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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Bettyanne on May 08, 2021, 10:53:36 PM

Title: My daughter and her husband trouble in paradise,, hicks
Post by: Bettyanne on May 08, 2021, 10:53:36 PM

I am down in San Francisco and my daughter is acting strange or what ever you want to call it??
She is giving her husband a hard time.  He has been a drug addict but is home and trying vey hard.
I don't know if she is jealous of what is going on??
She is just mad at him yesterday and today
She has been sober herself and now has taken off ??
God I hope she is ok........omg

He tried really hard to calm her down and I don't know if she is jealous of him when he last went out and now is getting even???
He called her Borderline so that didn't go over well with her and he apologized for that

I am so worried about her at the moment .......

any words will helps thanks, Bettyanne

Title: Re: My daughter and her husband trouble in paradise,, hicks
Post by: lighter on May 09, 2021, 01:30:09 AM

There you are, ((Bettyanne.))

I was wonderig how you're doing.

Is this your therapist daughter, or a different one?

I'm sorry things are rough right now.  No advice, except maybe don't take sides.  Echo back to them what they say....so they feel understood.

You didn't create their problems.  You won't be the one to solve them.

Take care if yourself so you can be as responsive and not reactive.

And remember to breathe, Bettyanne.  Deep slow breaths.

How are you doing, outside of the drama.

Is your therapist daughter ok?

Lighter

Title: Re: My daughter and her husband trouble in paradise,, hicks
Post by: Hopalong on May 09, 2021, 08:11:37 AM

((((Bettyanne))))

Are you living with your daughter and son in law?
Can you find a geriatric social worker by asking your therapist for a referral?

I ask because I wonder if you might be happier in a pleasant seniors apartment, instead of stuck in the middle of an unstable child's marriage. And secondly, because it's not good for your health to be around this behavior.

The elders I worked for made friendships in their apartment building and formed a small community that worked like family.

hugs
Hops

Title: Re: My daughter and her husband trouble in paradise,, hicks
Post by: Bettyanne on May 15, 2021, 03:13:20 PM

Things are better.........Its so hard for me, losing my husband and not having him at times like that.....
Thank you all for your responses, I really appreciate them.....

Hopefully things will improve......

Thank you friends...........Bettyanne