Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: isittoolate on August 18, 2007, 08:24:22 PM
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Someone called me today.
He was my supervisor when I was in the car crash.
He knows my daughter and grandchildren; she writes to him, and visits--whereas she and I are estranged.
He telephones me 2-3 times a year and each call is filled with all this stuff about my daughter and the kids, a 5 page letter he received (he's 78 and not on the Internet) all the thing s I don't know, such as I asked daughter in an email if my granddaughter was beginnning University this year. Daughter never answered that question.
He told me Mags in not in school.
He has already read the book about my grandson and told me all about it--- how hard the writer was on certain characters. I told him I hadn't read it yet and he kept going on and on. I told him to stop and let me read it for myself (Oh haven'y you got it yet?) as I was the one who contacted the author and told him that there were no heroes in that story, so to interview all the people carefully and think sensibly about what he was being told.
It was a mess of misguided thinking on an ill-equipped ketch and my gransdson could have died.
After 1 hour and 46 minutesd and 43 seconds I said I had to go but first I said I didn't want any more calls from him that even mention how much he is connected to her and I am not. Then I said,"That will cut your phone calls down to about 5 minutes, eh?"
That made me feel good!
Love
Izzy
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((((((Izzy))))))
Have you ever before told him that the content of his calls creates this __________ (insert appropriate feeling)
in you?
Love,
Hope
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Hi Hope,
No I hadn't but then he hasn't callled since I began therapy so there is another 'feeling' surfacing from therapy and I was feeling ill at what he was doing! Like he knew it all and I knew nothing.
Well so be it but I won't have him lording it over me, nor will I allow him to tell me "I should_____________________" Should" is a controlling word from my standpoint right now, I told him, so please not use it!
Love
Izzy
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Oh, Izzzzzzzyyyy, I sense a veritable plethora of feelings coming down the pike!
This is cause for rejoicing!
You go, sister :)
Love,
Hope
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Yessssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
Won't that be good news for my therapist when she returns from vacation.
It sort of feels like I might had a handle on what I'm doing.
Whoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooosh!!
Thanks
Izzy
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lol... poor therapist... she goes on vacation and you have a major breakthrough ...Only teasing, Iz :)
But I do think that facing your fears over the sibling visit... and then thriving through it - wow!...
when I think of that 8 months waiting you've been through, on top of all the years before, you are quite something, Izzy!
You've worked so hard, and it seems like those feelings were just propelling you foreward, unbeknownst to you, from their place in hiding.
I sure wish that you and I had both known to call out for attention when we were small... somehow. Shyness.
But my kids... each one began talking at a very early age, and especially the last one, my son (probably from having 3 sisters and me always chattering around him). I will never forget... he was maybe 19 months old and I was changing his diaper on the couch, trying to hear a news story, and he was telling me something, but not gaining my entire attention. Finally, he bellowed out, "Mama!!" and I leaned down to smile at him... and he put his hands on my face and pulled me closer and said to me, so seriously, "LEESEN to me, Mama!"
Yessir. That's exactly what I'll do!
Happy dance, Izzy :)
Love,
Hope
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Oh Hope How incredibly dear!
"he put his hands on my face and pulled me closer and said to me, so seriously, "LEESEN to me, Mama!""
Izzy - way to go. Way to assert yourself.
I've been a sporadic reader for several months so I am not attuned to the book about your grandson. Would you mind telling me about it?
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Oh how cute!
Out of the mouths of Babes.
As Dr. G. says re voicelessness, if we don't meet the child in his world ..............................
so MANY, shut ups and don't touch mes and quit thats and Mom make her stops , I would have a great big space inside where good stuff could be instead of this ball of cement that almost needs a jackhammer or a bomb!
so let your kids talk, but some of it has to be to you, as well as each other. My brother shared 2 secrets with me when we were growing up and that made me feel closer to him. No secrets with any sister...............I don't know about them with each other.....
Yep
This is us doing the happy dance
Love
Izzy
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oh Hi GS
Yes, wasn't that a sweet story from Hope, and a lesson for all!
Thanks.. everytime I assert myself, I feel better----if I do, I know I did right for me.
If I were to feel worse I would rethink the situation.
My grandson had about ˝ hour left to live in the North Atlantic when Iceland rescue came for him in the icy waters were he, at 17, held onto his dead uncle's body for 1˝ hours +, as bodies don't come back up, if they sink there. The family could have closure. The Uncle was the owner of the ill-equipped boat.
Grandson telephoned me on Aug 7th, promised me an autographed book, but being an Nish trait 21 year old now of an totally N father, he might forget the promise, so I ordered one from Amazon.
Daughter never told me. The guy that called me knew and has his and read it already! Well since he's 78, he'll be dead before I am.
heh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh heh
Love Izzy
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Daughter never told me. The guy that called me knew and has his and read it already! Well since he's 78, he'll be dead before I am.
heh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh hehheh heh
Love Izzy
o my... okay, now yer frightenin me over here, Izzy... lol... don't let it all hang out at once :shock: :D
((((((((((GS)))))))))))) (((((((((((((Izzy))))))))))))) I think I'll go happy-dance my way in there and hug my boy! Maybe the teen, too, if she's not too irritable... lol. Call the Mounties if I'm not back by tomorrow!
Love,
Hope
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LOL Hope
You're okay.
It seemed like an 'evil' thing to do, on one hand, but on the other he is somewhat of a control freak and it felt good because he had absolutely no comeback for that.
The woman who was her sitter when I worked is also on the list. They are in the same city. Know one another.
He told me that my daughter had been to see this woman etc. She also tells me things but in a different manner, not lording it over me, but I already know rhese things from him.
HoH boy~~
Love
Izzy
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I was thinking about this post, and how long he has been calling me, and all the things he has told me about daughter and the kids.
It's been at least 12 years that he's reported whether I knew or not, and I just took it. I'd be a little grumpy and have been trying to think iof a way to turn him off, and yesterday it just happened automatically.
He's the one who keeps sending me these big long stemmed flowers...they reach the ceiling, at least.. and sitting down I cannot manage them, so second last call I told him that his flowers are too long and that if he feels he needs to send flowers, smaller bouquest will be appreciated.
Izzy
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Wow posts disappear quickly. This was on page 5
The Drug Store shorted me 38 pills (likely 40 on the count) I noticed I was running out too soon---------------------------- wasn't me---had to be them----------------------------I was a bit nervous
but there was no problen. She just counted out 38 pills and put them in my container.
Wow I like sticking up for myself.
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Izzy,
Do you create these amazing little "gif"s? Whatever that is.
I like this little happy-dance guy.
thanks!
