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Ami

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Re: Life takes a turn.......................
« Reply #90 on: August 08, 2009, 08:07:15 AM »
Sweetie
 I am sorry you went through that scary thing. Even through that,you were concerned with the other lady. I am so thankful YOU are in my life even if it is friends in this 2D mode.    XXOOOO    Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

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« Reply #91 on: August 08, 2009, 08:18:57 AM »
How is your M treating you through all this?         Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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« Reply #92 on: August 08, 2009, 09:03:37 PM »
My mom is depressed.  I do not know if she is because I am getting all the attention or if she realizes she has lost control of the world.....
Kelly

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« Reply #93 on: August 08, 2009, 09:23:11 PM »
My Mom is depressed too b/c she doesn't understand how life got so bad . She doesn't realize SHE did it!       Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

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« Reply #94 on: August 09, 2009, 10:43:56 AM »
Yes, for so many years mom had the world by the tail.  She was successful......she had respect.......money........people turned to her.  We all tip toed around her.  Everything we did that she wouldn't approve of was hidden behind her back.  She took us to Hawaii in 1985 and my 30 year old brother asked her if he could have a Dos XX with his Mexican food.....she said no.  We ordered some Pina Coladas and charged them to our room.......she never has taken us back.......we used to go quite often..
that was 24 years ago.

Now the family drinks in front of her.  We don't go to her church.  We say NO to her from time to time.  She is frustrated when she suggests something and no one listens.  At work all she does is complain.  I finally got to the place where I said I am done with the meetings......I can't work with her and I left.

Yes, she lost all the control.  Then she had these guys come in and tell her to leave and let me run the show.  Then I get cancer.  Everything that she holds dear is gone.  Not me.  But the limelight on me.  She cannot stand being put out to pasture.

Same thing happened with my grandpa.  Not that he was successful or anything like that but he controlled everything.  When my mom got successful she dismissed him.  Soon he no longer ran the show.  People stood up to him.  Then he got alzheimers and it got bad.  My mom is exhibiting all the signs my gpa did.  It is an interesting alternate parallel, them....
Kelly

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« Reply #95 on: August 09, 2009, 01:46:34 PM »
Dear Kelly
 One of my Bible teachers was talking about how eventually everyone "loses control" . Just the nature of life is a gradual loss of control--even aging if nothing else.
        Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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« Reply #96 on: August 15, 2009, 01:35:34 PM »
Kelly...I'm really glad you're around that little life-pump, your grandbaby.

I hope your H has settled down so he can actually step up a little, help you more than drain you.

Please tell him specifically what you need, he needs the step by step...

Do you feel well enough to have visitors or is it better to rest?

Sending you good naps, gentle dreams, deep healing...

love,

Hops
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« Reply #97 on: August 15, 2009, 02:59:39 PM »
Yes, that grandbaby is a life-pump!!  I love her so much.

My H got drunk the other night and I told him that when someone is going through chemo the worse thing that can happen is an infection.  Would he be ok to drive me to the hospital if he was blasted??  I told him I need him to step up to the plate!!!
Kelly

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« Reply #98 on: August 15, 2009, 03:04:48 PM »
What did your husband say when you asked him that, Kell?

I hope you found a scarf you love..... what did you end up with?

::sending prayers that chemo and positive thoughts destroy the cancer::

Can the doctor give you something to help you sleep?

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« Reply #99 on: August 15, 2009, 09:49:01 PM »
Hey Kelly (OC)

You sound as though you are in good spirits and am SO happy for all your good news.

Now will you explain something to me about USA Health Insurance? I know now you had the Cancer Insurance, but what about  if you didn't or everybody in general.

I began to watch a show called "Sicko" produced by Michael Moore on the trials and tribulations of Americans and Health Care. (My time ran out but I will go back to it in 54 minutes....that's Megavideo for you!)

I was shocked to see that a guy who accidentally cut off the tops of two fingers with a buzz saw would be charged $12,000.00 to have the tip of his ring finger replaced (he chose that)  and about $80, 000,00 to have his "tommy tall" replaced. This is outrageous.!!!!!

