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Title: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 03, 2007, 02:05:27 AM
Hi All,

Nah, I'm not trying out to be an N, but wanted to share a bit of what has been going on with me.

My husband just came back from his after-Iraq-deployement... it seemed like he had not gotten back at all. He went out to Korea for another three weeks. So we are enjoying having him here. (again)

This weekend we got to meet Alex Trebec (I tried to insert the photo, but can't seem to get the file small enough). It was very fun - played Jeopardy... I bombed the test. Ugh, I had always wanted to be on the show and drew a HUGE blank when the short test was in front of me. It was like my whole mind emptied.

Haven't been talking to NM, but sent her the pic. She wrote back and said, "I HATE YOU." and then wrote again to say, "You know I don't really hate, you. I love you very much." She was trying to be funny, but you don't need to qualify a joke unless you truly have that in your heart. Ya know what I mean? Whatever, she is thrilled to have her picture so she can "tell everyone."

We are moving in about 8 weeks. I am excited now that I know... this in-between time is hard. We will be in America - in Virginia. My kids have never lived in America. And they've never seen snow. They are getting very excited.

I also wanted to add a huge thank you on here to all of you. I am a different person than I was when I began reading and posting here. I am able to see things in a different light and understand motives better. I also feel validated. I have replaced so many negative tapes with new thoughts... and that makes a huge difference in my life as well. Thank you again, everyone.

Love, Beth


 
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: teartracks on April 03, 2007, 02:14:22 AM



Beth,

So glad your husband is home and that y'all are doing fun stuff. 
Glad you're going to be in America.  Eight months should make it just about right for the kids to see snow.  :)
I can tell you've learned a lot about dealing with the N in your life.  Detachment! Detachment! Detachment!...that's what works best for me, but everyone is different.
Glad you gave your update.  Makes me smile and feel the higher level of contentment you've found.
Hope the kids and hubby and you have a great summer.

tt

Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 03, 2007, 07:13:23 AM
Hi!  I have good friends in Virginia but believe me it is HOT in the summer!  I have curly hair and it was a bush when I was there.  I love Jeopardy too!  Was Alec nice?  Your post was so bright and beautiful-thanks!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Hopalong on April 03, 2007, 07:43:24 AM
That's wonderful, Beth!
Will you be at a military base or in a city?

Hops
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 03, 2007, 07:54:21 AM
Oh Miss Beth, she hates herself, not you.  Unfortunately, some of that gets all over you.  And feels like hatred of you.  But it's not.  It's all about her.  Even the hatred.  The Ns have to project it all onto us strong, loving types.  We can stop taking it on, though.  Somehow or other  :roll:.

Virginia!  My youngest was born there!  And it sure is hot and humid in the summer.  Our first Christmas there, my oldest and I went for a walk and found real mistletoe growing in a little tree where we could easily reach some and pick a couple of sprigs.  I'll never forget how cool that was to have real mistletoe hanging in our apt. for Christmas.

Hope the move goes as smoothly as possible.  It's an exciting time for you guys!

Pennyplant

Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: axa on April 03, 2007, 09:32:56 AM
Beth,

Great to hear your news.  I agree its all about DETACH DETACH DETACH.  Hope your kids get all the snow they want in winter.

xxxxx

axa
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Sela on April 03, 2007, 10:54:07 AM
HIya Beth:

It sounds like things are going well and looking up!  Very glad to hear it and thanks for sharing!

I bet your kids will enjoy the snow!!  I hope they get a good batch of it to play in!

Happy packing and hope your move goes smoothly and everyone settles in nicely.

 :D Sela
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: debkor on April 03, 2007, 02:42:05 PM
Beth,

Great News Beth,

My friend was in the military and owned a house down there not far from the base.  She loved it.  She was about 1/2 hour 20mins from the Beach.  I always heard good things about living there. Your kids will love the snow.  My little one just took up snowboarding this year. My older son has been snowboarding, (snowboarding junkie).   Now you will have the beach in the summer and the snow in the winter!!  Enjoy it all.

