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Father with cancer and narcissistic mother
Hopalong:
Perhaps you could persuade one of the outside helpers to tell your mother, very seriously, that it is a medical recommendation for her that she take a two-hour break away from the house at least once a day....
I am glad you are with him, Lucky. He is lucky you are there.
love
Hops
Lucky:
The problem is that my parents are a 1 hour 40 minutes drive away from where I live and I work fulltime. So I can not be there with them as much as I would like to. My father is bed ridden and taking care of him is quite a lot of work. Even though there is a night nurse during the night and twice a day people come to wash my father and change his clothes and regularly change the bed linnen. The moments I am with them it is very rewarding because my father is very grateful for the help and my mother has time to have a shower upstairs and go shopping. My father can not be left alone for longer than a quarter of an hour. He suffers from delirium / confusion.
Lucky:
My dad died on the 1st of March. Before his death my mother was badmouthing my dad and she is still doing it! It hurts me very much that she can not say nice things about him, he was such a kind man!
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Lucky on March 28, 2014, 03:55:01 AM ---My dad died on the 1st of March. Before his death my mother was badmouthing my dad and she is still doing it! It hurts me very much that she can not say nice things about him, he was such a kind man!
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(((((((((((((((((((((((Lucky)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Hopalong:
Lucky,
I'm so sorry for your loss.
But very glad you could be close to him during this chapter of his life.
You clearly take after your father...
and that you'll always keep.
with love,
Hops
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