Hops
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No Hops
I don't create them. There are enough on the Internet, that when I see them I save them to a folder and then I have them for whenever....................................................
I like this one too, & I was happy that I wasn't afraid to "take on the Drug-Store!!" I believe there would be a time I would go to the doctor and ask for the missing pills --for whatever reason. But I knew, from the awful taste, there was no way I would swallow 38 bitter, bitter pills, just to get 38 more and a diuretic at that!
Am puzzling over my word association game, but in my search, I found a Forum of people sharing answers. I'm just joining now---don't know all at 68---times change!
Love Izzy
If they are attached like this, they need to be clicked to move if they are animated, and to enlarge a bit.
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Ewwww
don't you got a puppy?
H
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Wow posts disappear quickly. This was on page 5
The Drug Store shorted me 38 pills (likely 40 on the count) I noticed I was running out too soon---------------------------- wasn't me---had to be them----------------------------I was a bit nervous
but there was no problen. She just counted out 38 pills and put them in my container.
Wow I like sticking up for myself.
Dear Izzy,
The first step of sticking up for yourself in this case, as I see it, was in not automatically assuming that you had made the error.
In "unrecognized shame" mode, I see how blaming self (regardless of common sense/facts) might stall out any further action... so it's great that you moved through this problem with such ease!
Can you describe the reasons for your nervousness about contacting the pharmacy?
Thanks! and... great job done!!
Hope
P.S. to Besee... thank you :) My son is a very special, sensitive little dude with a heart of gold. Wish I could express how very much he's taught me!
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Hi Hope,
Actually I knew I had not made an error, sour diuretics?--not gonna suck on them for fun--I guessed the pharmacy had made the error, but I'm not accustomed to following up on something like this. (I want everything to be right in the first place).
I had no idea what they would do--maybe try to fit 180 pills into the same sized container I had---and prove me wrong---or--??--prove them wrong----??
Anyway, she just gave me the proper amount to last until Sept 22 and that was it.
I wasn't heart-pumping nervous either. I was calm, but concerned.
Thanks
Izzy
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Sassy Izz-
Don't you SEE it, my dear? Your former boss looks like he has a "thing" for you, and he does whatever he can to get your attention...poor critter. It seems as though he knows that the attraction isn't mutual, but he'll do anything that gets him a few minutes of your time. (Did you ever see the movie 'There's Something About Mary" ?!!!)
Just tell him "Don't hate me just because I'm beautiful !", you wicked siren, you.
Oh - I forgot to tell you that those little darlings in the picture with you are truly adorable!
Love to Queen Izzy,
Changing
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Changing
Oh - I forgot to tell you that those little darlings in the picture with you are truly adorable!
Are you talking about my breasts or two of my grandchildren??? :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
I never saw that movie. Would it make me fall in love with Ken? Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww :? :? :? :? :? :?
You are a RIOT, changing!! :D
Love izzy
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Hi Hope,
Actually I knew I had not made an error, sour diuretics?--not gonna suck on them for fun--I guessed the pharmacy had made the error, but I'm not accustomed to following up on something like this. (I want everything to be right in the first place).
I had no idea what they would do--maybe try to fit 180 pills into the same sized container I had---and prove me wrong---or--??--prove them wrong----??
Anyway, she just gave me the proper amount to last until Sept 22 and that was it.
I wasn't heart-pumping nervous either. I was calm, but concerned.
Thanks
Izzy
Okay, I see, Izzy :) thanks. I was just curious about the roots of the nervousness, because I can still break out in a hive or two over something like this.
I want everything to be right in the first place, too, but usually I blame myself if it's wrong...
and once I realize something's messed up, I'd probably be afraid of a possible conflict in trying to make it right. But that's just me.
Glad you got it all sorted!
Hope
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Hello Izz-
I was transfixed by your adorable grandbabies- I am not so sure what your former boss is interested in, however (but I could venture a guess). The movie I mentioned is rather gross on the whole, but it is quite funny in how it portrays desperate pathetic would-be swains who will go any length to catch a glimpse of Mary, or have a moment of her attention, all the while feigning "friendship" or a professional relationship.
It looks like this guy is still dreaming- wait till you get your next steady fella, your former boss will FREAK!!!
Love to you,
Changing
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Thanks Hope
and changing
and I broke my bloody leg--my car is still at the therpsit's and I have to figure out tomorrow, the Office and another office and getting my car back with a long legged cast on my right leg--have done it before--just kind of forgot
Nothin earth-shattering!
Love
Izzy
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Iz,
Spit, damn, s_it! You didn't deserve that. It is a big deal and I'm sorry this has happened to you. I wish I could do more than get mad that it's happened and tell you that I'm sorry.
Walking with you the best way I know how...
Sending love,
tt
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Feels good to assert yourself in the right way, to the right degree in the right situation, doesn't it?
Nothing worse than worrying about overdoing it or getting it wrong.
That guy needed to be told.
Good job.
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Izzy, :o What in the world? Did you decide to try break-dancing and succeed??
Oh (((((((((Izzy))))))))) you'd best behave yourself and get better quick. How long's the cast to be on?
Wish I could help fetch your car and tote you in some groceries and stuff.
Hope you'll check in here again soon and say how you're doin over there... I'll be thinking of you.
Love,
Hope
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Oh Izzy,
I know you've been waiting for a break, a breakthrough, but- ummm- not quite the kind you wanted, huh?
Thinking of you-
cats paw
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Izzy,
You broke your leg?? What is up with that?? And it IS a big deal! I am feeling a little outrage for your right now! That is just not fair. And, of course, you will take it like a champ.
Love that you are asserting yourself. I agree with Light. That guy needed to be told.
I just asserted myself with my older bro and my dad. They are amazingly smart and can retain lots of information and frequently expound it unchallenged. I am smart but in different ways. We were talking about global warming and politics and they, of course, expounded like they knew it all. For the first time, in a long time, I challenged them and expressed my own views. They were not used to being challenged and didn't really validate my position at all. But, it felt good to have a voice! And to practice asserting my views and opinions in a less threatening forum.
Thought I would share that and say that it feels really good. Doesn't it?
Poppy
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tt, lighter, Hope, cat and pops
I have been falling a lot when I put chair in or take it out of, the car. I dropped like a sack of potatoes yesterday, right at therapist's parking lot. My car is still there. Gotta get it.
My leg twisted and I landed on it. I saw my foot looking funny, lke backwards, so I pulled it out from under me, turned it around--ulkkk-- and saw I had broken my leg in two places.
And I was planning for a Dr Appointment about the weakness. If anyone remembers, I fell 5 times in two days--no breaks though.--and I was short on potassium, causes weakness. Changed meds and blood was okay.
