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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Lupita on October 13, 2013, 04:12:38 PM

Title: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Lupita on October 13, 2013, 04:12:38 PM: Dear Friends, how canI find my mantra?

Do you know if there is a mantra for everything we want to achieve?

If I want to project an image of peace and joy whatcould be my mantra?

If I want to stay calmed and serene, what would be my mantra?

I am working on my voice, too charged and to loud, I want to have a calmed voice.

Any ideas?

Thank you fiends.
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: lighter on October 13, 2013, 05:37:32 PM: Hi Lupita:

::waving::

I answered your question in an IM.

So glad to see you're back: )

Lighter
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Meh on October 13, 2013, 07:13:34 PM: Well, recently I have been saying to myself these ones, they are relevant to my life I guess and are more about just getting through the day/week/month/year:
I think you know what your mantra is because it makes sense to you.

Those things are all in the past

I'm leaving the past behind

That was a long time ago

Make it simple

Go and find out

I'm allowed to take a break

Waking up early helps me get things done

The only person who benefits from me getting stuff done is me

I'm doing this because it is important to me

I am making back up plans just in case

If you want to change your voice I guess you could just say:

"soft voice"
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: fraidycat on October 16, 2013, 03:25:41 PM: Hi Lupita!!

Iv'e had many mantra's over the years most of mine deal with giving up on caring about people that don't care about me.

The only thing I could come up with is: I can make this happen if I stay positive, trust myself ,stay focused and assertive without being over bearing.

Just knowing what you need to work on is half the battle, keep both feet on the ground and you'll be just fine!
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Hopalong on October 16, 2013, 09:52:48 PM: Hi Lupita,

I'll wait to see if you actually engage and come back, since I've written you here so many times and not heard again...never know if anything made any difference.

Hope you're doing well.

love
Hops
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: fraidycat on October 17, 2013, 07:37:25 PM: One more.. "I will NOT be discouraged" Don't let other peoples issues get in your way!
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Lupita on October 18, 2013, 06:08:41 PM: Thank you Light. Your ideas are wonderful.

Today I got on edge and yelled at school. But kids pushed my bottons, adolescents do, that is their job. To pusg bottons. So, I think I failed today. But will try again tomorrow. I have a nice job now and I do not want to lose it. I mean Monday. I like the school where I am and the kids are descent. Just a few are deifficult. I need to work on my reactions, instead of reacting, just calm and sweet write a referral and send them out.

Thank you Green and Freidicat, I will not be discouraged. I will meditate on Monday morniong and find the focus of my day. It will be to stay cool.

Hop, I am sorry I hurt your feelings. Sometimes I was in so much pain that I could not see the pain of others ro did not have sensitivity to thank other people. Sorry.

I am working on that too. Be more grateful. Little by little. One day at a time.
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Lupita on October 18, 2013, 06:12:59 PM: I alllow nobody to get me off center.
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Hopalong on October 18, 2013, 11:04:31 PM: That's okay, Lupe, and thank you for the thank you!

You are WELCOME.

So glad to hear you're doing meditation...I remember when
you were first considering learning it. That's awesome!

love
Hops
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Hopalong on October 18, 2013, 11:27:22 PM: One thing I've always read and heard about mantras is that your subconscious sucks up word associations like a vacuum and doesn't always interpret them right. So for that reason, I've heard, you always want to phrase a mantra in terms that are POSITIVE. Iow, "nobody" (contains a negative) and "push me off center" (contains "push" and "off center" which are a bit disturbing, perhaps negative to your pysche) -- and perhaps your subconscious could misinterpret these and in some way, instead give energy to the thought "nobody" and to the thought of being "off center..." -- as in, maybe possibly..."I'm a nobody, I'm off-center." (Because the subconscious isn't very reliably logical, just an active collector.)

So by this theory--instead, you'd serve yourself better to say it this way:

I am calm, strong, and centered...

This also keeps the meaning about YOU and your POSITIVE intention for yourself (not on external forces or other "bodies" coming at you from the outside). It empowers you, doesn't empower externals.

xo
Hops
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Meh on October 19, 2013, 12:11:59 AM: Sound advice Hops :)
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: lighter on October 27, 2013, 11:01:25 AM: That's so good, Hops!

Lupe... it always is a revelation for me to ask myself what is bothering whomever is disturbing my serenity at any given moment.....

before I react.

I can check in with my observer self, ask WHY that person is having a bad moment, be grateful I'm having a better moment, and avoid allowing others to transfer their aggression to me.

It's a wonderful affirmation......

"Hmmmmm, I wonder why that person is being such a ______________ today?" Opposed to reacting with negative assumptions, and responses that rise to their level, kwim?

It works in traffic, in public, at restaurants, and with relatives.

BTW, how is your son doing? I haven 't heard anything about him in a very long while, Lupe, and I'm glad to read you're happy with your job: )

Lighter
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: sea storm on June 05, 2014, 03:37:52 AM: I heard one I really felt good about..... I am loved and lovable.....anything else is a lie. Working with adolescents can really batter your self esteem, especially during these times we live in. If your voice is shrill and loud sometimes it means you feel overwhelmed and compassion for yourself is needed. So the self talk would be..Wow, I feel really overwhelmed and find myself yelling in a voice I don;t want to hear. I need to really be nice to myself and love myself now.

Or... Whoa there Nelly! I am giving these little so and sos way too much power over me. I am letting them press my buttons. So thanks kids but no thanks. I am not taking your invitation to be an yelling adult.

Hope that makes sense.

Sea
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: Lupita on July 23, 2014, 07:38:42 PM: Thank you SS.

I am better now with the voice. Now I have to work on my irritation. Irritation provokes the voice to get loud. So, I need not toe irritated. Detached.
Title: Re: Can you help me find a mantra?
Post by: sea storm on November 09, 2014, 01:32:46 AM: very simple one is breathe in, breath out

Say these words as you breathe in slowly and slowly let your breath out