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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: penelope on September 10, 2006, 01:22:53 AM

Title: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: penelope on September 10, 2006, 01:22:53 AM

I just wanted to say that thanks to all the support I've received here, I decided to go ahead and meet my brother and his wife (& their two boys) for dinner with my b/f tonight.  It went fine.  It was actually fun!

We did talk about our parents, just a little bit.  He mentioned that when he calls Dad, Dad doesn't say much on the phone, acts bored or disinterested (typical N)... he also brought up how our Mom offered to walk his boys to school once a week (she lives close to their school), and how they agreed on a day - Tuesday.  But in typical N fashion, when the day came, she called to cancel, saying she wasn't able to do it for some lame reason... so he said "to heck with her!"

I did manage to fit into the conversation, somehow (it was a little tough talking with 2 kids and 2 other chatty adults at the table), that "there's a good chance I won't be talking to them [our folks]..for - awhile."  He gave me the nod of understanding and we agreed that it was all a "game" to them.

Anyway, I was very surprised, but it appears my brother and sister-in-law may have come to the same place regarding our parents.  I thought it was very interesting, as he is the second and I'm the third, the traditional Scapegoat and Lost Child positions...

It felt so good to be validated by a family member.

p bean

Title: Re: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: Hopalong on September 10, 2006, 01:29:32 AM

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"there's a good chance I won't be talking to them [our folks]..for - awhile."  He gave me the nod of understanding and we agreed that it was all a "game" to them

I'm soooooooooooooo glad for you, Bean!  :D :D :D

Hops

Title: Re: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: teartracks on September 10, 2006, 01:31:12 AM

Pb,

My heart is just jumping for joy!  I'm so happy for you and your brother and his brood.  Progress!  Happy progress!

tt

Title: Re: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: moonlight52 on September 10, 2006, 02:42:12 AM

Pbean    I am sooooooooooooooooooooooo very glad too .
moon

Title: Re: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: Stormchild on September 10, 2006, 09:04:18 AM

This is great, penelope bean!

Title: Re: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: Certain Hope on September 10, 2006, 09:36:31 AM

Pb  :D

Wonderful news, this is! I'm tickled pink for you and also so relieved.
Hearing this has gotten me off to a great start today. Thank you for sharing your happiness.

Big hugs,
Hope

Title: Re: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: Magnolia44 on September 10, 2006, 09:48:05 AM

Ah, that is so good that you have a sibling that understands. I know it makes it much easier!

Title: Re: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: Gaining Strength on September 10, 2006, 08:34:24 PM

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Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine

HURRAY!!

What great news!!!  I am so excited for you! -Gaining Strength

Title: Re: Dinner with Brother, his Wife & Kids Went Fine
Post by: gratitude28 on September 10, 2006, 08:37:30 PM

What awesome news!!!!!!!!
Thanks so much for sharing with us!!!!!!!!!
Love, Beth