Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: reallyME on February 15, 2007, 02:10:30 PM
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I just got the book "Children of the Self-Absorbed" and BOY IS IT GOOD!
I also read "Working with the Self-Absorbed" also a really good one!
I am doing well. I have taken up working out at the fitness center nearby with my 13 year old daughter. I also take clogging class once a week now, and I own the restaurant still. Life is good for me, but sometimes I still miss C. Something about certain people. Even when they hurt you, they still seem to have a part of you that you never will get back. Know what I mean? I pray for her once in a while and I always hope that God is helping her work out her issues too. I have no more bad, angry, vengeful feelings against her or her family anymore. I just feel like the entire time with her...about a year and a half, was nothing more than a dream.
~Laura
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Hi Laura,
It's good to hear from you. Isn't it amazing the difference a couple of years can make? It is good that you got away from her, though. Now you have a real life and a real self. I agree, though, that you do miss these people. They get inside somehow. But distance is better in the long run. Healthier and safer.
Pennyplant
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Laura,
Good to see you back and hear that you are well. How are your classes going? There was an interesting topic posted on the Stolkhom Syndrome today on the What Helps place...........might make some sense to you about still missing Xfriend.
axa
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I agree on the insights from the Stockholm Syndrome information. I read through that and certain sections applied to my "relationship" with N-co-worker. That surprised me. It was subtle but it was definitely there. So that was how the "bond" occurred. Kind of de-mystified things for me.
Pennyplant
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Hey Laura: Good to see your name!! Looks like you are doing well. Usually when everything is ok, I post less here. I ordered the books - Wizard of Oz and other Narcissists and also Trapped in the Mirror.......they should be here in a couple days........am excited to read them!!!
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Hi Laura!
Missed you and thought of you, so glad you've popped back.
So you're working out, enjoying your daughter, reading terrific books, and find yourself farther along the path?
This is such good news.
Really glad to hear it, RM!
Hops
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Hey Laura well done!
It's great you can work out with your d too, wish my son would come with me but it's not cool to hang around with mum right now!
Time heals all things...not sure that's entirely true but time and love prayer probably covers it!
Take care ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
~W
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Great to hear from you all again too! I was begining to wonder if I was invisible :)
I was in a car accident last night and am really hurting today from the impact. Please keep me in your prayers and thoughts if you will. I went and had x-rays at the chiropractor, as well as an adjustment, and I'm hoping the 600 mg of ibuprofen will help soon, but so far, the pain has not stopped.
~Laura
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oh no, hope you feel better soon ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Yoicks, RM, so sorry about the crash.
I hope you heal up fast.
Hops
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yep, I'm feeling much better since the car accident. I went to the chiropractor and am going back this week a couple more times.
Thanks for all your prayers, thoughts and well-wishes.
~Laura
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((((((((Laura))))))))))
Hope you feel better really soon.
Love,
dazed
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Laura,
I am new. I do not know who is C. Where can I read about that? I want to know about you too. You had a nice answer for me in one of my posts.
Thank you.
Lupita
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C was a person in my past, a mentor, who because of her own upbringing in a ministry home, had some behaviors that were disturbing to me. I have made peace about the situation as much as I know how to, so I don't talk about it anymore in depth. I still miss her and think about and pray for her. I still wonder if someday she won't contact me again and we'd be able to talk honestly and work through some things. I still long for her to heal from the pain in her past and to face some things about herself and her family, but I have predominantly decided to leave things in the hands of God. Just being honest with you.-
~Laura
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Thank you for your honesty. I also had a huge disappointment about the minister of my church or better called ex church. I wish you the best.
Lupita
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Lupita,
I think the hardest thing I've ever experienced was the disappointment that the people I believed really loved me and cared for me in my past, turned out to eventually leave me and not be who I thought they were. It's a gradual process, where the people seem to be your bosom buddies and then slowly you see sides of them that you start questioning and wondering about, till the tables turn, and, instead of them talking against someone else badly, YOU are their victim. I remember just sitting and thinking about why things were turning out that way again for me. I questioned if I was such a bad person that this could keep happening...then, I began seeing the problem, yet, when I tried to address it with them, I ended up feeling like I was being too sensitive and not forgiving enough, etc, when I knew that my heart was really in the right place from the start. They leave you feeling totally confused, hurt, betrayed and bewildered, really. Just remember, unless you are SURE that you did something against someone with cruel intent, as my daughter often says..."it's on THEM." Forgive, bless them and then do your best to find YOU again and move forward with HOPE of better days ahead.
~Laura