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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: penelope on July 21, 2006, 09:23:57 PM

Title: Feeling Bullied? Words to Fight Bullying
Post by: penelope on July 21, 2006, 09:23:57 PM

http://www.bullyonline.org/action/words.htm

"Your criticisms and allegations are a projection of your own failings and shortcomings. I ask you not to project them on to me."

Think you'd get a blank stare on this one?   :shock:

Title: Re: Feeling Bullied? Words to Fight Bullying
Post by: Healing&Hopeful on July 22, 2006, 02:47:12 AM

Hi Penelope

Hmmmm.... I don't think it would have worked on my old boss.  He was one of these that liked to shout people down in front of everyone, stole other peoples ideas etc, you probably know the type.

If I'd said this to him, he would have said what a load of mumbo, and not made any difference.

Speaking of him though, my BIL handed his notice in and left last week... he hasn't been paid for his last week of work, or his holiday pay which was outstanding.  This boss said he was in breach of contract for not handing in a full month's notice from a contract he signed in 1993.  He went to see him yesterday, and pointed out that the company are in breach for this, this, this and this... apparently he was left there opened mouthed.  He really does think his employees or ex employees are thick and will just take what he dishes out.  You wouldn't believe the amount of chaos and office politics one man can cause!

Take care

Love H&H xx

Title: Re: Feeling Bullied? Words to Fight Bullying
Post by: reallyME on July 22, 2006, 07:30:57 AM

Actually, I think that sounds rather rude to say to ANYONE!  The response you will get would be similar to the response you'd GIVE if that were said to you as a non-N...HOW DARE YOU!  WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE WHETHER I HAVE SHORTCOMINGS AND FAILINGS IN MY LIFE!

That's most likely what will happen using those words, in my opinion

Title: Re: Feeling Bullied? Words to Fight Bullying
Post by: Magnolia44 on July 22, 2006, 01:22:36 PM

Great link P.  I really like the advice about writing a letter to combat a problem person.  Very helpful for other stuff I am working on.
Thanks,
Mag

Title: Re: Feeling Bullied? Words to Fight Bullying
Post by: Sela on July 22, 2006, 10:36:36 PM

 Feeling Bullied?

Yep.  :(

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Pause and ignore any blustering. Then carry on...

Doing my best.

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The word "victim" allows bullies and their supporters, apologists and deniers to tap into and stimulate other people's prejudices and preconceived notions about "victimhood".

Nope.  I'm not a victim.  I'm ok.

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"I'm sorry you choose to think/act/feel/behave/perceive me like that".

Should have read here before now.  :roll:

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Thank you for sharing your views

Some of these might have been of use.

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"Will you shout that one past me again please?"

 :D  thankyou for this thread.

Sela