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Title: tough days
Post by: daylily guest on June 04, 2007, 10:26:50 PM

Hi everybody:

I haven't been around in while, and that's because I've been diagnosed with breast cancer and have had surgery.  It seemed wrong somehow not to let you all know.

Anyway, I wish you all well.  I doubt I'll be posting very much in the days to come.

Best,
daylily

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: CB123 on June 04, 2007, 10:40:36 PM

Daylily,

I'm so sorry.  Is there anything else you can tell us? 

I know we will all want to be here for you if you want to talk.  But, if not, please remember that we care for you and are praying for you.

CB

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: Stormchild on June 04, 2007, 10:46:48 PM

((((((((((Daylily))))))))))

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: debkor on June 04, 2007, 10:54:54 PM

Daylily,

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.  I'm so sorry.    Anytime you need to talk you can always come here.

Love
Deb

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: Hopalong on June 04, 2007, 11:35:05 PM

Ah Daylily, what an ordeal.
I am so sorry.

I hope the surgery took care of it
and that you have good support from good people.

I'm terribly sorry. SO many women have come
through that shadow though...all my hopes
that you will too.

Thank you so much for the effort of logging in
to let us know. It must've hurt even to type.

If you want help, or ears...right here.

love to you,
Hops

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: lighter on June 05, 2007, 07:30:04 AM

So sorry that happened to you (((Daylily))))

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: pennyplant on June 05, 2007, 09:31:42 AM

Daylily, I'm praying for you.

Love, Pennyplant

added on edit:  And thank you for letting us be there for you.

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: mudpuppy on June 05, 2007, 11:37:21 AM

Daylily,

You sent me a very kind and wise PM when my wife was diagnosed almost two years ago which I still remember and thank you for.

I remember very clearly what it felt like to watch her face as she received the news on the phone from her doctor. I also remember very clearly all the fear and despair over the next year and a half. But the point is they are memories, because we have the chance for an even fuller life after cancer than we had before.

I hope and pray they have found it early and you are cured. But I want you to know that if, like my wife, they did not, there is still a wonderful life to be lived. Maybe in some ways a better, more honest life. There is always someone hovering in the room with us now, but he was really always there before. We just pretended he wasn't, as in some way I think we all do until he catches our diverted eye and forces us to look him full in the face. But pretense is not honest life. Life after a cancer diagnosis should be life stripped of its pretense and lived as God intended.
If we let it, it can make us smaller, but that is only if we turn inward. If we turn to God He will work even this, especially this, together for good for those who love Him.
Without doubt cancer is not a good thing. But it's consequences can be. It makes us confess that even our flesh is as grass,  but gives us the opportunity to live an honest life, whether long or short, with that knowledge in our hearts not just our heads.
My wife is in some way that can only be known by going through it, freer than she has ever been. Cancer is not a death sentence, life is. Cancer can and should be, cured or incurable, an emancipation proclamation from living life not to die.
I pray you are cured, but I pray even more you are set free as my wife has been.

mud

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: Ami on June 05, 2007, 07:09:53 PM

Dear Daylily,
    I am so sorry that you are hurting. Mud said such beautiful words. I hope that you might re consider sharing here or someplace. Any situation kept inside is so much more painful than one that is shared.
I wish you all the peace and grace that God can give,Dear.I will be praying for you   
                                                                                                       Love Ami

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: WRITE on June 05, 2007, 08:02:28 PM

oh Daylily, sorry you've been having a tough time, glad you came back and stay around for some love and support.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: Ami on June 07, 2007, 09:11:11 AM

Dear Day lily,
   Thinking of you and   sending you prayers and peace.                        Hugs to you   Ami

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: daylily guest on June 07, 2007, 03:51:47 PM

Thanks, everybody, for the words of support.  I didn't mean to plant a mine and run, so to speak, but I also can't write very clearly about how this is going or how I feel about it.

So while I don't necessarily want to write a lot about what's going on, please know that I am deeply grateful for your thoughts and best wishes.  And Mud, that was amazing and beautiful.

daylily

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: lighter on June 07, 2007, 11:58:10 PM

((((daylily))))

Title: Re: tough days
Post by: gratitude28 on June 08, 2007, 12:39:58 AM

(((((((((((((((((((daylily))))))))))))))))))))

I have always adored you on here and have learned so much from your wise words. I do hope that when you are ready, you can share with us. I understand that it will take a while to digest your situation.
I send you love and strength to get through this hard time. I hope you have much support around you and a caring and helpful medical team.
More than anything, treat yourself like a queen now! Even more than taking care of yourself, pamper yourself. Go overboard and live, live, live.
You are such a wonderful influence, charming and sweet. I hope our prayers can add to your strength.

Love, Beth