Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => What Helps? => Topic started by: Ruth403 on March 24, 2005, 02:50:19 PM
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:cry: Both my Husband and Daughter (by a previous marriage) are Narcissistic. Let me get this out of the way firstly - if I had the money I would be long gone from this marriage and secondly, as hard as it is to deal with my daughter she has been diagnosed with MS, and has two children I will not desert.
I just want to know how to deal with both of them - I am at my wits end.
They both constantly blame me, lie to me, argue with me - true enough, I sometimes argue back. Neither my Husband or Daughter speak to each other, but constantly critisize the other to me.
Please - advice
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Hi Ruth403,
First let me say I am truly sorry for the N's you are having to deal with. Dealing with them is nothing less than insanity. I admire your compassion for your daughter. I'm grateful my Grandmother stayed connected to me. She is one of the reasons for my sanity now.
I have been greatly helped in navigating the world of N's through the 12 steps, I go to Al Anon, and therapy. The N neighborhood is dangerous and I will not travel there alone. I still have a long way to go before I'm done with therapy, but I have gotten a lot better. I do not take insane rides with N's anylonger.
My heart goes out to you. I encourage you to take care of yourself first. You are worth it. What can you do for yourself today? Even a small offering of love to oneself can make a difference in a day.
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Hi Ruth403,
Welcome to this board. You'll get a lot more response and help on the message board above this one. This one is pretty inactive.
Good luck.
mudpup
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Both of those posts are helpful. Hope to see you on the big board.