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Ales2:
ANGRY. VERY, VERY ANGRY :x :evil
T got my NM to pay for future sessions. :x
I feel used and controlled. I asked him to let me ask her for future sessions if I needed them. He was supposed to meet with her and get to know her, not get future sessions for me. In doing so, I feel controlled in the sense she is now dictating that course of action, rather than acknowledging she was asked to go to therapy and do her own work. Instead of working on herself, shes indicating I'm the one with the problem.
Thats the end of this. No more therapy from him. I feel like he's violated my trust.
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Ales2 on June 09, 2012, 08:37:21 AM ---ANGRY. VERY, VERY ANGRY :x :evil
T got my NM to pay for future sessions. :x
I feel used and controlled. I asked him to let me ask her for future sessions if I needed them. He was supposed to meet with her and get to know her, not get future sessions for me. In doing so, I feel controlled in the sense she is now dictating that course of action, rather than acknowledging she was asked to go to therapy and do her own work. Instead of working on herself, shes indicating I'm the one with the problem.
That's the end of this. No more therapy from him. I feel like he's violated my trust.
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He DID VIOLATE your trust! WHAT was he thinking?!?!?!?!? Apparently, all he saw was Dollar $ign$$$!!!!
Bones
Ales2:
Hi Bones, thanks for the support. I posted prematurely as I had only one side of the story, but it actually got worse and I actually got hurt more than I expected. Anyway, I am HURT beyond belief and just want to go to bed and sleep it off.
As it turns out he told me she was very frail and has tremors. She duped him, she has no tremors. She's feigned illness before to avoid confict and criticism. Anyway, I was panicked when I heard him say that and it escalated into a very unpleasant disagreement. As it turns out he does not think I am "amenable to treatment" and thus my problems cant be solved. I was heartbroken. He never encouraged me and now I know why. My dark is dark enough to mean I cannot recover. Heartbroken. Its like Ive just been told by the fix it expert I cant be fixed.
It feels meaner and crueler than anything that has ever happened to me. I knew him for four years and this is all the help he can give me? Im hurting so bad right now. Ive had broken bones in a car accident that felt better than this.
:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil:
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Ales2 on June 09, 2012, 11:48:17 PM ---Hi Bones, thanks for the support. I posted prematurely as I had only one side of the story, but it actually got worse and I actually got hurt more than I expected. Anyway, I am HURT beyond belief and just want to go to bed and sleep it off.
As it turns out he told me she was very frail and has tremors. She duped him, she has no tremors. She's feigned illness before to avoid confict and criticism. Anyway, I was panicked when I heard him say that and it escalated into a very unpleasant disagreement. As it turns out he does not think I am "amenable to treatment" and thus my problems cant be solved. I was heartbroken. He never encouraged me and now I know why. My dark is dark enough to mean I cannot recover. Heartbroken. Its like Ive just been told by the fix it expert I cant be fixed.
It feels meaner and crueler than anything that has ever happened to me. I knew him for four years and this is all the help he can give me? Im hurting so bad right now. Ive had broken bones in a car accident that felt better than this.
:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil:
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I am VERY ANGRY that the therapist would BETRAY you that way!!!!! What an !@#$% for him to buy into that N!@#$'s B.S.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is NOT worth anyone's time NOR money!!!!! That's why I want to find a therapist WHO GETS IT about NWomb-Donors and NSperm-Donors!!!!! Other therapists JUST DON'T GET IT and DO MORE HARM THAN GOOD when they buy into the N's B.S. and invalidate the scapegoat once again!!!! F**K THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:
Bones
sKePTiKal:
--- Quote ---My dark is dark enough to mean I cannot recover. Heartbroken. Its like Ive just been told by the fix it expert I cant be fixed.
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Honey, you have been told that BUT that doesn't mean that it's true. You don't have to believe the opinion of someone who was that easily fooled by your Nmom... and you should not, without seriously questioning the validity of that opinion.
Apart from obviously questionable ethics, I am shocked that he doesn't see how he's being used to accomplish Nm's mission. Perhaps his philosophy of therapy is one of the ones that believes everything can be worked out simply by rational discussion. AS IF that were reality in the situations of a lot of us, here. It's incredibly difficult - impossible even - to try to reason with someone in total denial who blames everything on the scapegoat. They aren't being reasonable... so they won't listen to "reason".
He's the wrong therapist for you, Ales. He may not even be the "fix it expert" you expect him to be. Keep looking, though! They are out there. Maybe Nm will continue seeing him... and make him her target... and leave you alone. That sounds like a happy ending for you, right?
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