There is NO Insurance for anyone, unless they buy it from a Private Agency??? (I'm trying to follow what Obama is saying!)
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Now my being struck by a car and transported to the hospital and the emergency services plus surgery, plus hospital stay x 2) for me is all paid for by the Provincial Government, except for ambulance, and I forwarded that ($80.00) to HIS Insurance Co.

What would happen in the USA in an incident like mine? or the previous one with a Neurosurgeon and an Orthopedic surgeon, with an anethesiologist for 7½ hrs and a YEAR in Hospital 40 years ago? What would happen? Somehow I am apalled at what I am thinking!!

I am so shocked!! I used to be in Ontario and everything was covered by our OHIP, as long as we followed certain procedures, such as asking for an appointment for a specialist and recieving an OK from our GP. Go to a specialist without a referral means one pays for the visit! Here in BC we have a CARE card! Same Deal!

So you, for instance , would be in debt for all the years to come, had you not purchased the Insurance?

Therefore all poor sick people die?

OMG! If I am reading this right, it is atrocious! and can Obama fix it?

Love and Get Well Wishes
Izzy
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« Reply #100 on: August 15, 2009, 10:23:30 PM »
You've got it, Izzy.

Exactly. And it is atrocious.

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« Reply #101 on: August 16, 2009, 10:32:58 AM »
Well, to answer your Q Mo2.....I haven't lost any hair but expect it to start falling out soon.  The only thing I have is a wig......don't have it yet.....but it is on the way......my friend is going to have a hat and scarf party for me.....

Yesterday my h went over to his dad's house and his 42 year old sister was drunk off her butt.......he got to see first hand how it is to handle a drunken adult.  He called it a wake up call.  That family.........a lot of drunks.

As far as my insurance, Iz......I have regular health care provided to me by my job.  I opted to buy some supplemental cancer insurance because I knew I had a family history of it and just wanted piece of mind.

As far as the US......this whole insurance thing is huge.  People usually fall on one side or the other.  Some people think it is wonderful and others think it is awful.  I personally do not know all the ramifications on our taxes, etc. if it goes through.

I think the major thing people are worried about is that the quality of care will go down and the middle class will have to pay for it.  I also think there is a lot of unrest due to the fact that the US is giving social security benefits and health care to illegal aliens.  People who have not paid into the system are taking from those who did....
Kelly

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« Reply #102 on: August 16, 2009, 02:10:48 PM »
Glad to hear that you're doing so well, Kelly, and that you have such an upbeat attitude.

Izzy, I thought that "Sicko" was dead-on accurate. I have private insurance through my husband's employer, and am constantly turned down for treatments and medications. I can't imagine what it must be like for the uninsured. I take Imitrex for my migraines, and my insurance will only pay for nine pills a month. If I need more than nine, the cost of the drug is somewhere around $500, which I can't afford. I'm in Arizona, and a lot of people go down to Mexico to buy their medications (my doctor actually recommended this). I also have a limit on the number of therapy visits I can have per year, and have to pay for the rest in cash ($150 a visit).

I think the people who are protesting Obama's plan are simply misinformed, or are listening to the nuts who are spreading rumors about these so-called "death panels." I was born in Canada and know first hand that the Canadian system, while not perfect, blows away what we have here.

Kelly, taking out the private cancer insurance was a very wise move. I have a friend who recently lost her husband to pancreatic cancer. They had private insurance (not cancer insurance), but his battle lasted many years, and involved many surgeries and treatments that the insurance would not cover. Even with insurance, she was left with TWO MILLION DOLLARS in medical bills. We need reform, for sure.
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Re: Life takes a turn.......................
« Reply #103 on: August 17, 2009, 12:55:56 AM »
Hi JKathy

I finally saw all of 'Sicko' and I found it appalling, really! How much I didn't know, and it seems surreal!

OC

How are things going? Any expenses you didn't know about?

Keep Well
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« Reply #104 on: August 17, 2009, 02:08:22 PM »
So far my insurance is covering everything.....what they don't cover I can pay with the supplemental insurance.  That has amounted to around $1000 so far.  My cancer is very aggressive and rare so they do not know much about it.  I suppose if I have to do some experimental stuff my insurance company might balk.....

I feel pretty good right now.  I have my next round starting on Friday.

Chemo is NOT fun.  I cannot describe it but it is just icky........
Kelly

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