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Meh:
Well, I evaded because it was meant to be a passing entertaining flirtation, tonight though I told him about my personal situation in no flowery terms. Didn't go over very well....don't think he will be calling me again. I laugh at myself with the darkest humor possible, oh well. There is just no way to light up this Christmas tree...wink

APRIL FOOLS!....no really I am a skank.....Fa la la la la la---LA---LA---LA----LAAAA

Somehow I feel like the bigger person in the end even though I get it that people don't understand. The bigger person even if that doesn't make sense because I CAN sit with myself and try not to put hate onto myself.

Thing is often one flirts before they get to know the other person really well, as a kind of preliminary. It doesn't often happen that a person gets to know another really well and then flirts after the fact. Well, I guess this will learn him to not be so naive.

The guy wasn't even near to being wealthy and that was never my focus (my point being he isn't super "better" than me)....sort of makes me ask myself now....why exactly is he excused from jerkdom. Banished to Jerkdom.
I was playing at flirting and it took off like a horse with my leg stuck in the stirrup, but now I feel like I played a MEAN JOKE ON HIM!!!!!!! Why would I even feel that way!!! Makes no sense.

I don't feel very good about it though, sort of confirms in cement almost that I am not only in, but a part of the "underworld", a lower eschelon of bottom dwellers.

Needed a break from seriousness, needed some sweetness but I knew that I was only proving something disappointing to myself.
At least I got called "lovely" out of it....haven't heard that in a long time.
Why did I have to tell him the truth? Now I see the appeal in elaborate fibbery. I should have lied to hear more "lovely,lovely,lovely" but I  can't do stuff like that it's going too far.

I like the sweet nice goody goody guys....but really I should be flirting with the scary skinheads.

There I vented about my messed up life that should be one big social experiment and not even called a "LIFE".
Anywho more to write somewhere else. another day, another time

Boy the board gets still around X-mas
Peace Y'all

sKePTiKal:
Well, Boat... just like you take a risk in flirting, so does the guy. It's up to him to be responsible for his feelings and boundaries and taking his own chances. Not your job to protect him.

But I wonder: is it possible that you started to like him, for real, just a little bit?

Hopalong:
Hey Boat.
Occurring to me that maybe the focus needs to be on boundaries (self and others) and relating in a healthy way, no matter with whom.

IOW, if one "gets" or learns to gradually get closer to...

strong sense of self
healthy boundaries
assertiveness
I-statements
present-moment
and play

Flirting could evolve out of that. I think focusing on it as a separate distinct behavior can generate confusion or frustration.

At least it does for me. (Whole sets of cultural shorthand, assumptions, and "scores" just rush in. Overwhelmingly paralytic. Or triggering.)

If I think of healthy reciprocal communication that takes turns, is present-focused, is honest and is safe and playful...well then sexuality could be
one thing that's expressed. Or creativity. Or nurturing. Or delight.

The honesty part is connected to the boundaries part which is connected to the self-care part.

Rambling,
Hops

Meh:
Looks like he didn't totally go away afterall....but hay, things are not fun anymore right. He is trying to tell me that he doesn't judge people but I think he just doesnt want to look bad. I can't process it all right now I need to go to an appointment.

Hops, I like your ramble...helps me to clarify my own thoughts.

Is this one of those things that maybe I shouldn't think my way through? why not just throw myself into it like a goofy idiot :)
I know its reckless. I know.

Meh:

--- Quote from: PhoenixRising on December 20, 2011, 08:50:11 AM ---But I wonder: is it possible that you started to like him, for real, just a little bit?

--- End quote ---

I don't know him that well, he has that charming thing going on. Could charm the pants off of the president. We like each other's company a lot, we have just hung out and talked nothing beyond that.

What is "like" any ways? We all need our hearts to be transformed in someway....the heart just becomes helplessly addicted to love....like the song.

Isn't it our job to protect other people that we are involved with though???

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