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[Ellie]

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[angrygirl]

I am sorry your Nmom did that and want you to know my Nmom is guilty of it too!  She did it all the time with my sis kids (I didn't have any at the time) My Nmom had sent emails to my niece, gifts to kids, etc. and claimed my sis used them as pawns because she wasn't allowed to see them.  Which was BS my sis geve them the presents she sent -I would have sent them back but I am mad right now.  

My mom did this with my baby recently...I decided if she sends anymore gifts to the baby I am going to either call her or send a letter saying that I don't want her to send gifts to the baby because she has never taken an interest in meeting baby or even asking about baby.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe a parent, even a crazy Nparent, would try to steal your own child. The line about not being grown up enough to be a mother is interesting. Sounds like your Nmother isn't even human!

I feel for you.

[Anonymous]

It is unbelievable how these Ns use children to satisfy their selfish needs. My exNSIL wanted to *have* my young son - just give him over to her, and when I laughed and refused (I didn't know about Ns in those days) she said I had a 'black heart'.
I still shake my head at that one.
Enjoy your precious son Ellie and keep him away from those crazies.

[Anonymous]

Hi everybody,

It's pretty extreme N when a person thinks of a baby as a doll or pet.  But useful.  A doll is pretty and fun and you can put them on the shelf when you are done playing, or bored.  If the doll suddenly does something you didn't make up, you can throw it against the wall and replace it with a different doll.

A pet is a little more challenging in that they are recognized for having actions of their own, but you train them to do what you want.  All you have to do is give them food and put them in the yard or house, etc.  If they make too much noise, you can beat them and know that the neighbors appreciate you trying to keep the noise down.

It's pretty simple with suppliers of dolls & pets too.  If someone has a doll you want, you simply ask for it.  If the supplier denies you, then yes, the supplier is BAD.  You didn't get want you want.  That's always a BAD outcome.  

My sitter's H loved my "doll" so much, he wanted to take her to meet his family who lived on the other side of the world.  Needless to say, I changed sitters before my doll was kidnapped.

        Seeker

[Discounted Girl]

I had almost forgotten this one. One day we were visiting her house, it was time to go, and she was holding my son (her first grandchild) and telling him goodbye. He was about 2 months old at the time. All of a sudden, she turned away from me, going down the hallway she mumbled how it seemed he should be her's, not mine. I remember only laughing and following her down the hall and taking him out of her arms. I should have said, "hey crazy lady, don't do that again or we won't be back." But, as usual, I left thinking I had done something wrong.

I also remember the doctor who delivered my kids was a friend of their's. He questioned me several times, "are you sure you can take care of him?" I thought at the time, this guy must think I am a space cadet. Now, I realize she was telling the doctor lies about me too, why else would he question me? I am sure he thought, "well, she looks and acts like an intelligent and  responsible young woman, but her mother tells me these things so she must not be what she appears." The list grows longer with each day.