Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Ales2 on April 24, 2012, 05:03:18 PM
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With Mothers Day approaching there will be plenty of article out there on this subject. Tell me if you agree, but the suggestions in here seem very inadequate and possibly avoid what the interpersonal problem is. Is the daughter no assertive enough? Is the Mother possibly an N or a helicopter parent? Author seems clueless.
Then again, maybe the lesson here is don't read psychology article in the Wall Street Journal.
All the best to everyone on the board.
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Hey Ales... I saw that article yesterday. (do you have a link?) But it seemed irrelevant to the relationships that involve a true PD. So I didn't even scan it - just picked up enough of what it was about, to form the impression that it was suggestions for smoothing out a normal mom-daughter relationship. As such, it had a lot of good suggestions for us moms who have adult kids. But yeah - I totally agree with you about how useless these tips are for dealing with my own mom! THAT's one the big differences of dealing with a parent with a PD; it's way more than she's being difficult, stubborn, head up her butt or whatever.
The WSJ has had some good psych articles and some fluff. One thing I always read with a heavy dose of salt, are the little blurbs about "studies suggest..." because usually those studies are part of a larger body of research - trying to confirm or debunk some tiny detail of what science thinks they know. It'll be awhile longer before those details are cross-referenced with other studies of the same details and some reliability in replicating the results persuades someone to say: this is what it is - what we know/expect/believe - about X. It's almost, just barely, considered a "fact"... because someone will inevitably challenge it or come up with another explanation/theory. It takes a lot of grains of sand like this... to make a beach! So I think scientists probably have the best job security out there! ;)
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http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303592404577361903649660464.html
this is the link.
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Phoenix - You made some excellent points here, thanks.
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Completely useless, I agree :) My mother never suggests anything to be helpful - only to try to upset or hurt me in some way. I truly just ignore her at this point. I see her rarely and talk to her rarely. I feel at peace and have no deisre to have a relationship that just can't be. I have a good and happy life with my daughter. I adore her and pray that we will be happy forever. Even at her moodiest (or mine), we are respectful. There is no love with my mother. She does not know how to love.