Love
Deb
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 03, 2007, 03:08:38 PM
hi Beth

great news

Love
Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 03, 2007, 07:50:48 PM
Hi All!!!!
Thanks for the sweet comments!!!
This will be my FOURTH time living in the area. My husband will be at Quantico and we will probably live a bit outside of the base. I went to third and fourth grade on base there!!!! You are so right!!! It IS hot in the summer - and humid. The fall sets in quickly. I remember the leaves being beautiful too. I can't wait to go to all the museums with the kids.
Alex Trebec was very nice - he didn't fall in love with me though. Oh well. I was trying to resize my photo so I could put it on here but gave up. Maybe I'll figure it out today. He wrote sweet autugraphs for my kids and they think he is the kindest man!!! I am disappointed at how poorly I did on the test. But I will try again one day (and try to study beforehand!!!).
Kelly, I wish I had poofy hair!!! Mine is flat and gets flatter in the heat!!!
Penny, what a nice story about the Christmas mistletoe. If I tell my son he will barf. Kissing is not on his list of things to EVER do at this point :)
So now it's just paring down on the junk we have accumulated and pining away for my Henry when he leaves in two weeks. Please give a prayer that he will be OK on the flight. And that Grandma doesn't go bonkers with the ugly snorting baby at her feet all day. LOL
(((((((((((((((((((Everyone)))))))))))))
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 03, 2007, 10:16:14 PM
Thanks to Izzy, I am am able to add my picture of Alex Trebec with the kids and me!
Iz The Computer Whiz...  8)
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 03, 2007, 10:18:13 PM
WTG Beth

but I thought I made it larger??????

(http://www.copwt.ca/Alext.jpg)
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 03, 2007, 10:27:30 PM
Thanks yet again Iz!!! Isn't it past your bedtime???? Thank you again!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 03, 2007, 10:28:21 PM
Wow Beth!!! How much fun it is to see this picture!!!!  I love seeing your children - they are so squeezeably adorable.  Thanks for sharing it.  I lived in Virginia for many years and loved everything about the state.  Will you be on a base? on the coast?  It is a wonderful state to live in.  I'm so glad for you all. - Gaining Stength
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: moonlight52 on April 03, 2007, 10:52:27 PM
Hey Beth ,
You and the kids and Mr Jeopardy look super duper :D

Moving time what happiness for your family....cool you guys figured out the photo.

Virginia is lovely and so are you and your family !!!!!


Love to you
moonlight
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 03, 2007, 10:58:16 PM
You all are so sweet. You made me cry. My kids are adorable. I just love them so much (I am having an emotional day, can you tell??). GS, we will be near Quantico, about 45 minutes out of DC (South) if you destroy every car parked on the freeway. I made the mistake of working in DC last time and won't do that again!!!!
We are looking at a house beside my girlfriend (the best friend you could dream of having) and it has woods and a creek behind it.
This in between time is hard, but I think we will use it to try to see whatever we haven't managed to visit on the island.

((((moon and GS)))))))))
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 03, 2007, 11:06:00 PM
Oh yes Beth,
Silly me busy working and I forgot to say what a great picture it is!!

I am on Pacific time. It is 8:03pm right now and I know all of you except seastorm are in bed now!  11:03 EST./DST?

and I haven't had dinner yet!

Love
Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Hopalong on April 04, 2007, 12:01:32 AM
I'm here, but fading fast!
Izzy, you ARE a whizzy.

Beth, you and your children are ALL adorable.
(Check out those beautiful nails, too!)  :)

Alex T? Feh.

Hops
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: axa on April 04, 2007, 04:30:27 AM
Beth,

Wonderful to see you and your kids.  It is so lovely to have a picture of you.  I imagine how many of you look like here.  Its strange to have friends that I dont know what they look like!  Izzy I know and have to imagine the rest of you.  Wanna know what I think some of you look like.

Well, in my head Hops is tall, big smiley face, strong, lots of calm energy and great biceps from lifting Mom!!!!

CB I always imagine you wearing shorts.......why..... have no idea and great teeth!!!!

Sea, so so fragile

Better leave it at that

axa
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 04, 2007, 03:26:34 PM
Hi OC

Your pic ought be a .jpg, not too large and already on the Internet. I dropped Beth's pic into one of my websites here, after resizing it.

Need help? PM me!

xx
Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Stormchild on April 04, 2007, 08:37:49 PM
WTG Beth

but I thought I made it larger??????

(http://www.copwt.ca/Alext.jpg)

OMG Beth

You look so much like a friend I had when I was growing up... she was such a sweet person... it's taken me this long to be able to post about it, I'm just floored. Absolutely floored.

Waaaaaaaay :cool:

And you're gonna be in my backyard, practically, too. :-)

And your kids are adorable! Absolutely adorable! I see their dad in them, and their mom too :cool:

And Mr. Trebec can put me in jeopardy any. time. at. all :twisted:
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: debkor on April 05, 2007, 02:06:33 AM
Beth,

I love the pic.  Your kids are adorable.  You look very much like my friend. You could be sisters.  Even the same smile.
Her husband is in the service too.  Well just retired a few months ago from the Navy.
I loved that magazine when I was a kid. I remember sitting on my couch eating a Charleston Chew and reading it.
Oh the simple times when all I had to worry about was the next issue coming out. In between reading Archie and Veronica.
There was Jughead and who was the other girl? can't remember.  Senile I guess.

