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James

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FYI
« on: October 27, 2010, 01:31:06 AM »
I was very recently introduced to the work of Marshall Rosenberg, author of NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION,A LANGUAGE OF LIFE. If you have not read his work you may find it very useful in your recovery.

Best, James

Hopalong

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Re: FYI
« Reply #1 on: October 27, 2010, 11:27:53 AM »
Hi James!

How are you? It's good to hear from you.

My dearest workmate is very involved with NVC. I don't buy the "this will save the world" parts of it, but I see so often how deeply it has guided and healed and helped him. (And those around him too.)

He is so decent and compassionate and responsible. Even when he gets mad, he handles conflicts with that NVC kind of communication and integrity. Makes a wonderful difference and makes him a safe person to be close to.

Kudos to you.

Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

James

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Re: FYI
« Reply #2 on: October 27, 2010, 08:33:10 PM »
Hi Hops

Been awhile since I posted here. NVC was new to me until recently so I thought I would share it with you guys. I dont think of it so much in terms of "saving the world" but more as another helpful tool. Really helps when I'm triggered in personal relationships and it can easily disarm other people and elimate alot of unnecessary tension.

As to how I'm doing. Well, that would be a long story so to make it short........in a few words I'm growing up. I went through a long and very intense highly regressive therapy. So much pain!! At the worst of it I withdrew from almost everyone family, friends, practically everybody except my therapist.  I'm relieved that things are improving inthis area. At the moment I'm working with a highly respected Primal therapist (most importantly I trust him) whos helping me integrate it all into everyday life. We're also doing more exploration. I dont feel I have the words to adequately convey to the people on this forum the true horror infants and very small children have to survive..... right under the noses of totally oblivious parents and other adults!!. This doesn't just apply to obviously abusive families but to ones that people accept as normal. I've seen/felt it for myself and I will never be the same.   Human behavior/feelings, mine included, are starting to make a lot of sense. Life is getting a little easier at times..... even starting to have some fun without all the baggage and worries I used to drag around.  Anyway,  just wanted to stop by and offer up the NVC thing. Thanks for asking how I'm doing Hops, hope your doing well.

Best, James 

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Re: FYI
« Reply #3 on: October 29, 2010, 09:35:39 PM »
Hi James
 I don't check in here very often. Hope you are doing well!!
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
   Carl Jung

debkor

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Re: FYI
« Reply #4 on: October 29, 2010, 10:48:45 PM »
Just want to say...

Hi James, Hi Ami

Love Deb

Ami

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Re: FYI
« Reply #5 on: November 03, 2010, 09:23:27 PM »
Oh ,so sweet.
Thank you, Deb.
I am doing well.
Hope you are, too!!
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
   Carl Jung