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Title: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mia on January 15, 2006, 07:16:11 PM

Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers as I battle XN yet again in court.  He is fighting for overnights  during the school week with the children and for a reduction in Child Support....both of which he motioned last year and he was denied.  I am really hoping to get my attorney fees this time since X N is doing nothing more than Judge shopping.  It's costing me another 4,000.00 to keep this monster at bay.

I'm feeling the stress right now and was hoping to feel a little love from the fine folks on board here.

I don't get a chance to post that often and for that I apologize.

Thanks all.
Mia

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Brigid on January 15, 2006, 07:51:32 PM

Mia,
Sending light and love your way and prayers that the a$$hole falls off the face of the earth (that is what we hoped would happen, right??)

I'm so sorry for what he is puting you through.  How are the kids holding up?

Blessings and hugs,

Brigid

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mum on January 15, 2006, 08:45:11 PM

Mia: I am right there with you, like a powerful angel, I've got your back. Take heart, you are doing love's work, and that is never easy.  Your children are young, and you are doing what you must to make things right for them. He will not succeed in this.
Courage is not about feeling no fear. Courage is being afraid, but doing what you must anyway.
Goodness and light surround you, brave woman!!!!

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Hopalong on January 15, 2006, 10:23:03 PM

You've got them, Mia.
Thoughts, prayers and love.

Remember you don't walk in there alone.
I'm sorry its a slugfest and admire your courage.

Hopalong

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: 2224Jessica on January 15, 2006, 11:03:57 PM

To Mia,
I can't even begin to understand how you are feeling, I can only imagine. I have two beautiful children of my own and my heart goes out to you... I will be thinking of you and praying for you as you go through this horrible ordeal. You have amazing strength and courage. 
Love Jessica

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Plucky on January 15, 2006, 11:12:11 PM

Oh Mia,
you are saddled with an idiot.  at least you have your beautiful children out of it.  Well, if he has so much to spend on attorney fees, why does he need a reduction in support?  What are the numbers? Does he spend more on lawyers than he would save on the reduction?  If you are going for attorney fees, get time off work, etc in the bargain.  Don't worry, I think it ought to be obvious to anyone what an ass he is.   I send you strength and light and truth to battle this nutcase.  And keep calm.  Don't let him extract the price of your serenity from you as well.
A Sharklike
Plucky

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Cadbury on January 16, 2006, 04:28:26 PM

Love and hugs to you Mia... I have an exN of my own that is being a total ass through the courts. I hope everything goes well for you. I will be thinking of you,

Cadbury

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: tammy on January 16, 2006, 07:37:12 PM

Hi Mia,

Don't ever give up.  These narcissist men are relentless in trying to get their way.  I know all too well and I have been dragged through the mud by my ex. 

Take care of yourself and stay strong

Good Luck
Tammy

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mia on January 16, 2006, 08:43:05 PM

I can't tell you how much your support means to me.  Reading the responses has really been an uplifiting experience me.  It's like my own little personal pep rally. 

Thanks Tammy, Cadbury, Plucky, Jessica, Hopalong, mum, and Brigid.
Truly, you have all put me in a better place mentally.

Cadbury...I remember your story.  How is the baby doing?  I battled the X N during my pregnancy with my 5 yo and the war continues. I pray that you won't suffer the same fate.

Plucky, ...X N would rather pay an attorney thousands of dollars than pay me a penny of child support. He's a very sick man. Doesn't care that the kid's college $$ is going out the window.

Brigid...the kids are doing remarkably well considering what's going on.  I try to shield them as much as possible. 

Hugs to everyone and THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. 

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: onlyrenting on January 16, 2006, 08:53:28 PM

Mia, Sending you strength and peace about what ever the outcome.

Im working on flight plans back to CA court, I must face my EX after 10mos. He too has his priorities and idea about money all messed up too.
The thought of seeing him gives me a headache and when my daughter tells me to say hello to her dad and give him a hug for her I just don't know what to say.

The money part is very stressful puts me in a bad mood and having to think of seeing him drums up all kinds of emotions. I will keep you in mind these next few weeks as I prepare for court and having to spend money I don't have to fly back to CA to sign the divorce papers.

Current OSC, allows me physical and  leagal custody with supervised visits. I don't think the judge will change this part and maybe my N-ex will try and change it, we will see what happens on the 31st.
He says he will never give up and try until he gets custody....

Hang in there will be thinking of you and your victory over the N ...............OR

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mia on January 16, 2006, 09:31:46 PM

OR,

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as your day in court approaches.  Sorry that you have to go through this too and that you have to travel to do it. 

(OR and daughter)

Mia

Title: hugs to mia and or
Post by: Plucky on January 17, 2006, 12:53:53 AM

Massive hugs to Mia and OR!

OR, look at it this way.  The divorce is priceless!  What wouldn't you pay to be legally quit of this jerk?   TRy to just keep yourself calm.  You have your lovely daughter and your sanity.   He will never have either.

