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fraidycat:
 Years ago my nsister was taking jabs at me to make me look bad on FB (we have a lot of friends in common who saw her unfair remarks). I was afraid people might believe her but got sick of defending myself so I confronted her in private and asked her to stop. She insisted it was just a joke (she always used lol and lmbo after the remarks) and kept up with the insults and slander so I unfriended and blocked her. Now that she can't use my page to badmouth me she is reaching out to our mutual friends to bad mouth me on their pages. Most recently a friend posted about how special sisters are. My sister responded by saying "Unfortunately I have the worlds worst sisters" The mutual friend sympathised with her as did other friends, she told them that she had tried to talk it out with me but that just made it worse. Bullcrap! She's so twisted. One offered to be her surrogate sister! That made me so sick! I posted a great article about bullying and attention seeking that fit my sister to a tee on my page hoping they would see it. I'm wondering if it would be a good idea to private message these people and explain my reasons for not responding to her remarks, I hate that they might believe her. What do you think?

fraidycat:
www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm

Interesting article...applies to cyber bulling too, especially the part about "attention seeker"

This is what I put on my wall, I didn't say why. I know it won't do any good to talk to nsister so I wont, but I wonder if bringing this to other peoples attention in private with an explanation in-case the didn't see it would help.

Guest:
I'd only talk to those people who I wanted, and judged to be, very good friends of mine. And those friends wouldn't be encouraging the sister like that, so maybe i wouldn't need to talk to them.

As for making the others see your side, I'd forget it, otherwise you're drawing attention to yourself and making yourself available for counter-attacks from sister. It's all a game, and it's best not to play. Unfriend those who side with your sister or think it's 'funny'. They are not friends.

And I wouldn't send anything on a private message that you wouldn't mind the whole world seeing; because it's possible that someone somewhere will stick it on public view.

So no, don't defend your honour on facebook. Get rid of the two-timing so-called friends. Just my opinion.

fraidycat:
Thanks Freshwater, We grew up in the same neighborhood as both girls and I think they were just being nice, I'm not sure if they believe her.  It came out of the blue for both of them they were talking about how much  they appreciated sisters (I was close friends with 2 of their sisters who aren't on FB and have become friends through FB with both of them and siblings from both familys. I want a connection) Both have been nice to me and everyone else. I don't think they would share a private message but I get what you saying. I hate being portrayed in such a negative way it's not fair to me. Most people don't like my sister they just tolerate her from what I can see.

Hopalong:
Totally agree with every word FW wrote, Fraidy, just to add my 2 cents...

And, I'd suggest taking reflective inventory of how much of your time goes to FB and decide maybe to give more of that time to 3-D friends, even making new ones...

(I spend a lot of time here which could be similar but it feels valuable, always...still a FB holdout but I may cave eventually...)

xo
Hops

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