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Michelle:
Hi Dawning -

I can totally see why her remark would make you a little unsure.  After all, you really can't tell online what "tone" someone had.  And that could make all the difference!   :roll:   I agree with others that I have also used that term pretty frequently.  I say don't lose any sleep over it and I like Ellie's idea of making the joke - just in case she was trying to be purposefully rude and mean.

((((((((((Dawning))))))))))

Michelle

flower:
If my mom said that I would think that she meant I belonged in her pocket.

The above responses are good. Here is an online resource for idioms, where I found an answer by using the search "pocket."

http://dictionary.cambridge.org/define.asp?key=pocket*1+0&dict=I


This definition of to be "in somebody's pocket" fits the feeling I got about your mom (from my experience with a Nmom) when I first read about the term your mom used:

http://dictionary.cambridge.org/define.asp?key=61010&dict=CALD

Dawning:
flower,

this is the one!

Definition
in sb's pocket DISAPPROVING
in a situation where someone has power or control over you:
The head teacher has the school governors completely in her pocket/The school governors are completely in the head teacher's pocket.

She's so good at coming up with phrases that can be interpreted in more than one way to leave me guessing.   Bitch.  She completely takes advantage of the parent/child relationship when it suits her and then suddenly when she needs me to be her *best friend* she snaps her fingers and - boom - I'm supposed to be her best friend.  Its like she wants me to be her slave.  

Or possibly, Michelle, she was using the term in a nice and non-threatening way like you do - but I seriously doubt it.

Its sad when you can't trust either of your parents.  

I sometimes wonder if there is anybody - except for most of the people on this board - who cares.  And where are they?  Guess I've got to find them.  I'm sorry if I can come across today as self-lamenting.

flower:
Dawning,

I think I feel where you are coming from here today. Your post didn't come across as self-lamenting to me. I've sometimes felt this way too, too many times. My daughter once said that all the nice people are hiding somewhere.   I hear you, Dawning.

flower

genuine:
Hi Dawning,

I have always known "out of pocket" as having no money so I find it so abnormal that she chose that phrase to convey that she missed you online.

If it were my Mum I would immediately think she was taking a dig at my finances as I'm so broke and on disability too for my anxiety disorder. She and Dad ripped me off $10.000 (australian) years ago before I got sick.

The only thing that I can think of without knowing your circumstances was that her intention was to confuse you for some reason only known to her. I can never work out Narcissists.

genuine :)

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