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Hopalong:
You find so much comfort in beauty, and in communing with the real and natural world, Boat...

Maybe part of the answer is if you would sit with the idea of looking at yourself and see the same kind of beauty.

Somebody who has the same ability to see, can look at you and see something no less beautiful, mysterious, worthy of contemplation.

But the best thing is going to be when you see yourself with the same love and wonder that you often give the world.
Then once you get that (compassion), it gets a whole lot easier to put up with others.

(I don't mean treacly love. I just mean to resonate and respond as you do to beauty, that's half the skill one needs to resonate and respond to one's own self with love. Not sentimental goo, I mean the part of you that's like a cello string...)

Ramblingly, but wishing you much hope and newness in your new year,

Hops

sKePTiKal:
BIG things... large scale appeals to me, Boat. I don't know why... maybe I'm tired of trying to piece together clues out of tiny details for too long... like long sky horizons... the ocean... wide open prairies and mountains that only look close, but will take days to reach.

Breathing room.

Meh:
Thought I would google "How to get the most out of therapy" Because as always I over think a lot of stuff...but after so many therapy attemps I'm wondering what is the point of therapy anyways? Isn't the goal of therapy clear...

For example if someone is going through divorce the point is to ease the emotional trauma and facilitate healthy communication.
If someone has substance abuse issues the goal is to constructively guide the patient towards reducing the dependence on those substances.
If a person has an eating disorder then maybe the therapy includes oh I don't know how they treat these. Maybe with love.

If a person has a personal health issue like some kind of serious chronic condition...the therapy focuses on baby steps related to quality of life....maybe there is a reduction of what the person can do but the person is still encouraged to do fullfilling activities.

What is my point? That every problem should have some kind obvious goal and path...and maybe there its flexible creative and unique but the problem and solution are within a range of obvious.

SAVE bouncing screen box thing

Meh:
So I have stated some of my goals very clearly to the therapist but I just get a vague reflection back from her as if she is confused.

I told her my goals are to get to a healthier, safer and more productive place in my life. And to get therapy related to my father's situation because I feel overwhelmed with that.

In other words I don't feel as healthy as I once did, I don't feel safe, I feel like I'm squandering my life away going nowhere stuck in the charity welfare system. Sometimes I think there is no solution or if there is its very extreme and one can only do it oneself with no real help or support.

What is not clear about that?....this is why I don't believe in therapy. I liked all the handouts they gave me about grief because I read things that I needed to know but the therapy itself...is bothering. Plus this is a community thing I don't have the freedom to shop for any therapist in town. I prefer a private therapist because it's in a less clinical setting and I have chosen them and it feels a little bit more personal.

http://www.drnadig.com/therapy.htm
Venting here.

Meh:
I often leave therapy feeling confused. I'm noticing this.

I don't like it, I want to be focused or motivated or excited or to feel understood, or to feel like I don't have to be overwhelmed with grief. Want to feel like solutions are within my grasp. Want to feel like I have something to look forward to that is why I go to therapy.

I do not go to therapy to feel confused. And if I feel confused then maybe there is something about what the therapist is doing that is NOT working for me???

Maybe I will go back one more time and explain to her that I feel confused and that I would like referrals to private therapists.

The problem is I don't have a strong framework or structure in my life. It's like the therapist wants me to use some sort of framework and structure that is indwelling? My own internal compass is broken. The therapist can keep on telling me "read your compass"  "read your compass"......It's bothering me. This is NOT helping.

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