Oh my goodness, Lupe.
You're asking this man to get rid of his female friends, his male friend, spend less time with his child and exile his ex-wife....... require he spend more time with you and other couples.
What troubles me most is...... you've made this man responsible for your feelings.
That's a lot of responsibility, Lupita.
Esp as nothing he's doing would appear to be "deal-breakers."
I don't like this man has so much control over you.
You appear a little petulent, stomping your foot and demanding, like a 2yo, though I know you must be more dignified, but you seem to always be making demands about who he sees, dances with, talks to and socializes with.
I can't tell if it's he needs someone to tell him what to do all the time, bc he's so innapropriate, or if you need to state your feelings and sit back and see what he does on his own.
It would be different if he were cheating or contemplating getting back with his ex, but stating a boundary like "I will know you don't want to see me again if you talk to your male friend again" does seem like an overreaction.
I want to say..... where there's smoke there's fire, but....... I'd hate for you to walk away from a guy who's basically a good patient kind person, waiting for you to get over your FOO issues.
((((Lupita)))) Maybe just dance for a while and pay attention to how you feel.
Journal instead of reacting and check yourself in a week or 2.