Love
Deb
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 05, 2007, 06:42:16 AM
Her name was Betty.
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: debkor on April 05, 2007, 01:34:55 PM
Oc,,
 

Thank you.  I went crazy going through the alpabet trying to remember the name.

Love
Deb
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 06, 2007, 01:07:36 PM
Well, I am not as smart as Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 06, 2007, 01:34:06 PM
Awwwwwwwwww OC

well here it is!


(http://a190.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/27/m_474066e393fe35a9a2cce6068795ce4d.jpg)
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 06, 2007, 02:23:14 PM
Hi Bean
OC already has the pic on the Internet. i can maker it bigger but it will have a different ssource (one of my websites)

Do you want that OC? I can at least ask your permission.

Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 06, 2007, 02:26:33 PM
Lovely picture Hops!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What are marching roots, or was that matching???? tee hee tee hee

(http://www.slrkelowna.ca/clapping.gif)

Love
Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Hopalong on April 06, 2007, 02:35:07 PM
thanks, Miss Izzy on a trestle, best pic ever...

Hops

Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 06, 2007, 02:48:01 PM
EVERYBODY

If you click on it, it gets bigger, looks more me.  The solution to the smaller pics that are uploaded by owners, not me.

Thanks Hops
I've seen these smiles with the turned down corners on occasion and they are still smiles. I think I do it sometimes too, but isn't a habit

You are very pretty.!!!!!!  Might I adopt you?

Love Izzy on a trestle, eating a pretzel


Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Hopalong on April 06, 2007, 03:11:38 PM
I'm too old to be your kid Izz...57 soooon...but I'll be yer pal.

:)
Hops
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: moonlight52 on April 06, 2007, 03:25:33 PM
(((((((((((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))))))))))))((((((((((((((((((((((Beth))))))))))))))))))))))))))(((((((((((((((((((((((Kelly))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

and (((((((((((((((((((((((((Izzy)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) for the loveliest photos ever........


moonlight 52 I am really 53 now but whose counting .....


love to you
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: teartracks on April 06, 2007, 03:29:20 PM


Hops/Oc/Iz,

How nice to have a photo.  I knew I was in good company here,  but didn't know all o y'all were beautiful too!  I love having a face to associate with your posts.

Thanks...

Keep your eyes pealed for the BUNNY!

tt
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 06, 2007, 04:03:34 PM
It's cool.......I am not sure how to get it bigger.  That is me on the left and wicked ole nmom to the right!!  People say we look like sisters.  This was an article in the newspaper about our store.  It was right before Christmas......
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 06, 2007, 04:14:01 PM
Wow....so much fun to put faces with personalities.........Bean, you look so young.  I know most of us are baby boomers.  At least that's the way I figure it.  Maybe people who face Ns finally get so frustrated in their 40s and 50s and finally blow up!!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 06, 2007, 04:21:06 PM
Here it goes at the best size so as not to distort, or have you seeing every pixel.  xxx Izzy

(http://www.slrkelowna.ca/oc.jpg)
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: teartracks on April 06, 2007, 06:40:14 PM



Beth,

I love having a visual of you and the kids.  How nice to have a picture.  The same goes for you as OC/Hops/Iz, beautiful!  Man, this technology is something isn't it?

tt
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 06, 2007, 07:39:24 PM
Oh my heavens - I love these pictures.  I may try to do the same later tonight.  I have a new digital camera (for Feb birthday) and I haven't figured it out yet.

OC - I can't quite see you but almost.  Hops - you look so much like I had imagined only even prettier and with longer hair.  This is so much fun - almost like a slumber party. 
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 06, 2007, 07:48:05 PM
(http://a560.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/6/l_4ddee927454e2808bd6fd35421b18a8f.jpg)

See if this works
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 06, 2007, 07:58:08 PM
Yes that pic is Kell and daughter.  I might pull it in a few.  The pic is a couple years old.
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 06, 2007, 09:15:21 PM
VERY NICE and very good, OC

So happy to have a better view.

TO CB
The picture must be already on the Internet to link to your message.
If you have no way to put it iin a website, then I  have so you could send to me, then I can take it down when you want.
You'll have to attach it to an email to me and I will respect your email address.

Love Izzy

Lordy and we all look so NORMAL!!!!!!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 06, 2007, 09:38:59 PM
Thanks Iz I FINALLY figured it out!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 06, 2007, 09:47:47 PM
Yep, OC, and I finally went to my hotmail and found that pic there!

I don't spend enough time checking hotmail, nor do I spend enough time navigating myspace.

