Hi all,
I've just been thinking about friendships a lot the last few days and thought I would post what's wandering around in my head and see if anyone else has similar thoughts/feelings?
I am very lucky to have a lot of friends and acquantainces. I have noticed recently that some of my friends have N traits - I'm not suggesting they all have personality disorders but there are a few who are quite focused on themselves, quite selfish, rather material and quite pessimistic. Bizarrely, I have much stronger desires to interact with and be around these people than I do my other friends who are reliable, trustworthy, honest and generous.
I'm assuming this goes back to being drawn to what you know, and I think half the change comes just from recognising what you are doing - now I've seen it I can make a conscious effort to focus on my nicer friends and cut down on contact with the me me me brigade. But oddly enough I feel more obliged to see the people I like the least and I'm having to really wrestle with myself to call people I just want to spend time with, rather than those I feel I ought to.
Anyone else do this? xx