I am old you know and after 38 years my leg bones are very fragile.
I have broken this foot
this ankle twice before
This leg once before--long leg cast
nearly every toe,
my left ankle twice.
Now to see how my charm has worked on my workmates, for help. Chores for today are taken care of now by Office gal--who does all the registrations. I had to wheel to the Bank for statements--printouts-- as she isn't okayed, but I am. I need practice as I am off balance.
At least I am not pregnant!!
and yes POPS---there is a great feeliing in being assertive, quiet, no anger , and just speaking your mind. I love it and have had so many years of not speaking up
Love to all
Izzy
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Dear Izzy,
Yikes! I am relieved to hear that you are not pregnant! :P :D
Please watch that potassium and calcium and whatever else might help to sturdy up those middle-aged bones (expecting you to live to 136, dontchaknow...) and just take extra good care of yourself! !!
Love,
Hope
P.S. Got any autographs on that cast yet?
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Hope, :lol: I am lol! Funny girl!
Izzy, Ok. I just have to ask...... Can you feel it when you break something? You sound so used to it. Almost like it is breaking a dish in the kitchen. Which makes me smile at your strength. But I worry about how much pain you are in.
Poppy
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::SIGH::
Oh Izzy....
I guess there isn't any pain but.... sweetie.....
I just hate that you have to go through that.
What in the heck makes it so hard to keep from falling?
Does your therapist need to meet you in the lot and help you get back into the car....
or....
something?
You livein f'n Canada for cripes sake!
Canada is populated with a whole bunch of very nice people, eh?
Ask for some help.... esp when you're feeling weak and a off.
TED BUNDY got young girls to help him!
Ask some strapping young men to help!
That's an order.
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:lol: :lol: Hope
Nope, No autographs yet!---never ever thought of that, even with the others.
:? :? Poppyseed
Breaking a dish! Hmph! Well a very good analogy. All my breaks have been below the knees and I have no pain, heat, cold, feeling there. I just hear 'snaps' and know something is broken and away I go for an x-ray and a cast.
The paramedics told me that anyone else would be ripping their faces off and screaming with the pain. Likely when I act so nonchalant, in comparison, no one worries as much--not sure. Anyway but this long legged cast is pinching my inner thigh between it and the toilet seat. I feel like screaming but it would do no good. My skin is bruised. I have also heard the bones move in there while lifting it fom place to place, but am not weight-bearing.
Aas far as the pain I do not feel, it is a bit of a conundrum to wonder if the pain/non pain is having any effect!
:D :D Lighter
I had a nice taxi driverr drive me to my car. He was very helpful, getting me into his front seat, put w/ch in the trunk. We chit-chatted then arrived at therapist's place. I was able to swing my legs aout and get into my chair, then he wheeled me to my car and it was like fitting me into cereal box, but we finally made it. Driver's seat was further back becasue of stiff cast. He was going to put my chair into my trunk and I knee-jerked a response, kind of a yell, NO NO-- as antyone with a brain knows I would never get to it there. I think he realized that and then wouldn't listen to me as he shoved it in the passenger door to behind my seat. I knew I was in trouble. I needed it done my way, in from the driver's door so I would know i'd be okay.
I tipped him and he left.
I drove home using both throttle and brakes on hand controls and all was fine, until I tried to get out. I was in the underground parking for about 3/4 hour. I tried everything I could to get a start at getting out and just went from one idea to another. I finally did it and all was well.
I need practices. there.
I saw my therapist when there and I had emailed her about my leg, so she knew why I was there, She has emailed back and telephoned me yesterday. She has a little room for early arrivers to sit in while the previous one is finishing up. I might not fit it, but I can only try. If that doesn't work , I wait in a foyer and she will come and get me.
Just the car...... just the car to try again but all MY way.
Falling? old age, weakness, bad blood, low potassium, nervous from previous falls, I will see my Dr. soon for meds and we'll talk.
Thank for writing me gals as this has put a big STOP sign in my life., or so I feel. I always think with every break I am being told to slow now. I do thinks quickly and was going to do my own thing at the hospital and they had to keep telling me to relax. THEY would take care of me.
Much Love
Izzy
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OMG
Am I ever weak! Anyone know why?
I barely made ˝ block to get to the bank, and was on my way to the Library. I stopped at Drug Store first and I was even weaker. I set out for Library and asked the first sane looking person to please push me. She did and didn't even turn left at the corner, to go to her place, she turned right and took me all the way to the Library.
The 2 blocks to get home , I was all alone, a seldom walked street and wondered if I'd make it.
Maybe I weakened when I was fighting to get in and out of the taxi and my car, yesterday.
I knew a guy who was full of cancer and no one knew it, not even him. Then he was in a car crash and it 'set fire' to the cancer cells and he was a goner.
I feel like a goner!
Izzy
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Izzy.....
I want to talk to you for a moment.
It's OK to ask for help.
It's OK to tell people that you're struggling... and ask for help.
I do it all the time trying to scramble around for babysitters.
I hate it but.... I don't want to miss parent teacher meetings and open houses at the girl's schools.
I don't want to miss courtdates and doctor appointments.
So I ask.... and I don't worry what I look like,
mostly: /
A person who doesn't have any family that can or will help her.
Sad but there it is.
Ask..... set things up ahead of time. Have someone there in the parking garage when you arrive.
Have someone set up to push you from the Library.
I met the most adorable Eagle Scout at my oldest dd's school the other day! He'd be wonderful at this sort of thing!
Ask... please.
It's OK.
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Iz,
It could easily be the potassium levels again. They can really throw you out of whack and you've had trouble in the past. Did you say that your doctor was going to check them again? Can you make a call and see if that can be done more quickly? Sound the alarm to your doctor--that's what he's there for. It's the 21st century, there's no point in living with that kind of imbalance for one second.
Iz, we care about you. Please let us know how you are. Lots of updates, okay?
Love
CB
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Thanks lighter
I did ask!! Today!!
The last time I broke this leg was 1984 and I was walking on crutches-- I still had my strength and could manage fine.
This time my arms are so weak, but I am 23 years older.
I have to know what I am going to be doing to find someone to help.
I come and go as I please, but maybe not now!
Izzy
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Thanks CB
I will call and make an app't. Have to anyway, cuz of meds running out soon.
As well, my body is away off balance with the cast dragging down the right side. I loaded 3 towels under my right thigh--might add more if these squish ---- and it feels better---taking the strain off it. Balance is everything.
Thanks for caring
Izzy
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Iz, I hope you have an appointment made... a very soon one.
Waiting to hear.
Oh, I wondered if a piece of foam between the top rim of cast and your skin... you know, that smooshy memory foam stuff?
