EFT...cont'd from link inside.. and my sister...

[Izzy_*now*]

http://www.voicelessness.com/disc3//index.php?topic=8690.0

is old so it was suggested a new thread be started.

Youtube demonstration of what my sister did about my feeling of 'betrayal'.....'i.e. substituted for his word 'feeling'.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6r7OZwhcqxY&feature=related

This has worked for her with people on whom she has done this. It didn't work on me.

One of her client's was 'My father kicked the sh** out of me when I was 15'. My sister tapped her out of this and from it being a strong feeling of negative importance to her, after one tapping session, the client wondered why it even bothered her.

Another client was continuously 'bothered by the mess that her daughter's home was in'..(said client has cleaned my sister's home for 16 years.)  My sister tapped her out of this in one session, and the client was no longer bothered with this.

I had no change in my 'feeling of betrayal'. As I have said, my feelings are tucked away and I know of them but don't feel them.... I think she finally understood how deeply I have (unconsciously) forced them out of true feeling, as opposed to I know I felt/feel.

When she left this morning to fly home she was crying, and the airport shuttle guy hugged her out at the curb, as I sat inside (and stayed until they pulled away) with a few waves and smiles and pleased with our visit, but everyone has a life, knowing she has other things to do, but we had a great time, never fought, had good discussions.

She was successful (or was I successful?) in having Reiki and Reflexology work with me. I was relaxed enough to fall asleep after/during each session....although I know I didn't fall asleep when she thought I did, as I was aware, but too relaxed to speak.

I guess I will consider this the emotional for EFT (no results) and the physical for R & R (results).

I would love to read any comments.

--as a fun note, I set the alarm for us to awaken at 4:30 am so she could ready for the Shuttle for 5:25 (arrived at 5:15 am). As she had just finshed an email back home and wanted me to read/check it, she said, "I must hurry."  I looked at the computer time and it was 3:13 am. WHAT???

I then remembered that in setting my clock radio, the push on the button is change clock, (hesitates ... do so).. the second is set alarm one (hesitates... do so) and the third is set alarm two (hesitates ... do so). I accidentally set 4:30 am, as the change clock time, then went on to set alarm one at 4:30, left alarm two alone and went back to rectify the clock time. I thought it was 12:08 pm, guessed? but it was only 10:08 am, so I was 2 hours fast. Boy! Did we laugh! and had only 3 hour's sleep but 2 hours in the middle of the night for her to write an email, and for us to finalize out visit at a leisurely pace!

So she had time to write another email about the early time of her first one and why!!!!!

xx
Izzy

[Gaining Strength]

It sounds like a good visit Izzy. 
I am so glad for you.

I have wanted to receive reiki for several years.  Glad you had that experience - especially with your sister.
I use EFT on myself and though it is slow I have made progress.
Your sister can do it with you over the phone. 
One of the things that makes it so slow for me is this.
EFT works best on a specific event as in the first example you gave.
It is less effective on something that is not event specific.

The issues I have worked on were subtle and took place over and over, daily for years on end.  So these are not event specific.  The theory espoused on the EFT website is that in cases such as mine that using EFT is like chopping trees down in a forest.  It will get there but it takes alot of work repeated over time to get to every last tree.

I encourage you to remember as best you can, specific instances or memories of times you specifically felt betrayed.  Write them down and then work on them one at a time until you get relief.  That is one suggestion.
Thank you for posting your topic today.  It was very helpful for me - giving me a sense of connection which I sorely needed today.

[bearwithme]

I tried this and it was pretty interesting.  It left me feeling relaxed.

[lighter]

A neighbor gave me a book on tapping.  Must read it as I really like that neighbor and find the subject interesting.

Glad the reflexology helped.  It made me happy to picture you relaxed and dozing, healing hands lending you care and strength.

SO glad to hear your visit with sis went well, Izzy. 

Mo2

[Hopalong]

Izzy, wow, sounds like it went even better with your sis than one could have ever imagined!

I am SO glad.

You have a family member who loves you and with whom you really connected.

What a gift of life and healing for you, and you so deserve it.

Hope the ripple effects go on forever.

much love,

Hops

[Izzy_*now*]

thanks GS

EFT works best on a specific event as in the first example you gave.
It is less effective on something that is not event specific.

She wrote to me after arriving home and suggested both, that I can try it on myself, and to make that feeling of betrayal more to one incident.

Thanks Mo2 and Hops

I am the logical type and she is the emotional type. She cried when she left, but I smiled and waved, thinking she was going back to her own life, but not 'leaving me'. It could be she was feeling sorry to see me sitting inside the lobby in a wheelchair in pain, or that she might never see me again, or that '_____________________?  Who knows with the emotional thinkers?

I must have decided a long time ago, that emotions get in the way of thinking, because I deal better with the facts and putting things into action, or not! Sounds cold? I don't think so....just sensible/productive? Dunno the word!

I feel betrayal, it goes to its compartment, then I only think betrayal, and I no longer hurt!

love Izzy

[lighter]

I think you should take the Myers Briggs personality test, if you haven't, Izz.

Do you know what you are?

Mo2