WTG gal
Love Iz
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 06, 2007, 11:18:01 PM
Well, not having any luck putting a picture in here.  This is my MySpace:

www.myspace.com/gale1961

Pennyplant

Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: birdy750 on April 06, 2007, 11:58:39 PM
Hi Beth--I live in VA!!! Just south of Quantico ( near Kings Dominion for the kids!) and, Believe it or not, they are calling for snow TONIGHT!!! Yep--85 degrees on Monday and snow tonight--go figure!!! I love this state--teach Art--and absolutely love the museums --I'm partial to the National Gallery--but am planning a 3 day trip to NY for my students in May!!!

 Lived in Hampton and Norfolk also--gotta love the beach!!! You guys will have so much to do here. I just got home from "First Fridays"--the 1st Friday of each month all the galleries downtown (Richmond) stay open til 10--people are walking and milling about speaking to the artists, enjoying refreshments, musicians playing everywhere--so much fun--if you like the Art scene--definitely check it out!!

My daughters 12, we go to DC at least a couple times each summer--let me know if you need a tour guide!! We get on the Metro in Springfield and call it an adventure!! I wanna see the big fat naked man sculpture at the Hirshhorn (google it) "He" was visiting Germany last time I was there. Have a great move--come quick --the azaleas are in bloom!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: teartracks on April 07, 2007, 12:09:22 AM


OK ladies,

I'm confused on the photos.

There's Beth with the children and Alex   I know that one.

There's Hops  I know that one.

There's two ladies with Teddy Bears in the foreground.  Don't know that one.

There's a lady with a teenager (daughter).  Don't know that one.

Someone please let me know which is OC and which is bean.

Thanks,

tt
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 07, 2007, 12:15:51 AM
 The two ladies with Teddy Bears are me on th left and my n mom on the right.  No one could see me so I sent another one with my daughter taken two years ago.  Bean has a link to a web site.  Thanks,  Kelly (OC)
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 07, 2007, 10:36:22 AM
Kelly, you are so pretty and your eyes are beautiful. Your daughter is a gem.
Hops, I always imagined you as lovely, but you are breathtakingly pretty.
Bean, I will check out your link soon... I am beat after Easter Bunny duties.
PP, I know you ;) You are too sweet and pretty and I love your hair.

((((((((((((((((((((thank you everyone)))))))))))))))))

Birdy, I am glad to hear you are in VA and I want to hear more.
GS, I would love to see you. And everyone else.

Thank you thank you for a happy evening.
Love, Beth
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 07, 2007, 12:05:56 PM
Hey, did I miss something?  I didn't see a pic of you Izzy.  And PP nice to see you.  Now every time I hear your advice I can think of who you are all of you.  And it will keep us from getting too ugly in our words.  Because now we have someone's face to get mad at!!

Love to see GS.  And where is Lup lately.?  And Leah??  Where's your pic...?
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 07, 2007, 02:03:48 PM
Hi OC
Rather than bring the thread forward. This was posted in January

(http://www.copwt.ca/oldsweater2.jpg) but less recent is on the not complaining thread, even though I sound like I am complaining, and also a picture of my bloated legs--as opposed to normal ones.--even though right one is awayyyyyyy down this morning.

love
Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: teartracks on April 07, 2007, 02:13:20 PM
Iz,

Hope you get relief from the foot swelling over the weekend. 

You sure look good.   I love what you said about us all looking so normal.  Once I got in touch with all the stuffed pain, I had a new awareness of what might lie behind all those expressions of normalcy.  I'm not nearly as apt to assume that behind a smiling face all is well.  By that I mean, a smiling face doesn't always mean that there is not pain within.  For a while there, I simply believed that every person, every person was in deep pain.  But then when I feel bad for whatever reason physically, I think the whole world is feeling as badly as I do in that moment.  Whatever and however did such a thought take root?  Now, I don't think everyone is in pain and I know tht just because I feel bad doesn't mean everyone else does too.  I guess that was a phase I needed to experience to get a healthy perspective.  Will finish this later.

OK, I'm back to finish.  I needed to take a phone call there. 

I was going to ask you Iz, Must I have a Myspace account to access Pennyplant's photo?  I don't  and it seems I'm not allowed to view her pics unless I have a membership.

tt
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 07, 2007, 03:49:47 PM
Thanks TT

I had a silly idea to show how long I keep my favourite sweaters, etc.


(http://www.slrkelowna.ca/1989.jpg) This was taken in 1989 (I was 50) when my eldest grandson was 3, and the granddaughter just 5 months and look at my sweater and the wall hanging behind me. I bought the sweater before KC was born and since I am still wearing it, it is over 20 years old.