Might help and less bulky than towels.
Still waiting to hear.
Love,
Hope
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Hi Iz
It may be a good idea to have your doc check your vitamin D levels.
Here's an article by Alan Gaby, who used to be at NIH, on the effects of vitamin D deficiency.
He wrote this in 2004. Now, more and more studies are proving him right.
The effect on balance is almost unbelievable.
http://www.townsendletter.com/July2004/gabyeditorial0704.htm
If any of this sounds sensible to you, then talk to your doc, because the interaction of vitamin D with calcium, etc., is tricky. But given that you have limited mobility, live in the North, smoke, do not get much sunlight, etc., you are at risk of osteoporosis - these are all risk factors, I know you can't help them. Vitamin D supplementation can help that problem too. And now they know that it helps ladies of a certain age, such as myself and yourself, much more than they used to think it did.
Good luck, Iz. I am amazed by the things you have endured, and the things you continue to endure. I could not handle for ten minutes what you have dealt with for years.
Maybe vitamin D can help reduce those things by one or two, anyway. Please look at the article and at least consider it...
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Hi Hope,
I was so tired I went and lay down to read and slept for 2 hours. It's 7"30 now. I will get the doctor tomorrow, but he won't see this as an emergency, Been trying for years to find another.
The towels are to raise the level of my right thigh to the level of my left so as my lap is balanced. Need balance for proper moving. As far as something between the cast and my leg, I haven't found anything around the house, yet, that will fit there and stay. I tried a face cloth. I want something soft and stiff -------------No! not THAT!
(And I thought I had done a good job of sorting and throwing out odds and ends and things I no longer needed. One was 2-3-4 pairs of those wide-legged shorts, forget the name, like skirts, oh, skorts? that would fit over the cast where my clam diggers don't)
Hi Stormchild
That is a wonderful article. I stay out of the sun (but I got skin cancer anyway) and all those other benefits sound wonderful. I NEED THEM. I'll print that and take to the doctor. He might not know.
How did you come up with that so fast?--or did you already know. I didn't know!
Love
Izzy
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Izzy ditto every word about getting help.
Time for you to contact agencies that are SUPPOSED to help people in your shoes!
I am so so sorry you're going through this. It is such horrible luck.
You're wise to reevaluate and consider it a wakeup, and you are SO smart, organized, and capable.
If you can swallow your allergic-to-assistance thingy, you could line up a lot of sensible services,
public nurses popping in, disability paymenst while you're off work (I hope?), whatever's out there
that you qualify for...
You are an amazing, amazing person Miz Izz. You deserve to be part of a 3-D community, and
you are very precious to this one.
lots of love,
Hops
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Hi Izzy,
Not sure how, but in googling "tic disorders - laughter" I stumbled across this article:
http://ayjw.org/articles.php?id=847382
Says that “Enzyme In Pineapple Can Harden Your Bones” (the fresh stuff, not canned or processed)
I hope you'll ask for and receive any help you need today and find plenty of reasons to smile.
With love,
Hope
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Izzy,
Who is helping you? I feel like I need to bring you dinner! Is anyone bringing you dinner? Cleaning your dishes? Vaccuming the floor? Tell me who to call!!!
I am thinking of you Iz! I hate it when our bodies betray us!
Love and goo,
Poppy
PS. Imagine me at your door with warm, homemade dinner and a toilet brush! Put me to work! :D
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Iz... I was thinking more along the lines of getting the phone numbers of folks who are always AT the places YOU GO.
Who is at the library that can come out and assist you? A guard you giggle with regularly?
Whos is at your place of residence that can pop down to the garage and help out with the loading and unloading?
Surely there's some character that works from home or recieved a bit too much in that trust fund from Uncle Frank? Who's heart and life would be broadened by having to get out of that stained t shirt 3 or 8 times a week, splash some water on his pits and rush down to assist a maiden in distress?
THINK WOMAN!
IS THERE an Eagle Scout within 4 blocks of you?
That your therapist will get her butt out there to help in the future is a given, right?
Who are the people you giggle with, Izzy?
I promise you..... they would feel honored if self sufficient tuffy Izz asked them for help.
You always seem so capable.... it's never occurred that you need help.... tell them.
((Izzy))
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Hi Stormchild
That is a wonderful article. I stay out of the sun (but I got skin cancer anyway) and all those other benefits sound wonderful. I NEED THEM. I'll print that and take to the doctor. He might not know.
How did you come up with that so fast?--or did you already know. I didn't know!
Love
Izzy
Hi Iz
I discovered Dr. Gaby when my cardiologist discovered that I had a fractured vertebra [chest X-ray showed it] and it turned out I had osteopenia from spending years and years tending to dying loved ones and working full time and eating badly and sleeping badly and doing nothing for myself.
Dr. G wrote a book called 'Preventing and Reversing Osteoporosis' which was years ahead of its time. I was already very interested in alternative medicine and this just focused my interest. I've been tracking vitamin D research for years now.
As you have described your symptoms over time it's sounded more and more like vitamin D deficiency could be part of the problem. And after I got 'scurvy' from not being able to take my vitamins when I had the ulcer, I'm really convinced that vitamin deficiencies may be very common in our indoor, sedentary society.
But your situation is such that you really must work with a doc, experimenting could be dangerous. I'm glad you found the article useful and that you'll talk to your doctor...
((((( )))))
this too shall pass....
.... PS among the other amazing things Vitamin D does, it appears to inhibit certain forms of cancer, including some types of skin cancer.
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Hello Darling One-
I am so sorry to hear about your leg and its attendant troubles- I only wish that I could help you in a concrete way. When I had my accident I was in the hospital and at recovery places for several months. When I was finally sent home, my NH lived in an apartment and my "friend " to whom I had lent my car did not pick me up at the hopsital as planned(I waited for hours until I got a taxi- and had the car repo'ed from her ASAP). Initially I had home health nurses and therapists come (I couldn't walk or get into the wheelchair yet). I paid a neighbor to bring food once a day. When I was able to go to physical therapy, a Medivan came with steps that I couldn't get up with a walker- I had to crawl, while keeping the Frankenfoot elevated- it took a long time! It was very hard and disheartening, and I really hate that you are also left in the lurch like that!!!! You deserve better!!!!
If you have a neighbor who you are friendly with, perhaps they can take you shopping or shop for you, get your meds, etc, take you to the doctors? Do they have a public transportation system specifically for the disabled where you are (they do here now and it is pretty good- you get vouchers, make appointments, etc)?
