Nmom's lil dod got spooked and ran out in the street - right in front of a sliding car. You can imagine the horror... :cry:

So Nmom - who blames us for EVERYTHING has repeated the story for 6 years to whomever will listen that my sis killed her dog. She says it like it was completely on purpose. Can we say 'forgive' here? And yet Nmom tells us in cards every year how 'she forgives us for all the pain we have caused her'.

To make a long story short, that doggie's name was Trixie.

Nmom got another dog 2 years ago - but for the first time allowed herself a male dog - she hates anything male except her husband and that's who she sould HATE! When I asked her what she named the new dog she said 'Mixie'. Now I'm no specialist on pet names but Mixie doesn't even sound like a male pet name and it's as close to Trixie as you can get. But she tells this dog that he's not as good as Trixie. So it's true, Ns have the same behavior to pets as to us I guess.

As far as using up all their supply, Ndad has said many times that he would rather die than put up with us around him. I know that is a call for attention, but I would predict that if his N supply dried up, he would kill himself. He wouldn't do it in the traditional methods, he is diabetic and has said he will stop treating it if everyone doesn't obey him. Boo Hoo

Nmom will never run out of supply - she's an avid church going, fundamentalist bible belt holy roller believing idiot and can get more than enough supply each week by teaching her little kiddos in sunday school, or preaching at her neighbors.

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