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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Lupita on March 26, 2007, 09:59:27 PM
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This might be interesting. I am copy and pasting a few paragraphs and if you think it might help you can go to the link.
Love to all.
Lupita
Recreating Family at Work
The family that we grow up in has a profound impact upon how we see the world. They teach us either directly or indirectly how to make sense of the world around us. Even though we generally grow up, move away and create our own lives, we still have a tendency to look at the world through the lens of perception that our family taught us.
The workplace becomes our artificial family. While we always have a choice about where we work, once we have made that choice we often have little or no control over whom we work with. Overall, we spend more time with our coworkers than with our families.
The boss becomes the parent, the coworkers become siblings and the direct reports become the children. It is not always this simple, just as families are not so simple.
If you had a negative relationship with a parent or parents, you will more likely have a negative experience with your bosses or superiors. Likewise, if you had a positive relationship with your parents you will more than likely have a positive relationship with your boss. This is not true in every case.
While not everyone recreates his/her family at work it is a common practice. Look around you, do you see your mother, father, siblings, extended family in some way. It might be a look, similar habits, gestures, personalities or temperament. Any of these can trigger a family reaction, without you even realizing it.
http://www.myost.com/familyatwork.html
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This is not true in every case.
As was my case....every job I had were people who did not resemble my family members at al!--My escape and perhpas a learning place?
Izzy
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We often spend more hours with our co-workers than we do with our family and friends.
Hi Lupita,
Brilliant article - thanks for posting.
Hope all is well.
Leah xx
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Hi izzi, hi Leah, thanks for your kind words. I have found that situation very frequently. Competition as sisters, etc. I have found that in almost everybody in almost all my jobs.
Love to all,
Lupita
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I definitely recreate my experiences with my parents at work. I never ask for anything. I am an overachiever, but don't want to be praised (at the same time, I DO want to be praised). I am always assuming I know what my boss is thinking (and usually it has something do do with how he/she feels about me). Dumb, huh? I am trying to break myself of this. I wonder too if this is why I always feel the need to work. Lately, I am thinking about taking a break from working. I don't need it to create an identitiy for me any longer.
Thanks for a topic that hits home.
Love, Beth