Greens, such a collard greens, are a more efficient method of delivering vitamin D, etc., than are pills, milk, etc, they are very vitamin-dense, and the vitamins assimilate well. Perhaps you could eat some- they really help the bones- the lack of weight-bearing may be one of the major causes of the fragility of your lower limbs, and it is essential that you get all of the nutritional support possible. Have you tried electrical muscle stimulation- in my case, it helped to stave off atrophy , helped circulation, tendons and helped the bones that were "melting away" from disuse.
I'm sure you already know this, but sodas, coffee, etc are verboten when one is trying to build up the bone mass. Do you have a pool therapy facility in your area? We have a great facility nearby, with an underwater treadmill and other things that help to simulate weight-bearing exercises that cannot be done out of the water. You cannot do this now of course, but later perhaps in order to stop the trend of bone breaks.
I am sorry that you are so tired- I get that way when I am overwhelmed and cannot cope anymore with the pain and stress and having to use so much effort to accomplish commonplace things alone. Do you have any sort of insurance that covers a home health nurse or home help? If not, can you afford to hire someone a day or two a week? Can a sib or two come out and help? Or other family? How about the old boss/wannabe boyfriend?
I am very concerned for you Izzy, and am putting you prominently on the prayer list at my church.
Devoted Love to Queen Izzy,
Changing
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Thank you Hops, Pops, lighter
Stormchild and changing
for making my days brighter
Nothing happens on Sunday.
Community Care Intake will call back in order of need.
We have handicap buses, but I am not yet registered. Will take taxis.
I can still do almost everything from the wheelchair, such as cook and load the dishwasher, compute, TV, go to bathroom, sit on can to wash from tub right beside, and bed. Need linen change though.
Office girl will bring and pickup re work. (Wednesdays)
Trying for Dr. app.t Thurs----
When my falling first began diarrhea was what I deduced had weakened me and it would appear that is it again, and was one time in between. Need more info there, and the Vit D discussion with Doc.
Arms are much stronger now and most all over aches and pains have gdone.....just shoulders now.
Library is all accessible. I just have to get there and only 2 blocks, as are Drug Store and Bank.
You sure had a time, changing. I was on the verge of asking the Dr. to send me to physical therapy to strengthen my legs--I used to have far more exercise when I used the crutches as well.......Not since last break (left ankle) in 2003.... and I also have a 'crooked ' foot that was seemingly becoming worse, really turning inward when I stood and changed the direction of my knee, for locking. I was going to ask about doing something to straighten my foot, for the coming years. I could even take a hammer and smash the hell out of it, put it in place and not feel anything.
No old men or siblings to help as they all live in Ontario. Even the CC-Intake person wouldn't have much to do.
Things I have not yet tried,
Making my bed,
laundry,
marketing, using car for that and appointments.
I can dress myself and dial a cab, so am okay for now.
Will update
I SO appreciate the care and concern you've all shown.
Love
Izzy
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Plucky and Feisty Girl-
You certainly are recovering quickly! Perhaps while you are waiting for Community Care you can hire a cleaning service to change the linens and such? In the interim, get yourself an orthopedic surgeon specializing in feet for a consult to ascertain the mysterious origin of the foot turning- could be improper alignment of ankle after the break or tendon tightening; appointments for after the healing period for physical therapy ; and some fresh carrot juice and greens (if available). In the future, we will line up a group of strong and healthy suitors with well-honed domestic skills, who also know how to squeeze fresh juice and cook greens properly.
You are very precious to me- I am hoping and praying for a fast healing and a magnificent outcome for you! Please let us know how you are.
Love you very much,
Changing
P.S. I liked your palette-Are you starting a painting?
Love,
C.
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hi changing,
I was just reading, through Google, about tib/fib breaks, looking for a time span.
Wow! They apparently are the worst. Painful, and 'walkies' are operated on, given rods, screws and other hardware. It's a long healing process etc. 9 months?
..................and here I sit 5 days later in no pain and just a cast, since I'm already in a w'chair. The only problem is the top of the cast is gouging inner and outer thigh, so I'm sure that will be adjusted tomorrow.
Re my foot. I fell many many years ago, when on my crutches and broke that foot. Unfortunately, the x-ray did not show any breaks, so the swelling and bruising had to go all the way down, for me to realize, it had broken and had healed improperly. There had always been a slight turn inward as though I bear weight on my arch. (That foot is NOW in this cast)
I had just recently noticed that my foot was almost turning on its side when I stood to put the chair in. When that happened, the knee above would swivel a quarter turn, inward facing other knee, from being straight-locked (I seldom, if ever watched my feet when doing the chair thingy, in and out) and being that I watch what I do I looked back up and afterward wondered if that knee hit my other one and made me 'drop'.
That was the foot I was going to have looked at..........................now I wait.....9 months I'll bet.
Thanks for the men--when do they arrive?
Thank you for caring. I didn't bother telling anyone in the family, as they can do nothing. Just people at work know, some in my building saw my grand return with the cast, my therapist and here.............
The palette is just an image, for colour, as are many others I use!
or action
Love Izzy
You take care too, now. What is your current medical situation?
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Ummmm.... so have you gotten any help lined up at your building, the libray..... grocery store yet?
BTW.... you are one tough cookie and definately on my Hero list, Izz.
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Thank you Hops, Pops, lighter
Stormchild and changing
for making my days brighter
Community Care Intake will call back in order of need.
We have handicap buses, but I am not yet registered. Will take taxis.
I can still do almost everything from the wheelchair, such as cook and load the dishwasher, compute, TV, go to bathroom, sit on can to wash from tub right beside, and bed.
Office girl will bring and pickup re work. (Wednesdays)
Trying for Dr. app.t Thurs----
Arms are much stronger now and most all over aches and pains have gdone.....just shoulders now.
Library is all accessible. I just have to get there and only 2 blocks, as are Drug Store and Bank.
You sure had a time, changing. I was on the verge of asking the Dr. to send me to physical therapy to strengthen my legs--I used to have far more exercise when I used the crutches as well.......Not since last break (left ankle) in 2003.... and I also have a 'crooked ' foot that was seemingly becoming worse, really turning inward when I stood and changed the direction of my knee, for locking. I was going to ask about doing something to straighten my foot, for the coming years. I could even take a hammer and smash the hell out of it, put it in place and not feel anything.
No old men or siblings to help as they all live in Ontario. Even the CC-Intake person wouldn't have much to do.
Things I have not yet tried,
Making my bed,
laundry,
marketing, using car for that and appointments.
I can dress myself and dial a cab, so am okay for now.
Will update
I SO appreciate the care and concern you've all shown.
Love
Izzy
hi lighter
That saved retyping.
Thank you for thinking of me, and WOW I am a hero!!!!!!!