Love Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 07, 2007, 04:25:06 PM
Iz, that is funny.  You really have had that sweater all this time.  And it looks great!!  I guess if you buy clothes that aren't trendy you can get away with wearing it.......or if you hold on to it long enough it will definitely come back in style.  Although the clothes in my closet that might come back in style will be a few sizes too small.  I went to the doc today for a sinus infection and I weigh more now than ever!!  Need to lose a good 50 but better if I lost 60!!!  Thinking about the lap band but I don't think I qualify as too much overweight.  I thought of filling my pockets with quarters before I go into weigh.  I could prob ably pull it off with another ten pounds but I am not willing to really gain that much!!!

You look better now than you did 20 years ago!!!  Beautiful!!  Normal!!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 07, 2007, 04:51:59 PM
I was going to ask you Iz, Must I have a Myspace account to access Pennyplant's photo?  I don't  and it seems I'm not allowed to view her pics unless I have a membership.

tt
Hi TT

It appears so. I have an account, did so just to access something quite some time ago. I haven't spent very much time there.

Yes. We all look so normal, and no one can tell what is within a person from the exterior.

I once had my roommate (we were late teens) look at me in the mirror then look at me for real and tell me if the view was the same. I didn't believe my reflection. I was just beginning to understnad that I was not so normal--emotionally.

I usually think all is well with the person with the smile, so I practice always to have a smile when I'm around people--part of it comes from when in hospital we were told to always look our best, as people see the wheelchair first and the person second.

Iz, that is funny.  You really have had that sweater all this time.

Yes OC. I thought it funny too and yes, the picture tells the tale and the year. I have another one just like in in beige and white. I never buy trendy things. I must buy for comfort and haven't worn a dress iin over 10 years. Slacks are best so the wind doesn't blow up one's skirt to reveal one's breakfast--and for when one topples over and falls and the bloomers are showing. Plus using the bathroom--pull up a skirt and it falls back down. Pull down slacks and they say there and don't drag in the toilet bowl.
Eww
Losing weight is not a fun thing from what I hear! I heard Weightwatchers was the best--from a sister and a married couple out here!

so I look normal-- how pictures can lie as well!! :lol:  :lol:  :lol:

Love
Izzy  :P  :P  :P  :P
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 07, 2007, 09:23:37 PM
hi GS

You upload it to a website, Myspace, wherever, but some place that it is on the Internet---that will be your choice.

Now when you have a good view of the photo, look up top to see the address (URL), highlight it all, Copy it, then in our message boxes here click on Insert Image, and Paste what you copied between [iing} and [/img]

Ask again if problems

Iz
 
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 07, 2007, 10:33:20 PM
GS

I have a program that resizes. Want some help?--Send a PM!

Love Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 08, 2007, 03:12:02 PM
PM sent to you GS

Let me know if you want the resized one returned to you or posted here?

Love
Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 08, 2007, 05:39:26 PM
Hi, pretty CB

I appreciate your thanks, but I don't think I had anything to do with your being able to do this.


YaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaY

Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: teartracks on April 08, 2007, 05:58:07 PM



CB,

You sooooooo pretty.  Love having a photo to go with your always tender and wisely thoughtout  posts.

By the way, I see lots of strength in that gentle countenance.

tt
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 08, 2007, 06:39:58 PM
About MySpace.  I first went on there, in January I believe, to check out another member's MySpace.  My son is a member so I used his account to surf around.  Then I made my own page.  It was, and still is, incredibly hard for me to figure out what I want to say or tell about myself.  Then I surf around and see all these pages by young people and they are so exuberant!  They seem not to be censoring themselves at all!  And they are so interesting.  I feel like a flat boring paper doll by comparison.  Working on my page is kind of an exercise in being myself.  Without apology.  Boy, I never would have thought it would be so hard to do that, but it is.  I'm really a toddler in some respects.  Still looking at my fingers and toes and trying to understand what they are and how they work and are they really mine.

About the physical beauty of our Voicelessness Members--I used to believe that beauty kind of ensured a good life or good treatment.  But I have changed my mind about that.  Sometimes beauty brings out a savage side of life.  Some kind of primal urge to break it.  The desire to possess and control it.  Beauty is power on some level.  Power that the bullies just can't deal with, period.  Other than to be drawn in and then they try to possess and control it.  Perhaps that also happens with unusual looking people, which is where I place myself.

I agree, it is nice to have faces to place with names.  Adds another level of connection.

