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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: axa on July 10, 2007, 01:27:20 PM
Title: Great news to share
Post by: axa on July 10, 2007, 01:27:20 PM
Hi everyone,
Just got some great news. I have been accepted for a Masters Programme. It means moving lock stock and barrell to the other end of the country. I am soooooooooooooooooo excited. The course starts in late September so I will have a lot to do before then. Need to rent my house as I will not have any income. This is just wonderful news for me. A whole new beginning and miles and miles away from Creepo and all belong to him.
axa
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: Hopalong on July 10, 2007, 01:34:27 PM
Ow wow, Axa that is just FANTASTIC!!! Congratulations!
Would you feel like sharing the general discipline?
I'm very happy for you! You got Big Things ahead, woman.
:D
Hops
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: lighter on July 10, 2007, 02:00:56 PM
ya ya ya ya ya YA! ya ya ya ya ya YA! ::doing the snoopy dance!::
Truly wonderful news, Axa: )
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: isittoolate on July 10, 2007, 02:11:21 PM
(((((((((((((((AXA))))))))))))))))
Hapy Days are here again!!!!
Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: Ami on July 10, 2007, 02:12:10 PM
So happy for you,Axa. Way to go !!!! Love Ami
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: WRITE on July 10, 2007, 06:06:46 PM
Great news Axa. Just the new start you wanted! ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: teartracks on July 10, 2007, 08:19:57 PM
Hi axa,
There IS life after creepo! Things are moving so fast, you'll hardly have time to think of him. All that geography between you will give you such freedom. Very happy for you. And what is your masters going to be? Maybe I should know, forgive me if I'm behind in the news.
Love,
tt
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: debkor on July 10, 2007, 08:22:56 PM
Axa, GREAT NEWS!!! I'm very happy for you!!!
Deb
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: motheroffour on July 10, 2007, 08:43:41 PM
Sounds really good. Wishing you all the best! --Mof4
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: sea storm on July 11, 2007, 01:06:34 AM
That is great AXA. You really deserve a break after what you have been through.
Sea storm
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: bigalspal on July 11, 2007, 01:16:09 AM
Hi Axa, Just like I said to someone else with good news - I'm still kinda new to the board & don't know what you've been through, but I'm guessing it was awful because you are HERE! So congratulations!!!! I'm doing my "happy dance" for you. Well, I'm getting kinda old, so I'm happy dancing in my head! LOL! Your friend, Bigalspal PS: Let the adventure begin!
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: Sela on July 11, 2007, 02:04:01 PM
Oh that is great Axa!! Congratulations!!
What will you study? (if you wanna say).
:D :D Sela
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: finding peace on July 11, 2007, 06:02:03 PM
!!!!!!!!!!CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: axa on July 12, 2007, 10:55:45 AM
THank you all so much for your well wishes. Yes there is life after Ns and those of you who are in the depths of despair, this is where I was a year ago. Afraid to go, afraid to stay, feeling powerless, abused, frightened of everything, lost......... I could go on and on. But I saved myself and have achieved so much over the past year.
Can I boast????? Since December I have
Gone to India.. a life long dream but was too scared to go before Taken part in a half marathon........ last time I ran I was 12 Had a wonderful party in my house Applied for a Masters and got one of 15 places!! WHEEEEEEEEEEE Made a collection of paintings REconnected with old friends Made some wonderful new friends Discovered I am worth more than an abusive relationship.
It was not easy, there were very tough times when I would post here twenty times a day but I got through all of that and I am here at a place of new beginning, feeling strong and positive for the future. Those of you still with Ns, suffering post N, please take heart.
I have my bad times still but mostly they are diminishing.
My Masters is in Conflict Transformation............ interesting that I choose this subject. My experience as a child and also with XN was there was no resolution or transformation and I believe with all my heart it is possible if you are dealing with people who have a desire to find resolution.
Will keep you guys posted.
I AM HAPPY TO TAKE CREDIT FOR MOVING ON BUT I COULD NOT HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT MY FRIENDS ON THIS BOARD. FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART I THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT, CARE, UNDERSTANDING, CHALLENGES AND FUN.
This sounds a bit like a going away speech but it ain't just want to acknowledge and appreciate those who held me through the nightmare.
With love,
axa
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: motheroffour on July 12, 2007, 12:16:33 PM
You are inspiring. Loved your list. I feel like I can see your smiling face looking back at me shining the light! Thank you. mof4
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: axa on July 13, 2007, 01:35:33 AM
CB
Thank you. My primary degree is in Psychology. I have always been interested in the concept of reconciliation maybe because I saw it happening in other places but had little experience of it myself. I have always been facinated with groups who were at war finding ways of making peace and this has prompted my forthcoming study. About work, well there appears to be two routes, working in post conflict situations or taking the academic route, not sure what the programme will bring but one thing I do know is that when I am pro active about something it always sparks something else off. I would hope to have opportunities to travel with the work, to far flung places. At the moment I am just focused on the work of organising my move, selling my car, renting an apartment in my new city. I have been so pleased with friends and family response to my move. People are so pleased for me. Seems like they had more faith in me than I did.
I have always been blessed with amazing energy, except when with XN, that experience sucked the life out of me. I am so looking forward to being busy and focused. I love the challenge of having to work hard and produce the goods. The university I will be attending is very prestegious which is a bit of a feather in my cap. I have such good feelings about this move.
I have always found great support from you CB and I am so grateful for that. I know if I had not had voiceless it would have taken me so much longer to get through the terrible pain of the hurt and abuse. I came on here lurking in March 2006 not wanting to face the reality of what I was experiencing. I was desperate to slip back into denial but the words I read here would not allow that. I have no doubt you and my other friends here saved me.
Heartfelt thanks
Axa
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: axa on July 15, 2007, 05:45:40 AM
CB
I think that for people who have had N experiences conflict can become a no go area. I know I have always avoided it until it came to boiling point then I would loose it and scream and shout. I know this is not the way. The course will challenge me personally very much even though it is about groups. I think to deal with conflict assertively and in a healthy way one needs to know themselves, value themselves and be in adult mode. I am hoping to learn more than the theory through this course.
I will not be leaving the board. I know that because of my attraction to Ns I will have to stay vigilent and need the support of the group here. Won't get rid of me that easily.
Hugs,
axa
Title: Re: Great news to share
Post by: Ami on July 15, 2007, 08:20:16 AM
I think that owning and managing our own anger and emotions is crucial to being a whole person. I think that I will start a thread on it. it sounds like it will be a very interesting course of study.I am really happy for you. I think that you will love it and it will help you build up yourself--inside Love Ami