Love
Izzy
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I guess that means you haven't asked anyone to help you with getting into or out of your car?
To the bank, library... etc?
Did I miss something in that post.... I've read it twice now: /
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When I go to the bone clinic tomorrow--I mentioned somewhere--excuse if not here--they will fix the top of my cast so it will not cause me pain and I can use my car
Library is accessible to me, as is the Bank, as is the Drug Store, and supermarket.
Linda will bring my work.
I have used a wheelchair for quite a few years to cook, clean, shop, 'walk, run and dance'
Community Care Intake will call back in order of need. is re making bed, taking me places/run errands, doing laundry.
Please don't worry so much. I have managed through other breaks and casts. Before computers, I crocheted a huge afghan for my daughter--white, pearl gray, pink and deep rose, --zig-zag pattern
EDIT I guess I never mentioned that I can put the chair into the car from a seated position, takes longer, but can do, and would do if I thought my legs were weak.
Any time I have fallen is when I thought I was gaining strength and could stand to do it!
Please forgive the ommission
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Iz,
I love having the opportunity to know you. You know how to get stuff done. You know what it means to overcome.
Sending tender hugs...
tt
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My Dear-
Ooh that cast-looks heavy! 9 months is a long time- you certainly will have a sufficient period to work your feminine wiles upon a few hapless suitors by then. They can help out as well as take the edge off the boredom of recuperation. My foot and leg are much better, thank you. The swelling has lessened, the color better (hey Izzy, why do even your photos of injuries look so good,while mine look hideous in a Frankenstein sort of way, almost worthy of an old-fashioned freak show- now I'm sure that you have a Dorian Gray type secret)- but the pain is not resolving to its usual level- I have major prescriptions, but my genius man doctor told me to use them sparingly, as they won't be as effective when the bone pain is at its highest level. The nerve pain is always there (another Rx.) Unlike you, Miss "Bomar Brain", I only have a few gray cells left, so I can't drug myself into oblivion while in law school. There are no joints left in the foot as per my xrays - I'm waiting for them to grow a new and improved cloned one! Back surgery healing seems complete. In short- if I were a horse they would have put me out of my misery! Luckily I have you to inspire me! Accidents, broken leg, wheelchair, etc, and you are still the best darned worker ever to have graced the planet!!! What a woman!!! I'm not worthy! I'm not worthy! You have set the bar very high, Woman!
You are an amazing creature and I am honored to have the privilege of corresponding with you.
Love and Best Wishes,
Changing
P.S. By the way, how did you get that picture of me and NH with our trusty mallets?
Love,
C.
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hi tt
Thank you for your sweet e-mail.
I came back to tell you this:
A tib/fib is one of the worst breaks. One guy broke his tib and not his fib, so the doctors broke it for him (All reading from Google returns.) It's almost funny!
and it's for you too changing,
Oh the pain you must endure! I feel guilty in return! your bone and nerve pain will reach higher levels???? do you cry?
I don't. I just have a terrribly bruised inner thigh and an open sore on the outer thigh that hurt tremendously and I just grit my teeth. Also the top muscles of my upper thigh are overstreched and painful from lifting this heavy cast and I've just learned that to lay back on the bed and flip both legs over my head very quickly, it works that they get up there then I have a better, going with gravity-related hold to place the right where I want it.
That pic is a green fiberglass cast, with a white stocking over it so it won't rip the skin on my other leg--been there, done that, went to Roboboot, 2003.
No joints left? The muscles hold it in shape? Let's 'go to pasture' together when we feel the time has come! Should we go on horseback?
.....and you do give me too much credit, as I just do what has to be done to keep me sane! (My 3rd tib/fib, btw, in 23 yrs.)
.....BUT, I never attemped law school or such. I do SO admire you for that!
Still no suitors allowed in the picture! I couldn't resist you and your NH, for all the board to see....................
take good care, tt and changing
Love
Izzy
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Hello Dear Heart-
Just checking on you. Have you gotten word on help in your domestic sphere or the medical situation? Hope you are more comfortable, the cast was straightened out, linens changed and such. I didn't bother you with my questions yesterday because I knew it was going to be a taxing one at the ortho doctor's office and you most likely would be exhausted. I surely wish that I could help in person.
With Love and Concern,
Changing
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hi changing~~~~ and anyone else
Nope! My bed is a mess. I tucked the fitted corners back under last night. The linens looks as though a huge egg beater went at them. One deals!! it won't last!!
Have paid for 4 taxi rides. I want to use my own car. New post coming up.
6-8" was removed from the top of my cast that relieves the 'pain' of bruising on the inside of my thigh, and the sore on the outside is actually all the way across the back of my thigh and open in two places, draining, very close to infection. All well now.
I get a new cast next Monday.
Was at therapy today! Back to the scene of the accident! and the Cab I booked for 4:00 didn't come to take me to the Dr. appointment I had. A young man with a cell helped. I called Dr. first and she had left, then I called Cab and told them they had missed my booking and I lost my appointment, but please come anyway!. Dr. app't was re Vitamin D and about my weakness, now 6 months (I checked as I first started therapy with a fat ankle and now another.) weakness was coming and going, then I realized it was TOO not right and had to check--not potassium, I expect.
Tomorrow Linda brings work to me and picks up what she left last week. Generously offered by her to help out!
Community Care Intake has not called and I need space, which I will have tomorrow, during business hours, to call and ask? or call someone else?
Damned taxis are not punctual as I am, so must get my car on the road again!
Therapy brought up a question. I will begin a new thread!
xx
Izzy
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Hello Queen Izzy-
I am glad to hear that the torture-chamber cast has been altered. Those wounds you have suffered sound hideous, and the whole treatment incident seems that it could be below minimum standards of care- truly terrible. How could they have made such an error and left you to suffer for so long a period? Were the wounds themselves treated?
Lord, but I hate those Medi-vans, taxis and Access Vans that one must depend upon to get anywhere when driving is impossible. Always late, and pushing the incapacitated person who has been waiting to hurry, hurry, hurry, get in, get out! Of course, the doctors and others who always make one wait for long periods in the waiting room don't understand a patient's lateness of a few moments, and either the appointment is cancelled or there is unending scolding, etc.
I hope things get better and you have more reliable and less prohibitive transportation, Dear Girl. My heart just fell when I read about your predicament.I have been stuck like that and it was horrible- I was stretching my budget to take an expensive taxi just a short distance away- I was very hungry , etc. After I was dropped off and got food, etc., hopping and inching the walker along, the promised cab did not come as promised for the return trip.I was wearing a very heavy cast and could not put any weight whatsoever on my foot and it was throbbing as I stood waiting with the walker, keeping the foot up (I was supposed to keep it elevated at all times, and should have stayed home)- like you, someone helped me. But I hate thinking of you in that position, and I hope it never happens to you again.
