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gratitude28

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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #15 on: September 30, 2009, 02:00:38 PM »
OMG OMG OMG... Red, we had the SAME mother. I struggle so much with the same weight issues!!! My sister and I were both bulimic, both sieted like crazy, both have awful self-images and food issues.
I am currently at Weight Watchers and I am also working out a lot. I have always loved working out, but had the same issues with it as I did with the food.
I am so glad you are here and I want to read some more of your posts!!
Love, Beth
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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #16 on: September 30, 2009, 02:04:11 PM »
BTW, I love your profile picture and you are very pretty.

There are so many new people here!!! I haven't been on in a while! It looks like we have a great group here and I am looking forward to reading more about all of you!!
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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #17 on: September 30, 2009, 11:16:09 PM »
Beth, isn't it WEIRD how they are all the same person?  It is completely eerie!

And thank you for the compliment.  :oops:

Binks, South Beach Diet is a really popular and easy diet to follow.  You can get a book about it at any big bookstore or Amazon.  Here is the website http://www.southbeach-diet-plan.com/ and here is the message board http://www.southbeach-diet-plan.com/forum/index.php?sid=d67f08bfc6e484990e10a9bbc130c7fd.  Essentially, you eat lots of vegetables and reasonable amounts of lean proteins for the first two weeks, then gradually start adding in fruits and whole grains after that.
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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #18 on: October 01, 2009, 09:06:43 PM »
NM's think they have the right to fuss about how we look, but we're not allowed to. I feel as if my NM wanted me to be her life-sized barbie doll to dress up and put makeup on. 

Ever since moving away from NM, I've learned that most people in the real world could care less about how you look or weigh.


My brother's wedding is coming up, and I'm already getting conscious of my weight (b/ I will see my mom)...I want to work out, but I'm feeling too tired to do it.  Maybe that's my body's way of telling me to "not give in to NM." 
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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #19 on: October 01, 2009, 09:38:02 PM »
Quote from: nolongeraslave on October 01, 2009, 09:06:43 PM
NM's think they have the right to fuss about how we look, but we're not allowed to. I feel as if my NM wanted me to be her life-sized barbie doll to dress up and put makeup on. 

Ever since moving away from NM, I've learned that most people in the real world could care less about how you look or weigh.


My brother's wedding is coming up, and I'm already getting conscious of my weight (b/ I will see my mom)...I want to work out, but I'm feeling too tired to do it.  Maybe that's my body's way of telling me to "not give in to NM." 


I was my M's Barbie doll, too. I am always surprised, too, about the similarities in NM's. It is eerie!                     Ami
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gratitude28

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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #20 on: October 01, 2009, 10:53:14 PM »
nolonger,
Don't give in. Go and be your happy new self. I have also realized that people like you for who you are, not how you look. Have a great time, and ignore her. When you do want to work out, do it b/c you love the feeling and strength it gives you!!!!!
xo Beth
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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #21 on: October 02, 2009, 09:35:05 PM »
It does feel like we all had the same mom. :(  My Nmom had the eat everything on your plate rule too, then criticized any gain. That was during my teen years. After I married and had three children she would tell me how skinny she was after having her three. My dad would just look at her kinda weird, I always saw pictures of her heavy. I did loose weight after eating healthy and exercising and she told me that I looked anorexic! I said "Thank You!", I don't know why but I did. She looked surprised and said that it wasn't a compliment. I just replied "I know". She never mentioned my weight again. She would only look me up and down in disgust. They just love to pull any achievement right out from under you!
I have had NO contact with her in 15 years. Unfortunately my husband is an N. Go figure, thought I could fix this one right???  I didn't realize it until I stopped catering to all of his needs. Now he Hates me. The weight is back up. We did have two more children after I lost the weight and did keep it off for a while, but as soon as I stopped catering to him....geeze shouldn't he be helping me cater to the children instead of me catering to him??? He always did fight for their attention. I'm just plain old worn out!   ((((((((To Everyone Living this nightmare)))))))
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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #22 on: October 02, 2009, 10:35:39 PM »
Getnbetr

That's a good one..I'm going to try that. :P

To the rest..I've decided to just enjoy myself and my body..and that means not working out when I don't want to!  :o

Even when it comes to dating, have people noticed that looks don't matter as much as NM's make it seem like?  My NM seems to be way more concerned with my sexual attractiveness than men that I date are.
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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #23 on: October 03, 2009, 01:56:30 AM »
Did all your NMs do that thing about how you shouldn't want to look attractive to men, because that made you a slut, but you needed to look attractive to men or you would never find a husband, without which you were nothing?
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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #24 on: October 03, 2009, 10:21:50 AM »
Hello, Erin,

I personally have gained weight for the first time in my life, I'm certainly not obese, but I don't fit into my favorite sexy pants anymore. I have always been very healthy and into exercise and physical activities. In part I think it was precipitated by being around other people with bad eatting habits. Only in part. I have heard that weight gain is directly related to stress hormone levels. I've never tried to go on a diet or lose weight. I may start soon.

Good luck Erin.

I personally enjoy healthy food and exercise a lot, more then being lethargic and eatting junk, it seems like it is just a matter of getting all the ducks in a row.

The "Why Bother" thinking comes into the whole body thing.

For me, the last two-three years have been my worst for "WHY BOTHER" when it comes to my body. It was precipitated by some surgery I had for minor cancer issue.

A friend of mine got a subscription to weight watchers, there are support groups and online resources. I never tried anything like that but it worked very well for him. I could SEE a huge difference. He looked healthier and happier and more energetic. For him personally the support groups encouraged him to stay on track and provided that positive peer group experience he needed.


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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #25 on: October 03, 2009, 12:19:08 PM »
My friend age 60, who retired early from a highly successful corporate career with a golden parachute...went to visit her Nmother a few years ago.

Her Nmother met her at the door, looked at her, grabbed the bottom front of her blouse and yanked it up in the air to expose her body and told her "You've gained weight."

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Re: Weight and eating issues
« Reply #26 on: October 03, 2009, 01:02:10 PM »
Quote from: Hopalong on October 03, 2009, 12:19:08 PM
My friend age 60, who retired early from a highly successful corporate career with a golden parachute...went to visit her Nmother a few years ago.

Her Nmother met her at the door, looked at her, grabbed the bottom front of her blouse and yanked it up in the air to expose her body and told her "You've gained weight."

 :shock:

Hops

DANG!!!!!

I would have reflexively back-handed her if she did THAT to me in public!!!!!!   :twisted:

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