Mia, good luck!
Plucky

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Marta on January 17, 2006, 02:31:15 AM

[flash=200,200]Good luck to Mia and OR.......[/flash]

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Cadbury on January 17, 2006, 04:25:50 AM

Hi Mia,

Baby is the most beautiful bundle of joy. Such a happy little boy. He is at his plump and edible stage :D which is divine. He sees his sperm donor once a week for an hour. I stay in the room. all this will change soon as exN is breaching a court order by not providing medical evidence asked for in August. I am getting better at being mean! I haven't posted much because I really find it a struggle sometimes. I lurk around and read things and that helps.

I hope that this will all be over soon... for all of us! ExN is trying to build a rocket that will make NASA obselete (can we say grandiose ideas of self-importance anyone???!!) so he will hopefully be moving away from us soon. (I pray, anyhow).

I hope all of us that are still suffering at the hands of an exN idiot get peace before too long.

Hugs everyone ...

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Hopalong on January 17, 2006, 09:35:21 AM

Mia, OR, Cadbury...

Amazing there's room in a courtroom or contact center for a shriveled little N once you cram in the horde of invisible supporters hovering around you.

(Let us know when we should knee 'em in the nads. They'll be really startled.)

YOU ARE STRONG.

Hops

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mum on January 17, 2006, 12:01:57 PM

Hey, just put this on the wrong post, but the sentiment remains the same: this solidarity (OR, Cadbury, Mia)
 is POWER.

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mudpuppy on January 19, 2006, 02:52:07 PM

Cadbury,

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ExN is trying to build a rocket that will make NASA obselete (can we say grandiose ideas of self-importance anyone???!!) so he will hopefully be moving away from us soon.

That's hilarious. :lol: Has he got a Buck Rogers decoder ring too?

If we're lucky he'll succeed. Then he and all the other pod people can fly back home to the Nutter Nebula or Planet Butthead or wherever it is they came from. :P

mud

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Cadbury on January 19, 2006, 04:21:28 PM

 :lol: Mudpuppy!

It is so funny now, but when I was with him I was not allowed to question him at all. We even had a really awful fight when I said I wouldn't go up in his rocket....

TH: WHAT???? What do you mean you wouldn't go up to space in my rocket?
Me: I mean, I wouldn't go up to space in anyrocket. Not even if NASA asked me
TH: My rocket will be better than anything NASA have built (beginning to pout)
Me: Well, I still wouldn't go up in it
TH:I can't believe you won't go up in my rocket. DOn't you trust me?


Then it kind of escalated into a huge row, where I was (apparently) showing my lack of respect to him by refusing to go into space in his rocket. That he hasn't even built yet.

It sounds so funny now, but it really wasn't at the time. I can't believe I was so wrapped up in his insane world that I spent hours trying to convince him that I did trust him, that it was my problem that I didn't want to go to space not his..... Madness!!!

Mia I hope everything is okay tomorrow, best of luck. I will be thinking of you ... hugs


Oh, one more thing, I just remembered. After we had broken up and he was still pestering me, he came round to my house with a plastic model of a rocket he had made... Apparently to show me what I was missing out on........

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Hopalong on January 19, 2006, 09:23:23 PM

Cabury,

"Doesn't Daddy wanna pway wif his wittle wocket?"

"Do we want Daddy to go 'way and pway wif his wittle wocket? Ooo yesss we doooo!"

"Yes, Daddy's all wobbly in his head, he's wight off his wocker!"

"That's wight, Daddy needs to go to Hisanus on a one-way wocket..."

PHWOOSHHHHHHH....

afterburners!!!

 :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :mrgreen:

Wuv and wuck tomorrow!
Hopalong

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Sela as guest on January 19, 2006, 10:51:07 PM

I'm sorry.  You guys have me in stitches!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Then it kind of escalated into a huge row, where I was (apparently) showing my lack of respect to him by refusing to go into space in his rocket. That he hasn't even built yet.

I swear!  I know it wasn't funny then.......but by jeez.......I just about died laughing now!

And then I read Hoppy's "Hisanus" and my head fell off and rolled across the floor, I was roaring so loud!!

Mia!

I'm saying a very long prayer for you tonight.  No joking involved.  And I just know God will understand, if I happen to giggle inbetween .......for He will understand....that I can't help myself....after reading this page of this thread.
Best of luck Mia!  Keep your chin up!!  My thoughts are with you!  Hope it goes very well!

 :D Sela

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Sela as guest on January 19, 2006, 10:53:36 PM

PS:

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...Nutter Nebula or Planet Butthead or wherever it is they came from.

Hoi.  Heeheeheeheeheehaahahahahaa!!  I'm dying!!