How lovely that Linda (whose name actually means lovely) has offered her help! Fantastic!I am sure that she adores you like we all do, and it is nice to have someone you know and trust to assist. Oh Izzie- I wish that I could be of some help too. You are in my prayers.
Love,
Changing
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Thank you, changing
You help me with your wealth of understanding and your support in your responses! I love to hear from you.
It is odd that 2 ortho Drs were present as a gal--nurse? what?--put on my cast. Dr.s held my leg up and even though there were conversations, talkings about the cast, they let the gal put it that high-- I NOTICED BUT WAS NOT IN THE KNOW Imagine 6-8" to much!!
The wounds were treated yesterday.
I was using regular taxis--call them and they say --in 15 minutes-- Book a cab and it doesn't show-- the driver who finally arrived, knocked my fare DOWN, knowing that I missed the Dr. app't with their lateness. Ay least it weas a lovely sunny day to sit and wait.
Your experiencre sounds far worse than mine. If I felt pain I would scream!
Linda and I work well together, and we are the only paid employees.
Love to you, changing
Izzy
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Hey Izzy.... sorry to hear you missed your T appointment.
I sometimes have phone appointments if I'm running late or just can't make it.
I also have a relationship with one taxi cab man I call when I need a punctual ride.
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hi
It was my Doctor that I missed and I'm finding taxis not reliable at all, even if booked ahead.
Am gonna get my car on the road
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Hi Ms. Assertive Izzybella
I am way behind on posting here, as I'm asserting myself over those little white nasty breath-stopper sticks and fighting back a lying-virus which seems to think it needs smoke in order to stay in remission. Oh yeah, that makes sense. Anyhow, sending hugs and good wishes and wondering when that cast is gonna get some artwork on it for decorative purposes??!
You sound good. That makes me smile.
I think I'm about due for a good cry. How about you?
With love,
Carolyn Hope
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hi Hope
I still smoke, 6 cigs a day, not even concerned with quitting.
I get a new cast on Monday. This one was 'built' around the huge bulge of blood that escaped the bones. I have a sore on my thigh from the tightness of the cast, but the top was stripped and exposed it. Now the top is above my knee and I know there is another sore down there. Will only be a week so won't be infected.
I feel good. Keep on smiling!
My bed looks like it was hit with a giant eggbeater, but---circumstances can make me 'put up' with things I cannot control, as long as I know whatever is temporary.
I've been due a good cry for about 16 years--- sure I'm due but what is going to set me off. I might need a full day of nothing but good old sad 50s & 60s C&W , mainly Johnny Cash. In 1967, my love, Johnny, sent me into tears and wailing when I put on a record of his that I hadn't heard for just a year!!
I play a lot of Mah-Jong online.
Love
Izzy
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I don't book ahead with taxi companies.... I get the card from ONE free lance taxi guy and I've never been let down since.
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Hi Izz,
Maybe a mattress topper and then just a nice duvet would be a good setup, so you just kind of "fling" the duvet up and it's made?
love
Hops
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Iz,
I love mahjong! Haven't played in ages, but still have the cd for it to play on the computer.
My challenge is to get through a puzzle as fast as possible... well, at least that's how I used to do it. At this point, might take a far more relaxed approach :)
We're looking into one of those memory foam mattress toppers... @ $100.00 for a queen-size (can't afford new mattress set now)
Sounds like a great way to keep things neat and hopefully more cozy! I love Hops' idea of flinging the comforter over top...
so simple. You could get a rolling start and fling it like a lasso... who knows, might create a new fad!
They were playin Johnny at Wallyworld last time I was there... I thought of you. Didn't cry then, tho.
Sorry you have to go through the experience of another cast putting-on, but sure sound like it'll be an improvement. I hope it goes smoothly.
You take good care of yourself, Missy.
Love to you,
Carolyn
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Thanks for the idea anyway
All new to me to sleep on a topper with a Duvet--sound s a bit sterile and cold?
I am a bedlinens, blankets, pillows and cases and bedspread gal.
Never entered the Duvet era, since one called for a bed skirt and I cannot take off a mattress to remove the skirt to launder. Without a skirt the box spring shows as well and wheels and brackets,
.....so I have a bedspread, custom made with draperies to match and they are 20 years old but still beautiful. I'll soon be able to handle them again.
I can stick a pillow under my chin to put on a pillow case, but I cannot imagine sticking a mattresstopper under my chin to put on ITS cover.
Thanks all. will be taking care!
Love
Izzy
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My Darling Girl-
I have been neglecting you, but see that you have a loving covey of sweet friends about, helping with their good advice and cheer. Lighter's idea about the phone therapy is a good one for now- saves the stress of transportation, and its pretty similar to face to face T ( though they can't see the face contortions, etc!). There is a bedskirt that fastens about the bed with velcro- though it might still be tough to pull out the part next to the wall (but not impossible).
Oh, I hate to hear about that nasty cast- I hope that they had someone in their right mind fashion it this time. Truly horrible to contemplate the sore inside and wounds above. They should work for free on this one, and carry you to and from on their backs...GRRRRR!
Hope you have plenty of engrossing books to read, and good food and rest to facilitate your healing.
Love to you in Canada from the U.S. of A.,
Changing
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Hi
You are so busy with your own things, as I feel about myself sometimes, its difficult to get to the board.
I would NOT like therapy by phone. I am not an emergency, so would just cancel. I am not going into bed skirts..
The cast was okay at the beginning as there is a very big bulge in it from where it had to be casted around the awful "growth of blood that bulged out. I'm sure that bulge has gone down somewhat, so that will be one reason and the other will be where the sensitve areas of my skin are.
I had no return calls from Community Care, but have a handle on a very good person who has been with my boss and his wife for some time! I asked him to ask her if she is taking on others, and I would be temporary, 9 months or less, but NOW anyway.
Love from Polar Bear Country
Izzy
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Izzy dear Izzy,
I hope I could virtually autograph your cast.
Put this on there, in psychedelic colors:
Izz = Inspiration
love you,
Hops
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You Dear Thing-
How are you- I hope your linens are now blindingly immaculate, and those horrific wounds and sores have healed!Please know that I care, and that you are truly precious!
Your adoring friend,
Changing
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AHA! There you are changing!
To update you here, my linens are immaculate, but are still folded, sitting on my radiio and ready to be put in place. In the meantime, I have my wild stripy ones that are all in a state of total disarry and I still sleep like Izzy.
Community Care never called so am still trying.
