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illudere:
PhoenixRising thanks for pointing out D may think she is at fault if I pull her from the classes.  I do not want to add on  more, we will probably continue as D is enjoying the classes.  I think I may not be a great home school teacher, and am glad she is enjoying classes. 

I think there is something not right about D's pain tolerance.  It dawned on me when she burned herself on a slow cooker a while back, she got a one inch by 1/8 inch thick burn on her leg.  I saw her playing and fumbling but she didn't react so I assumed she was ok.  It was later during bath time that I saw, and was shocked that I saw the whole thing but didn't look down. It's exactly what happened with this teacher, but isn't a lower leg, near ankle different than face?

 My ability to see clearly is a huge issue so I am not sure about this teacher.

The thing about racism, i've taken mommy and me classes with this same teacher and felt a subtle bit of it.  This may be petty but this is why it feels like it's there: a couple of time during torch time teacher would hand us a flashlight last,  by then all the good ones would have been given out, and how fun is non functioning flashlight in a dark room? Or a bunch of times, at the end of class she passes out stickers, kids are milling around for theirs, and my D would get pushed out, teacher can control it but would end up giving D last.  Ignored us a few times as we walk pass her on our way to other classes. 

And then  mistaking me for a helper. And why am I afraid of being seen as a maid? They are not treated well, not even seen as an equal human being.  We're in Singapore, its not pretty seeing people walk around like helpers don't exist. So I guess I want her to just plain see ME! Or the helpers for that matter.  Helpers get no chitchat, no update on what the kids did in drop off classes.

There is no love between us.

I do appreciate your input, my issues are secondary to raising a D who feels loved and is happy. 

illudere:
Redhead Erin, thank you! It's great to hear your side, I am trying to let go.  It's not easy, nor is it comforting for me to think other adults will be nice to her.  I see so many people talking down to kids. 

 I also come from a culture where I wasn't allowed to do much, no after school anything, no sleepovers, no camping, never went to a high school party.  I had trouble imagining, my parents vision for my sister and I extended till high school, then married off and out of their hair, end of responsibility. Nothing was expected of us, we would accomplish nothing but being a good housewife, and that morevor less equaled being a maid.   

 I can never tell what will end up causing her issues, and I do  want to trust her reaction.

Thanks again!

-illudere   

       

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