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The "Mama Never Told Me" Thread
KayZee:
OMG Hops! THANK YOU!! I can't tell you how grateful I am for all the above advice.
Like I said, horrible to ask anyone in my FOO anything like the above questions. You know that classroom wisdom: there's no such thing as a stupid question? Well, to NM, every question is a stupid question!
That's been one of the hardest obstacles in my recovery: learning to ask for help. Even learning to express curiosity. I've always been one of those people who make a mental note when someone says something I don't understand, and try to remember to look it up later. That's because NM always shamed me anytime I asked a question, asked for help, looked confused. Classic NM: "What? You mean you didn't know THAT? Who doesn't know THAT? You really are clueless, naive, hopeless, etc. You're sooo lucky you have ME here to show you the light. Where would you be without ME?" Ugh, nauseating.
I try not to let on to FOO about financial/work hardships especially. As they pass the gossip around, feeding on my misfortunes like a pack of hungry wolves. God, I really hate them. That's so socially unacceptable to say. But it's true.
Anyway, thank you a million times over for the encouragement and advice. Yes, we're in the northeast. But we will find a way to tough it out this winter! I just want to keep my little babies warm. Very hard not to beat myself up over the finances (I'm the sole breadwinner), doin' my damndest to provide for everyone :(
debkor:
Hi Hops and Kay,
I put the plastic on the outside of windows and inside. My house is kinda antiqued or old comfy looking so under my nice (silky curtins) I put another curtain rod. I hang blankets (quilted designs) so it's nice to the eye also.
I use space heaters also. I took a chance and bought an infrared heater (endorsed by Bob Vila) said it worked more like a portable furnace. Did 1,000 feet wall to wall and floor to ceiling. Cost 450 to buy and if on for 24/7 about 40 bucks a month. Then found them other places 1/2 the price. That's for the 1000 sq feet. They also have personal ones (smaller area). And mine works to where (my house is not large) I don't have to use my oil (pretty much at all).
My friend uses plastic (clear) bathroom tub/bath/shower liners behind her curtains instead of the costly insulated curtains
My electric bill vs oil and electric bill is about 334 a month. I know it sounds alot but with the oil delivery (and old house) and electric it would cost me about 220 to 230 for electric and anywhere from 460 to 600 every five weeks for oil. So I actually save. A lot.
This year will be more saving because I insulated to my eyeballs. I use the kids electric sockets that has no opening unless you twist because believe it or not ....if you put your hand near the plug opening Cold Air comes out.
I even found a heating unit that looks and blows air like a coal stove (fake fire going) that is infront of my fireplace (that I don't use) due to allergies and a big source of heat loss (when not in use) which cost me elect anyway if it is because it is an electric Blower. That I also plastic up.
I do love the space heaters but I'm carefull about them for some plugs got way to hot to the touch. The ones I have now...None. Nor do they get hot to the touch (good for little ones).
teartracks:
My mama never told me that you could not get pregnant by holding a boys hand
Yes, I was that naive and I guess I inherited it from her? Can that be passed genetically? :lol:
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Hopalong:
Deb that's a great thought about the toddler plugs for electric sockets blocking air leaks. Thank you.
And also the blankets or quilts beneath window curtains--thank you for reminding me about this. One thing that bugs me about plastic is the chemical offgassing from that stuff--even when you can't smell it anymore. But a blanket's better than no subcurtains. Really glad you got me thinking about it again.
Because of all the illusion, it's awkward to cover the windows with plastic while the house is for sale...but sheesh.
hugs
Hops
Guest:
Something I've found out on my own.....women who wear reading glasses might like to wear them when cleaning, if you want to see the dirt you've been missing! *drats* :lol:
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