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Wail o' the week
finding peace:
Dearest Hops,
You have been my anchor through many a bad spot.
You have taken care of so many, including those of us on this board.
Just as you had your mother’s best interest at heart, for so many years you subjugated yourself for her.
When does Hops get to live for herself rather than everyone else?
Maybe just a week to step back and take care of you instead of everyone around you?
You deserve that; more than deserve that.
Can you give yourself a vacation?
Time where you can say, OK, enough, I am going to give this week to me?
IME, it is worth taking the time to reccharge.
Can't express how much; love you Hopsy,
Peace
sKePTiKal:
I'm sorry Hops... the way that post started, I was hoping for a little cupid action in your story. I'm truly sorry that it's the SOS from the same old NBoss. Not afraid to say what he thinks, is he? I'll keep my fingers crossed that the two young'ens are part of the new breed I'm seeing who have pretty strong values and detest bullying. They'll have the testosterone to stand up to NBoss, if they are invested in the project... maybe not to their benefit, but because they think it's the right thing to do. Those kids are definitely out there and I'm definitely keeping my fingers crossed and secretly smiling about how they'll manage things when we're old & feeble.
I think you've held up your end of the agreement about kitty and even gone above & beyond. Even your solution about fostering the kitty is extremely fair, a really good compromise... and how that finally falls out is completely up to your D. Please don't let thoughts of disappointing her or anticipation of more anger from her stop you. It's the best thing for you - and kitty.
Here's some good news to think about: a friend of my D's was in the drive-thru lane at a fast food place with her son. The car ahead of her, paid for her meal... so she did the same for the car behind her. I think that is a pretty cool Valentine's tradition to keep going.
Peace gave you some good advice - even if you can't get a week to yourself, you really need to carve out some time for self-nurturing, re-creational stuff. Maybe an hour at a time to start?
And here's a big hug to give you permission to take that hour off!
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lighter:
Hops:
I guess there comes a point where you might just have to smile and give a little mental finger touche check in the air when the boss throws a zinger your way.
You can give him marks for performance.....
"Wow, pig.... made you want to gag? Really? Gag? A little off your game today. Could've used more colorful language, like, "made me want to upchuck my red and green moo goo gai pan lunch all over this report," and so on.
He really is predictable, and the more adult/responsible/professional you are, the more petty/misogynist/unprofessional he likely appears.
You. Smooth, unruffled, and always professional.
Him? Behaving like a toddler in the office.
Res assured, he's not always sweetness and light with everyone else, all the time, when you aren't around.
About your d, I haven't seen any updates in a while, so I'm just glad she's back on her feet, gettin feisty about her cat.
It's a frustrating situation, but it sounds like things have moved in a positive direction, despite kitty's predicament, which seems to be improving as well: )
Thanks for the update. I've been hoping in your direction.
Lighter
lighter:
Oh, oh oh.....
Good luck selling the house, Hops!
It could happen: )
Lighter
Hopalong:
Thanks, guys!
I just gave myself a "sick" day.
I guess "not feeling well" is honest enough...I feel fairly sick at the thought of seeing Nboss today, so I'm going to stay home and get some extra rest. Haven't been sleeping well, or exercising. So after lolling the morning away, I'll take a walk in the park too.
Thank you for encouraging me to take care of myself.
xo
Hops
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