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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: moonlight52 on January 01, 2007, 03:25:08 PM

Title: bulling or boundaries
Post by: moonlight52 on January 01, 2007, 03:25:08 PM

message clear do not talk about the abuse or else...................................

one method    That I am crazy ( big sis left and she is not bipolar and she speaks of  the abuse)

what ever it takes to keep there image intact....................n's will use anything to hide who they are...

All lies and what I do not understand is how they go to church on Sunday and speak in prayer with all those lies......
 I say I only want to heal do I have the right not to keep their secrets do I have the right to heal ie live.....??????

Title: Re: bulling or boundaries
Post by: moonlight52 on January 01, 2007, 03:44:29 PM

Stuff and feelings are worn as thin as they can be I just want foo to know

 everyone I care for and everyone that loves me backs me up...

 the methods used on my big sister will not  work Do they not know how they sound to people ?

because I do not lie.....and neither did she

I will protect my children


moon

Title: Re: bulling or boundaries
Post by: lupine on January 01, 2007, 04:06:50 PM

I say I only want to heal do I have the right not to keep their secrets do I have the right to heal ie live.....??????

You have the right to tell it like it was or is.  Remember the old saying:  You're only as sick as your secrets.

Title: Re: bulling or boundaries
Post by: moonlight52 on January 01, 2007, 04:34:43 PM

Thank you lupine

I want to protect my children

and just any sign

that I will just be left alone

but if I have to I know the truth will protect me

moon

Title: Re: bulling or boundaries
Post by: moonlight52 on January 01, 2007, 05:11:54 PM

Hi CB   

Thanks for the support .

But you see you give me far too much credit for being clever Do I KNOW enough when to stand and when to walk away??????????

All I want is for wxyz to back away and find some other prey....As to when to make a stand I have All I want is peace and to be left alone

If that does not occur Well Dr K will advise me she knows all the history and is very well respected here in town.

I want only kind positive attachments and not this mess of tangled emotions.......

love to you

moon

Title: Re: bulling or boundaries
Post by: pennyplant on January 01, 2007, 07:59:23 PM

Quote from: moonlight on January 01, 2007, 05:11:54 PM

I want only kind positive attachments and not this mess of tangled emotions.......

One knot at a time, Moon, and soon it will be a manageable mess, and soon after that.... gone.

Pennyplant

Title: Re: bulling or boundaries
Post by: moonlight52 on January 01, 2007, 09:14:41 PM

oh Pennyp

I some how know what you say is true

( I will be fine I just do not want my kids hurt )

I am hoping knowing children are involved this may make wxyz back off .

I do not wish any negative attachments in my life.....

the worse pain was always listening to my brother's cry's

I am ok I am fine and only want the best for all love to you

moon

Title: Re: bulling or boundaries
Post by: Hopalong on January 01, 2007, 10:01:58 PM

Moon,
Would it possibly help you to run some specific scenarios here?
For example, unexpected visits...what does he do? Appear on the porch?
Bang on the door?

Then what do you do?

(I'm not saying you have to slam the door in his face. That might be too much for you right away.)

But how does he contact you? Phone calls?

Does he make demands? What kinds of things does he say to you?

(Don't feel you need to answer any question at all if it doesn't feel right to.
I am just wondering if a little role-playing could help you.)

Hugs,
Hops

Title: Re: bulling or boundaries
Post by: seasons on January 01, 2007, 10:34:20 PM

 ((Love and Hugs to our precious Moonlight))

seasons....listening and learning gently