Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: movinon on May 06, 2006, 03:19:44 PM
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Hi all,
I wanted to offer this to the forum. A lot of people , when describing feelings, find it difficult to describe the actual feeling - especaillly if they are triggered and want to put the blame elsewhere. While there are some feeling words that end in -ed, try to avoid accessively using the negatives (persecuted, shamed, devalued) as this puts the shift ONTO someone else and we all know that we are powerless over others. This is not an attempt to tell anyone they are doing anything wrong, it's just an attempt to help us work on OURSELVES and gain awareness so that we can move forward.
Cheers!
FEELINGS LIST
Love Excited Caring
Hate Surprised Carefree
Anger Shocked Fear
Frustration Afraid Mean
Guilt Important Aggressive
Anxiety Rejected(tion) Irritated(tion)
Worry Depressed Justified
Hurt Nervous Defensive
Confused(sion) Grief Dependent
Curious Inadequate Isolated(tion)
Hopeless Disappointed(ment) Alone
Hopeful Lonely Independent
Appreciative Bored Trapped
Helpless Blamed Powerful
Overwhelmed Self-Doubt Needed
Pressured Deserted(tion) Needy
Sure Betrayed Confident
Unsure Peaceful Wanted
Satisfied Shameful Secure
Relief Enthusiastic Insecure
Joy Empty Cautious
Scared Mad Vulnerable
Hostility Sympathetic Tender
Confusion Embarrassed Loving
Aggravated Shy Rage
Protective Terror Accepted
Possessive Abused Nurturing
Happy Misunderstood Weak
Sad Proud Deceived
Self-Defeating Disgusted Content
Movinon
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Hi Movinon,
Thanks for sharing this list. I'd never thought about the fact that the feeling words ending in -ed shift the blame to others. Most interesting! One of the most liberating facts I've learned over the past few years is that no one can "make" me feel anything. That's such a simple truth, but it had escaped me for most of my life. For a time, I think I'd shut my feelings down altogether rather than even deal with them, but the stagnation of numbness and living in denial gave the effect of being a zombie :? That's a lonely place to be. Only just now I'm learning that feelings are neither good or bad, they simply are. I can choose how to respond to them instead of reacting and allowing them to control me. Just this past week, I had an opportunity to be really embarassed about something dumb I did. My stomach wiggled for a bit as I dealt with the ramifications of having to face a group of people I'd accidentally inconvenienced, but I survived. For once, I was able to forgive myself for not being perfect and actually receive the forgiveness of the group for my own carelessness. OK... well, I brought them all donuts, as well, as a peace offering ~ lol. Anyhow, it wasn't a huge deal because I didn't blow it all out of proportion and tell myself a whole line of negative rhetoric about what a fool I was to make such a mistake. Sometimes it feels like growing up all over again, going through adolescence and all. But I'd rather experience this than to be hollow and dead inside. Besides, my view of God as He's revealed Himself to me in His Word is that He's an emotional God. I believe that part of our being made in His image is the fact that we have emotions, too. I sure don't want to waste any good gift that He's given me :D
Umm... sorry if I'm talking too much. Feels good to share, though. It's been a long time. Thanks for listening.
Hope
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I don't think I'm known for my inability to express feelings now :) but one thing I noticed when years ago is how often when you ask someone how they feel and they say 'I think...' rather than 'I feel'.
It's difficult for people who were raised to surpress or deny their feelings to acknowledge them even to themselves.
Right now I feel
tired
happy
a bit anxious about my next job on Monday
I tend to live very much in the moment, which is interesting with bipolar, because I also have to learn to disregard feelings when they're part of a pattern of mood swings.
The worst feelings I guess for me have been some regret, a mixture of lost opportunities and disappointment.
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Thanks you guys for sharing. Obviously, there are LOTS of other feelings words that can be used. I find that since I've gotten awareness of the shift with the "blaming" feelings, it's been easier to work on myself.
ReallyMe - This thread is NOT about YOU. Please do not hijack this thread. If you want to vent, start your own thread.
Movinon
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This is good, solid, useful stuff, movinon. Thanks for posting it. Lots of food for thought and change :-)
I agree xx
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Nice topic :D.
Right now I'm feeling:
Blamed
Misunderstood
Confused
Defensive
Aggravated
Hurt
Frustrated
Alienated
Shocked
:(
Oh well, that about covers it for now. Sorry to make this about me.
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Hi Marisa,
Sorry you're feeling such strongly painful stuff.
Does it link up to anything in your past?
((((Marisa))))
Hops
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Thanks for your concern. It is nothing new for me to feel this way. My in-laws have a lot to do with it. I do most certainly feel that I have no voice with them.. I have a long history of depression in my life. Although I'm not dealing with the very serious depression of my teen years I do feel that I am in a sort of depression now. It does help to be able to vent on this board though. It helps to get those feelings out. This is a 'down' day and things seem to affect me more on these days.
But thank you ((((Hops)))) for your kind words.
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Right now I am feeling irritated, frustrated, sad, angry, despondent, discouraged, degraded
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Hey ReallyMe, I'm sorry you feel that bad. You and I have certainly disagreed, but we really need to move past this if we can. Would you like to do that?