Pennyplant
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: teartracks on April 08, 2007, 07:05:00 PM


PP,

It appears that unless I am a member, I can't view your photos on Myspace.  Is that right?  I don't want to create a Myspace page (I know I'd never use it), but I'd love to see your photo.  Help!

tt
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 08, 2007, 07:29:10 PM
tt - just go to MySpace and sign in.  It says you have to upload a photo but you don't. I joined yesterday so I could see Pennyplant's photo.  Then today I figured out how to upload photos but then I got stuck trying to get those photos here.  I created a page in my name here, "GS".  I may delete it today, I'm not sure.  But you can put anything you want to without putting yourself out on the internet.  Try it and then delete it. - GS

Izzy - I sent the humongous selections of pixels that make up an image of my mother, me and my son from Friday night.  Can you shrink it?  On another computer I have Photoshop.  Can that shrink a missized photo? - Thanks for you help or at least your willingness to help. - GS
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 08, 2007, 07:46:09 PM
Nothing in my mail box yet

Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 08, 2007, 07:56:11 PM
Yeah, tt, when I first signed up I didn't put anything on my page because I couldn't figure out how.  But I could at least log in.  You can delete your account at any time.

Pennyplant
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 08, 2007, 08:03:47 PM
I started a my space account to keep tabs on my teenagers!  My 19 Year old daughter harassed me for almost a year for having the most boring my space account on the web so I finally went in and posted some comments and uploaded some pics.  I think my account is /kellydckm
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 08, 2007, 08:05:13 PM
I love seeing these photos of my friends, friends whose faces I haven't known and whose names I don't know and yet friends who have given me such love, encouragement and support that has truly fed me.  That sounds so crazy - but I wouldn't trade these friendships in for all the tea in China.

Everyone is so beautiful - you and your children Beth, you with your silver hair Hops, you Kell and your look alike daughter and mother, you pennyplant and bean both with such beautiful long hair, and you CB with a golden glow.  Thank you all for sharing your photos - I have just loved this - enough to figure out how to work my camera and download and upload photos all in one weekend.  I feel like I've entered the 21st century (just keeping one step ahead of my boy.)  Next thing you know I'll be uploading videos. LOL - GS
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 08, 2007, 08:23:38 PM
Nope, Kelly, your myspace is not boring at all!

Pennyplant
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 08, 2007, 09:13:21 PM
What a bunch of Hot Tamales!!!!!! Seriously. Like tt said, we all look so normal. But even more than that, what a collection of beautiful people (and we know it's on the INSIDE too!!!!).
I say we sing out loud to Shania's "Feel Like A Woman" and hit Starbuck's for some good coffee!!!!!
 Truly, it feels like we are even closer than before. But I have to tell you a secret. I used Cindy Crawford's image in place of mine. LOL
I am sooooo happy to see all of you. Bean, you look like Sheryl Crow. I love her!!!!!! And CB you are beautiful. Iz, I remember your pics from when you started here!!! GS, bot you and your house are lovely and your son looks so robust and sweet!!!
(((((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))))))))
Love, Beth
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 08, 2007, 09:31:40 PM
Well in comparison to my kids with music and graphics mine is BORING!  And I bet you wonder where I got a blonde daughter.  My ex had dark hair too.
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 09, 2007, 09:40:16 AM
She may be blond but she has the same smile as you and the same "light".

Pennyplant
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Hopalong on April 09, 2007, 02:06:33 PM
What a treat!
It is truly a pleasure to greet these loved faces.
Mine is even rounder now due to a bunch of smiling.

I wouldn't care if we all had zits, square heads and three noses...it's the beauty of discovery that was an Easter joy for me.

I've been computerless all weekend and will be restricted from posting much until mid-month...my laptop bit the dust and the next day my old PC decided to follow it. I'll try to check in every now and then from work but meanwhile, til the new laptop arrives, I'm thinking of you...

with love,
Hops
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 09, 2007, 05:15:29 PM
CB

What a lovely, lovely picture
Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 09, 2007, 06:58:18 PM
Oh boy, CB what a great, beautiful farm.  And love seeing all our pics.  CB, GS, Bean, Beth, Hops, Penny, Izzy, all of us (hope I didn't miss any.....)  So much for anonymity!!  Oh well, it is great to put faces with names.  Can't believe all us dear old folks have had to deal with STUPID PEOPLE FOR SO LONG!!

Went to work today.....nmom didn't say two words to me.  Boy what a pain!!  Then I think we are having some shoplifting.  Looks like an inside job with 20 CDs missing of one title.  Plus many more.  Over $4000 stolen in the past month!!!   Lord help us all!!

Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 09, 2007, 08:11:42 PM
Gratitude - thanks for your comments - you know I am always complaining about my house so I confess that the house you see is my mother's not mine. 

CB - I love seeing you and your farm.  Beautiful pictures of you both. 