 :D

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mia on January 20, 2006, 07:30:28 AM

Well, the preliminary ruling came down yesterday and the Judge gave ex N everything he was asking for.  It's a new Judge who just so happens used to be the county solicitor who worked with X N's father in the county.  XN's dad was the director of the county's health dept.
Hmmm...a special favor?

This is the first time a Judge ever ruled against me like this and I have been to court 6 + times.  My attorney has an opportunity to argue this morning in court but usually the judges stick to their preliminary decisions.

I am so sick over this.  THe kids will be spending more time with him...school overnights.

Keep praying though...I'm not ruling out a miracle yet. 

God bless all.

Mia

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Hopalong on January 20, 2006, 07:31:00 AM

Mia

Forgive me for getting your and Cadbury's Nmen court/center moments mixed up there for a bit...
I think I'd just like to put them BOTH on a rocket and send them you know where.

I am sending you prayers and support for this tough day.

Please post as soon as you can to tell us how it went, and try not to worry.

(((((Mia)))))

Hopalong

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Hopalong on January 20, 2006, 08:04:40 AM

God, Mia, I am so sorry to hear that.
Is there any way you can appeal?
Do you have a good lawyer who can fight it with you?
The idea of the favortism makes me sick.

I'll pray for a miracle too.
(So sorry for joking around on this thread, you're really in a terribly painful situation and I shouldn't have veered off...jokes are good but I should've put them in a separate place, that's all.) I'll watch it.

Sending love and support.
Please keep us posted.

Hopalong

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Brigid on January 20, 2006, 09:28:58 AM

Mia,
I'm still praying that this idiot judge will come to his senses.  I feel so badly for the kids.  Hang in there kiddo.

Hugs and blessings,

Brigid

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Plucky on January 20, 2006, 01:10:41 PM

Oh no Mia,
This is so wrong.  Do not give up.  Please try to have the strength to keep fighting and stay centered for the children.
Don't judges with personal ties to the people involved have to recuse themselves?
Is there anyone in your X's past who has similar ties but can provide some evidence to this judge that he is unstable?
I am so sorry this happened!  It seemed impossible, just because it is so wrong.
((((((Mia))))))))))
Plucky

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Cadbury on January 20, 2006, 01:47:48 PM

Oh Mia,

I am so sorry to hear that. I will pray so so so hard for the miracle you want. I cannot believe people like your ex get away with so much....

Hugs to you - stay strong

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: aj on January 20, 2006, 04:54:33 PM

Mia,

Are your children siding with your ex?  If you think that they might be even just a little please google parental alienation syndrome.

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Sela on January 20, 2006, 05:23:18 PM

So sorry to hear this Mia.

Keeping you in my prayers and hoping for a major change for the better.

((((((((Mia))))))))))

Sela

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mia on January 20, 2006, 08:50:20 PM

I feel my attorney represented me well today in court.  The Judge appeared to be willing to reconsider his preliminary.  He advised my lawyer that he will review it and will make a conference call on Monday with both attorneys. I feel this is a good sign b/c normally a Judge finalizes his decision right there and then at the court hearing. My lawyer seems optimistic as well.

There is a possibility for appeal if the preliminary decision ends up standing and my attorney's partner is one of the best appeal lawyers in the state...so I would have him do it.  It won't be cheap but it's something I would need to do.

I have faith today.... It's A gift I  that a friend reminded me about and helped point me in the Right direction.

I guess I'll be posting the final ruling on Monday.  My life at times is a soap opera so it's appropriate that today would be a "cliffhanger Friday".
 :wink:   But whatever the ruling may be....I will not let it stop me from finding peace.

Re: PAS....no the children don't side with ex and are distraught over the time they currently spend with him.
If it were left to them they wouldn't leave to visit him.  In fact , my daughter wants me to take her to court with me so that she can tell the Judge she doesn't like going to Dad's house.  Unfortunately, the kids are only 5 and 8 and the Judge would listen but wouldn't act on anything they requested. 

Thanks for all the support, positive thoughts,  vibes, hugs, and prayers.  I'll take anything I can get.  Keep hope alive my friends.

God bless.
mia

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: onlyrenting on January 20, 2006, 10:09:01 PM

Mia, I'm so sorry...

Get your rest to keep your strength to continue the fight.
I will say many many  prayers for this judge to open his eyes and heart for the children. We know you are a very bright woman and will find away to have your rights heard.

Hugs to your children and hugs to you too.     OR

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: mum on January 21, 2006, 12:49:35 AM

still with ya, Mia! Strength, peace, love and light.....and all thoughts for a positive resolution soon.

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: movinon on February 01, 2006, 07:28:23 PM

MIa,

I am sending support and positive energy your way.  You kids are so lucky to have a mom that fights so hard to protect them.  Kepp on keepin' on!

Movinon

Title: Re: Court coming up this Friday
Post by: Hopalong on February 01, 2006, 07:37:49 PM

Ditto everything, Mia.
Sending support and strength for your appeal.

Hops