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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: gratitude28 on April 10, 2007, 08:47:35 PM

Title: Personal Progress
Post by: gratitude28 on April 10, 2007, 08:47:35 PM
I think I have reached an area of major progress (though not completely, I almost got on here and freaked about this issue a few days ago...).

One of my husband's dearest friends and his wife came to visit us. We haven't seen them for about 4 years. I have known his friend since the day I met my husband (I met them together) and he is like a brother.

When I saw them last, I was quite a bit less of a woman than I am now. :) So... what usually happens before someone comes to visit is that I get REALLY upset. I really worry what they will think of me and whatever shape I am in. I had a very little of that this time. Instead of worrying about me, I enjoyed seeing their kids and them. Alas, next week I have to get into a bathing suit as we are going to Club Med next week.

So I think this is good progress.

Thanks for listening!!!! Does anyone else have this issue?

Love, Beth
Title: Re: Personal Progress
Post by: Overcomer on April 10, 2007, 09:04:25 PM
Oh I never have people over unless my house is perfect and it is never perfect so I never have people over.  If anyone stops by it is horrible!
Title: Re: Personal Progress
Post by: isittoolate on April 10, 2007, 09:49:40 PM
Oh yes, I wonder what people would think.

Main thing is I don't have people in, because I cannot close the bathroom door. They can but I can't

Ha Ha
Izzy
Title: Re: Personal Progress
Post by: axa on April 11, 2007, 03:34:24 AM
always enjoyed having people at my home.  Pre XN people used to just drop by, which I liked.  Enter Xn..........everyone stopped calling.  Thankfully now that the word is out they have started to trickle back.

axa
Title: Re: Personal Progress
Post by: camper on April 11, 2007, 09:07:51 AM
We entertain quite often.  I have gotten to the point where I don't have the house perfect anymore.  I just can't.  People love to get together and they don't care that my house isn't perfect.  I have also learned to focus on my guests instead of being a "Martha".  It makes our friends feel more welcome.  If the house has a few things laying around, my H will pick up.  He always cleans up after a party.  I work hard to put it together, and he cleans up. 

As far as a swim suit Beth, they make great cover-ups!  They also came out with swim shorts or bermudas.  We have no reason to stress over putting on a swim suit anymore.  Enjoy Club Med.  We have been to those all-inclusive resorts and they are so wonderful.  My H takes complete care of the boys and I get to relax.  He will grumble now and then...but he does it.