Overcomer - $4000 My that's a huge loss in just one month!!  Do you know who is doing it?  Could it be an accounting error?  That is horrifying.
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 09, 2007, 09:02:54 PM
No we do not know who is doing it but imagine we bring in 60, Sell 20 and have 2 Left.  It happened to at least four different titles.  Sick people!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Stormchild on April 09, 2007, 09:07:56 PM
OC, you could start a couple of magazines. One for the serious trade press, called Christian Shopkeeper; and one that's more tongue in cheek, called Christian Shoplifter.

Now to be serious: that really stinks. Do you think it's an inside job? Based on the way the inventory is going it looks like rip-off for resale.

Y'all got any security cameras?
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 10, 2007, 06:43:20 AM
YES but we are going to update the system.  I agree about the resale angle.  I want to put a sign up at the front door that says thou shall not steal and have a bolt coming out of heaven frying a person with a cd in their hand!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: axa on April 11, 2007, 03:48:24 AM
wonderful to see your beautiful faces


xxxxxxxxxxxaxa
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 11, 2007, 05:47:52 PM
Hey did GS and CB pull their pics?  That's ok....I was just going through to look at all my friends again!!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 11, 2007, 07:18:48 PM
I did OC.  I can't say why, just feeling exposed somehow.

Sometimes I actually feel exposed just by posting, especially when no one responds.  It touches those sore spots of rejection that I know are healing.  So I just pulled my head back in my turtle shell.  For no reason other than my seesaw was down again. - GS
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 11, 2007, 07:55:07 PM
Yeah, like my Gift of Prophecy thread.....oh well, YOU got it GS!!!  I can see your picture in my brain......you AND CB......I know sometimes I think my mom or aunt or daughter is in here reading all my postings but I can't see some of them being smart enough to navigate around.  I think my daughter would but think it was lame anyway!!!!!  And I don't say anything here that I don't say to her during some of my rants!!!

Well, my mom and I had a little talk today.  I just don't see why she just keeps coming back with "you and I need to get together to figure out what to do about______________."  You name the subject.  Doesn't she understand that I don't want to get together and talk about "things" at work?  Talking with her makes me crazy.  I just need to tell her to leave me alone and I'll just do my job.............I don't want or need any input from her.....
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 11, 2007, 08:12:49 PM
Just like you Gift of Prophecy thread Kell.  I really do understand why things go by without comment and I know not to take it personally and I don't on individual things.  It's the accumulation of no responses that weighs down and reminds me how alone I am in my very thoughts - even on this place where people share something that no one else gets. 

OC - my "blessings" has helped me enormously.  I am much more civil and feeling somewhat freer.  I am oh so thankful for your prophecy thread.  It has made a true difference in my day to day life. - GS
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 11, 2007, 08:22:51 PM
Hey did GS and CB pull their pics?  That's ok....I was just going through to look at all my friends again!!

Kell, I've been doing the same thing, also hoping more people would want to post pictures.  It's really nice to see these smiles.  I like picturing the face to go with the words.

Pennyplant
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 11, 2007, 08:26:41 PM
I like seeing them too!!!
My mug's staying whether you like it or not :)
Love, Beth
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: isittoolate on April 11, 2007, 08:56:59 PM
Just today I saved the pics ti my hardrive, and want to print a page and hang it by my computer, so I don't have to keep going back.

Did GS and CB upload a shot?

I forget......................that's why I want a page of pics printed.

If we all do that, then we can take ours down, after a given time.........

Izzy
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 11, 2007, 09:17:01 PM
What a sweet idea Iz.
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 11, 2007, 09:43:42 PM
I knew I should have saved them........I wish I had more pics of the rest of those scairdy cats

Oh well, I think it took us all a lot of guts to even do that.  It is easy to come on to a board like this because you can say ANYTHING YOU WANT.  But when your pic is attached to the sentiment.........
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 11, 2007, 09:50:26 PM
Pennyplant - I was hoping more would put their pictures up too.  I found myself very excited to see what we look like.  It was like finding a present under the tree.  - GS
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 11, 2007, 10:11:27 PM
I wonder why it is so interesting to see what others look like?  Maybe it is because we are hard-wired from birth to look for smiles and expressions to mirror.

I like knowing what people really look like compared to what I thought they would look like.  I guessed right about Hops (remembering she had said she has a face shaped similarly to Jackie O, and also the white hair.)

I honestly thought people would look frazzled!  And they don't!

I had pictured Bean as having short, spikey blond hair--thought GS would have dark, black hair and eyes--I thought Beth would be more serious looking--hee, hee, I thought Izzy would look "old" since she says she is "old"--I thought Kell would be conservative looking or plain--and this one is really imaginative--I thought CB would look "amish"!  Oh, boy, I gotta wonder about my brain sometimes! 

