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Father with cancer and narcissistic mother
Lucky:
My father has always been kind and patient and rather complient to my mother. Yes, I do love him. Thank you for your help!
JustKathy:
Hi Lucky. I'm very sorry to hear about your father's illness.
The others are absolutely correct in saying that Ns will go to ridiculous lengths to divert attention back to them. My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer about four years ago and went through a really rough time of it (and still is). My NM tried to downplay her illness, and when that didn't work, she "got cancer" herself, telling everyone that she had an inoperable tumor and only four weeks to live. It's been over three years, and she's still telling people that she has four weeks to live. She has no compassion towards her own daughter for being sick. Instead, she's jealous of her for getting cancer because cancer = attention.
Be prepared for your NM to create some major drama. The best thing you can do is try to ignore the theatrics and just be there for your father. It's difficult at best when an N is coming between you and another family member, let alone one who is sick. If your NM is the one giving you updates on your father's condition, try to verify it. Ns will embellish their own illnesses and downplay everyone else's. You won't get the truth from her. I wish you all the best is getting through this and will keep you in my thoughts as you go through this difficult time. Hang in there.
Kathy
Lucky:
Hello Kathy,
What you are telling about your mother and sister is really bad, how can a mother behave that way towards her daughter, it is really disgusting.
JustKathy:
--- Quote ---What you are telling about your mother and sister is really bad, how can a mother behave that way towards her daughter, it is really disgusting.
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That's what Ns are .... disgusting. Their behavior towards family is deplorable, especially family in need. I have heard many many stories of N mothers trying to take the spotlight away from a sick or dying family member. They are completely devoid of compassion. It's all about THEM.
Guest:
--- Quote from: JustKathy on November 28, 2011, 07:15:04 PM ---That's what Ns are .... disgusting. Their behavior towards family is deplorable, especially family in need. I have heard many many stories of N mothers trying to take the spotlight away from a sick or dying family member. They are completely devoid of compassion. It's all about THEM.
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Agreed Kathy. They have no compassion. They are only aware of what affects them, how they feel. Nasty stuff.
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