Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: isittoolate on March 10, 2007, 03:43:47 PM
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March 10 I realized I have "critical thinking" and that is good. This was discovered throught the Post "The Hidden Secret wherein the discussion is about "rip off schemes". It was Sincerity and Hopalong who started me on this and I'll see if I can do it! One good point a day.
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hi all,
Perhaps we can make this a positive thread and everyone can post the good points they see in themselves, like the next one I might do is:
I am punctual-- I always leave home in time to take into consideration the elevator, the red lights, street construction, to arrive for my appointment. I have done this all my life because I don't want to be considered a 'slacker' and be criticized for being late.
Izzy
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Hi Izzy I love this. I am very hard worker. And very disciplined. :)
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Good Lupita
Now tell us WHY you are a hard worker and are disciplined.
Did this come from 'fear' or just as a normal part of you? I too am a hard worker and am disciplined but this was drilled into me with a razor strap when I was very young.
Thanks
This is fun (and I got 3 points here in one day.)
Izzy
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I'm fair. Even if I start to get hysterical I will calm myself to listen before I make a decision to drop the bomb. I listen before I act but I will act if necessary.
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Good for you deb,
For me? I don't know how to get angry or what to say, so inside it goes to the lock-box.
Thanks for contributing
Love
Izzy
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Izzy,
Get rid of that lock box. It gave me high blood pressure. Like a pressure cooker.
Love
Deb
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AHA deb
....like a pressure cooker--good one. With the help of my new therapist I hope to rid myslf of the lock-box and all the contents will fill me with good things: feelings I can identify, ways to have a disagreement and not end it in hate to never speak again, etc.--some kind of human behaviour instead of being robotic!
Understand the past better with some empathy for my parents and grandparents and the way they were raised.
lotsa goodies!
xxoo
Izzy
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Those are one of the things that I have to thank my parents for. Discipline is difficult to leanr as an adult. Children can learn through modeling from parents, example, and punishment too. I got it from all of the above. We should not give children an option about postponing work, because if you ask a child what do you want, chocolate or vegetables, the child will choose candy. So, it is, first you eat your vegetables and if, and only if, you do your part then you get your positive reinforcement of candy. So, fear of punishmente, sometimes has its good results, but I truely deeply think that it is the correct way if instead of fear it could be replaced as a consequense and not fear. But always a healthy fear makes us coutious, makes us learn from experience, lack of fear produces stupidity, lack of fear produces imprudence, and dangerous actions.
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What a wonderful idea and thread Izzy
Yesterday after reading, I realize that my good point was that which nurtured and built my sense of self - being the Lost Child.
That's the reason I had a sense of self, in the midst of it all, which birthed in me my other good point - Resilience.
I have been greedy and posted two points! Naughty me.
Lost Souls in a dysfunctional family, maybe lonely souls, seeking solitary existences as children - or not. I did have many friends at school but not allowed out to play at home, so no opportuinty there. Lost Souls are prone to be spiritual when they spend all that time alone and in quietness. It certainly did have it's pluses. Our spiritual and mental potential can actually be overdeveloped, even if our social potential is underdeveloped. Also, we tend to be independent, making it easier for us to cope with the normal difficulties of life. Hence, Resilience!
Thanks Izzy for this opportunity for us all to look and find some good points.
Leah xx
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I am honest. I am punctual. I am thin(soon)
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OK, I'll "neigh" in on this!
I am loyal and forgiving. I love being punctual.
tt
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I am honest.
That was not always considered a positive thing in my family.
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STILL Is not in mine!
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I am resourceful?
Seems to have been that way when I was younger, but yesterday I ate something that didn't agree with me. Kraft's hot and spicy bread spread.
I was burping with a bad after taste and had stomach pains, rellieved by expelling gas the other way. I was weak.
I had to get out of bed three times to go, was weak and half asleep. The 3:30 am trip, I forgot to put my brakes on and gracefully ended up on the floor. Now what? I tried all kinds of things, but ususally can go from the floor to the bed.
The I shoved the mattress off the box spring, raised myself that far, then from there to the mattress.
I once climbed up to the kitchen cupboard and wrote my name in the dust--just to show my cleaning gal that I knew.
I'm going to have to lay down again: bear with me
xxoo
Izzy
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Back
I came to the conclusion is was an overdose of sunflower seeds on the 10th. Had a bad case of the 'back-doore- trots" and I guess I never chewed all the seeds. I still have a pain my my gut, but feel much better.
I was so weak I fell out of the wheelchair three times, and once lost my balance but caught it to slice my finger on the bottom of the refrigerator,
Going to the ballet tonight! resiliency?
Izzy
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Hero Izzy,
It must be damn hard having an "ordinary" illness in a chair.
I truly admire your ingenuity and determination.
You're such a scrapper. Feel better soon!!!
Hops
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Hops,
Am feeling better now, and stronger.
I bought a new wheelchair last summer and it just isn't right-- Why? I am still trying to figure it out!
All together, I was on the floor 3 times. 2 on the bedroom and one in the bathroom. I noticed, finally. that with the brakes on, the chair still slides a bit. I also always feel I am going to fall out of it! I have measured everything against the old chair and the measurements are the same.
Tonight I went to the ballet. I put the footrests from my new chair on my old chair and I felt safer.-- Weird. More measuring is needed.
I am creative
Love Izzy
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Thanks tt
I bookmarked it, with a few other URLs and have some reading to do.
I don't think of avoidancy as belonging in a disorder category such as PPD, NPD etc. There is a 'disorder', but it is not a dangerous one, except perhaps for the extremes who go for suicide~
The former have an avoidant personality style~~ this is more me I would think. but read my new post--I might be dog meat!
love
Izzy