Pennyplant
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: gratitude28 on April 11, 2007, 10:24:24 PM
Ha ha Penny!!!! I need to work on my serious look ;)

You know the hardest pictures for me to reconcile are those of people on the radio. I always have a fuzzy idea of what they look like by their voices.

Another thing that was really weird for me was when my kids were born. They are inside of you for all that time and you have this pseudo image and then they look nothing like it, and yet they look familiar. Weird, huh????

Images are important... I guess it's like reading a book and then seeing the movie version. My mental images are not that strong, though. I make up hazy, general visages more often...

OK... have I beaten the subject to a pulp yet????? LOL

Love, Beth

Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: pennyplant on April 11, 2007, 10:51:46 PM
Oh, yes, I will remember these faces easily.  Every one of them has made a happy impression on me.

About radio people--we have a "morning team" near here where the female airs her marriage troubles every day as part of the show.  In fact, last year she and her husband were on 20/20 after having let the cameras into their home for three weeks.  It was so enlightening in many ways.

I listen to them regularly at work and had often thought, boy, if I was married to her I'd give her grief as well.  Then "meeting" her husband on TV, after only hearing him call into the show everyday, changed my mind about that.  Then I thought, wow, they deserve each other!!!

The funniest thing was how she had sold herself on the show as being, well, "hot" I would have to say.  And on TV she was not!  She was pretty average.  She looked like a middle-aged woman who hadn't changed her looks much since high school (sort of like me  :lol: :lol: :lol:).  In fact, the day after 20/20, someone called into the radio show and said, You have got to do something with your eyebrows!  And she had no idea what the caller was talking about.  Apparently her eyebrows are perfect just the way they are.  But, they really aren't!!!  Quite dated and unflattering.  But she kind of just blew it off.  If that had been me on TV looking not so great, and then someone called me the next day and basically told me I didn't look so great, I would have been hurt.  Not that one, though.  She just went back into her typical "I am fine the way I am" mode.

I think this particular radio morning team is fairly self-absorbed....
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 11, 2007, 11:15:24 PM
I relate to the "Expecting my kids to look one way and having them look another" thing.  When my first daughter was born and she was a blonde a gal at church thought we had adopted her.  And then my second daughter came out and looked nothing like the first.  And I do not think she looks like me but apparently some of you do.  And you thought I would be plain and conservative, huh?  Try seeing me with spiked blue hair and very dark make up in the early 80s!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Hopalong on April 12, 2007, 02:16:29 PM
Sorry I'm not posting guys...I'm very eager to, but must wait for the new laptop.
Just grabbing a stolen minute at work to say I'm reading while I eat lunch and keeping mental track...

Sending a lot of love to all of you. Support and caring to each and everyone.

Taking down my pic for now but benevolently beaming...

love,
Hops
PS--I DID have the horrible realization that it was good to be computerless because (hold your breath, GS)...after a few days of twitchy computer withdrawal I found myself getting up in the early a.ms., tackling the piles of disorder a bit at a time (also making myself go to sleep earlier), and, drumroll...

My paperwork, and my mother's, is ALL CAUGHT UP. And it's in the FILES, with correct LABELS. And I have taken a vow to open every envelope every day and deal with it iin some way mmediately. No matter what. So, I've decided I am no longer allowed to have my laptop on my bed, because I've been whiling away evening doing that and TV, and who knew, I actually can function in the evenings to organize my life. I'm kind of stunned.

Other thing, a huge factor...I've been taking a supplement called SAM-e in addition to the Cymbalta for a few weeks and my back pain is so much better I can't believe it. I'm a bit sore but no longer in agony most days when I get home (which makes evening tidying-up a lot easier)..

enough from me, but I'll be "seeing" y'all soon.
xxoo...H
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Overcomer on April 12, 2007, 04:21:37 PM
Yea!  Hops!  I find he I dont do what I always do I can jolt myself back into reality.  Hope to hear from you soon!
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: reallyME on April 12, 2007, 04:27:24 PM
How does one post a photo on here? I'd love to share
Title: Re: All About Me Me Me
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 12, 2007, 04:37:08 PM
Wow Hops.  I can't believe you are caught up with all the paperwork.  Your triumph gives me hope.  I'm celebrating.  I'm also ecstatic about the news concerning your back pain.  Loads of good news from you - so encouraging.

ReallyMe - several of us went to Webshots and opened an account and uploaded photos.  Once that is done there are instructions on the Webshots page about how to "send to a forum".  It is fairly easy. - GS