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Hopalong:
Not really an update but I want to say I'm sorry I haven't been participating much.

So many things have come to a head or are reforming, collapsing, changing...it's hard to write about it.

My daughter is leaving within the week, in what I feel are pretty dangerous circumstances. Enough money for just a month or two, no support group there whatsoever, estrangement between us, no job to go to, just going to find a very cheap fleapit studio in Miami Dade somewhere in the very high-mileage car she bought, boxes of food in the back, two cats...

She has no security at all. Either financial or professional or emotional. And we're at such a painfully distant place that I can't help her even though I'm yearning to.

So it's a very hard leavetaking. She's terrified and angry and I can't bridge the gap. I really can't, I just have to let her go and deal with the fear and grief. The last 10 months were a nightmare for her, and not so good for me either.

On another subject I've given up the idea of keeping my home...not going to buy my brother out. I just can't afford it. So I'm dealing with that impending loss/change. But I do have friends, a church, a job. I have everything, compared to how she is right now.

I just wanted to say what's happening and apologize for not offering much energy to anyone else here right now...I promise I will again once things settle down a bit.

Meanwhile, love to all of you...

Hops

seastorm:
Dear Hops,

So good to hear from you. Sorry things are hard for you right now. Sometimes everything happens at once and  it is good to reach out to old friends here for support.

My heart goes out to you.

Sea storm

sKePTiKal:
Hopsy dear,

Things I have learned about change:

It never turns out as bad as you fear it might...
and even when it's not everything you hoped it would be - it's always close enough to it, to still be a good thing.

Take care of your heart and "home" will take care of itself. I'm mentally wrapping my arms around you in a giant bear hug... to hold you up when you're too tired to stand, hold you together when you fall apart inside, to infuse you with what you NEED and didn't know you had in you... to carry on.

Blessings...

Sela:
Dear Hops,

My heart goes out to you as well.  I will pray for you and your daughter.  Maybe things will work out for the best?  Maybe she'll find what she needs and you will find a nice little place to start over (some place where you won't have to deal with your jerk brother!).

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Take care of you.   

Sela

PS:

Maybe you could write a little note and tuck it in some where where your daughter will find it?  Let her know how much you want to find common ground with her?  Whatever feels right?

Hopalong:
I love that idea, Sela.

Thank you.

Maybe I'll put a note in her python tank.

xo
Hops

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