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Anonymous:
Hi flower,

 :D  :D  :D

Kind of liberating, isn't it?  To think "hey, I don't have to --- ".  

Someone put it to me this way: if you put your hand on the stove and it gets burned, don't do it again!!   This comment makes it so much easier for me to understand my own new actions and decisions.  

Good for you for burning these new invasions.  Peace, Seeker

Ellie:
Flower, Congrats for the strength!

Today is my Nmom's b-day. I have not sent a card nor will I call. This is my defiance to let her know I will no longer participate in her sick world.

Ndad got upset when I didn't acknowledge his b-day last year. It'll be interesting to see if a family member tries to get me to contact Nmom like a niece did with Ndad last year. :wink:

Seeker said:

--- Quote ---Kind of liberating, isn't it? To think "hey, I don't have to --- ".
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Oh yea - very liberating! Wish I had done this many years ago - but no time like the present! We can't go backwards, but we can determine to control our future!

Lizbeth:
Kudos to you, Flower.

Maybe you should invest in a shredder, that way you won't worry about having to heat the house up.  It's also a good thing to shred junk mail and credit cards, statements, those unasked for checks sent, because of increasing identity theft and credit card fraud.  

Lizbeth


--- Quote from: flower ---I really am moving on...We received four letters from Nmom yesterday, each addressed to different family members, my children included. I burned the letters in the woodstove, unopened.

celebrating a new stage....

flower - I have a woodstove and I'm not afraid to use it -- even when the house is already 80 degrees inside.
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Ellie:
OOOH, a shredder would be a great idea! You could shred the cards and letters, then celebrate by throwing them like confetti! That's a celebration!

And if you ever needed to send a package to your Nmom, you could use the shredding for packing material. That would be funny!

Lizbeth:
You could also shred the unopened letters and mail them back to her.   It bugs me to think these N's feel they "got their message across" by sending letters or whatever, knowing (in their self-centered mind) they would be read (how could anyone dare not?).  Sending things back unopened stops that idea (though I know it probably feeds them N supply in some other way).  

Sending Hubby's N'mother's birthday present back, unopened, with a letter threatening her with harassment charges if she tried to contact him again in any way felt very good, and it seems to have worked.




--- Quote from: Ellie ---OOOH, a shredder would be a great idea! You could shred the cards and letters, then celebrate by throwing them like confetti! That's a celebration!

And if you ever needed to send a package to your Nmom, you could use the shredding for packing material. That would be funny!
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