Tomorrow is bone clinic day and they will check my leg sore (across the back of my thigh from the first cast height --see pic--I had a riot taking that one.) It appears to be one layer of skin that has slipped apart, doesn't bleed and I can see the flesh in between. It is so hard to heep a bandage there, as I turn and slide on that very spot.
I know another sore has developed on the side of my knee, under the cast, but i cannot get a proper peek at it.
I am to receive a new cast tomorrow. Oh HOPS--that is why I have no autographs as yet!
So coming up is to try the car with the new cast then hopefully on my own, grocery shopping, therapy, and to the Office---since the Cab Co. didn't send a taxi I booked for 4:00 p.m. with a 4:20 Dr. app't----still have to reschedule.
And what are YOU doing out of bed?????? How are you now?
Love
Izzy
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Poor Dear Thing-
I am sorry that things have not been sorted out yet- I am moving so am not sleeping in bed-have a couch set up. I have a laptop, so I use it anywhere, haven' t moved
much today, but I am getting up now. I am so sad about your wounds-Please make certain that they are better attended to by someone who did NOT cause them. Maybe call Linda or the Community agency again to morrow?
Love and concern,
Changing
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Careful..... I'm going to sick my sister on you.....
::picturing sister holding Izzy down and tending to her leg::
She's a little bulldog, lol..... and she lives in CANADA!
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Hi lighter and changing and anyone else
I have a new cast on my leg. DAVE bandaged the sore on my upper leg so it wouldn't come off--this week will tell
When I saw my leg I went, "YUK! What is that?" There is a hige bloodblister on the front of my calf, about 2" in diameter.
Now I have a new cast every week!
FUNNY THINGS HAPPEN
I wore my clam diggers, but knowing a new cast, not the size, so took along a pair of sweat pants in case. Yep. Dave peeled off the capris, then casted me then put on my sweats for me I left to go call a cab and I had no capris. Where?
Went back and rummaged through the linens, then when Ortho Dr. finished his phone call, I said I lost my pants, explained and he had Dave paged to call casting room re where are the pants you took off that lady! We were all howling, and especially when they were in a plastic bag, hanging on my chair---just as how I brought the sweats in!--following along behind me.
I gather broken leg stories will end as it will just be healing and new casts, so my leg /skin can be checked each week.
Now on to other things.
Love
Izzy
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GRRRR GRRRR GRRRR
This cast is supposed to ssist in healing- 8 inches too high, wounds, and bandages falling, and blisters and pooling blood- unacceptable, bordering upon negligence. Your poor leg...and all the while you are seeing the humor in things. You are so strong and smart. Is the weekly casting burdensome for you? At least you will be attended to weekly. I am so sorry about this- I hope it heals quickly.
Love,
Changing
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Iz,
So.... is DAVE cute? :o
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Thank you changing. Everything was a mess from the Emergency cast..... 2 doctors held my leg while a girl did the casting
Since I am not a casting director, I thought they would know. And with tender/sensitive/paralyzed skin anywayanywhere, even I don't know which areas might be troublesome.
Yes Dave is cute! He is bald and sexy--- not sure if a tanned white or a non-white but he was there for me in 2003 when I had the broken ankle and was always so nice, gentle, gentlemanly, and is again. <tee hee :oops: >
I forgot to ask for the slight bend at the knee, but Dave says he'll see to it next week.
If I didn't have extended health care, I would be paying for all these casts.
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Wow, stripping and a man... I did miss a lot :)
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One of the many miraculous things about you, Izz, is that you
milk EVERYTHING for all it's worth! :lol: :lol:
Since I am not a casting director, I thought they would know
Snort. You should do standup. I mean siddown.
I am hoping this sores and pinched flesh thing will be OVER SOON.
love you,
Hops
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You are lots of fun, Izzy. I could listen to your snidely humor all day. I actually laugh out loud at your posts. I wish I had half your wit!!!
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Honestly, Izz.....
you could write a book and it would be such an interesting read.
Pants following you about, hanging on your chair, lol.
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I wish I had half your wit!!!
Hi Beth
I debated responding to this part saying "Well that would make both of us half-wits" then on the other hand, I was wondering if you did that on purpose for me to do just that. so now I have done it!
I loved Hops' snort at 'casting director' and lighter? There is always a first for everything. For 38 years I never had this happen. It bugged me to think I didn't know, then I realized that the Ortho Dr. was standing between Dave and his hanging them there, and my sitting on the bed talking to Dr. Oliver.---it's still funny, rolling all over the hospital with my pants following me.
Write a book? I've thought about it for YEARS, and wonder how to end it-- it ends when I die and then I cannot write it.
Love Izzy
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No, dear Izzy, the 'half wit' never crossed my mind. But you gave me another laugh all the same!!!!
Hmmmm... ending for your book. The author is flooded with emotions she never experienced before and wheels off into the sunset with the joy of a new day beginning in the same gorgeous colored light she appreciates this fine evening...
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Well, I found my soulmate today!
Actually yesterday, the taxi driver who came to the hospital and stuffed me into the back seat because of my new cast. In the back seat I don't talk to the driver.
In the front seat I babble like an idiot.
Anyway he picked me up at Therpay today and I forgot which trip I had had with him. I opened the front door and got in like a pro, and he remarked how much better I was . Then I realized when he had me before.
In the front seat we chatted on and on,
and
get this
we BOTH HAVE THE SAME EYESIGHT PROBLEMS!
I am so thrilled. It must be love!
Izzy
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Dear Izzy-
I can't imagine anyone not falling for you! But the driver is a lucky felllow if he has caught your eye and passed muster. Can he get you some grub? If so, I love him too! Can you request his taxi when you go to the doctor, etc? Then you will know that you can depend upon your transportation.
I hope that your leg is healing well, and was am glad to hear that your new beau saw you and said that you were better.
Things are better for me- I have to face the music at law school, but whatever happens, I can handle it. The house situation is better, and now I can concentarte on higher level stuff!
Take good care Sweetie. Keep nagging the Community services, etc.
Love you,
Changing
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Hi changing,
yep. He is car #8 --oh no that was another guy-- but he did tell me which cars to ask for with my cast.
I know you know only too well the frustrations of healing, and I know mine is a 9 month job. Do you have a length of time left to fill-in? You have to experiencce it to beleive it! When did you fall? That must have been horrendous! Then when it happens, well it did, I said well it happened and all I have to do is have patience to wait it out, do what I can and ask for help for other things.
I called the hospital yesterday and they cannot help but she was very nice and gave me 3 numbers to call today. Will get at that after Linda delivers my work and picks up what I've done. I need the phone free for her calls and to let her in. that'll be from now until noonish.
I like you positivity too--whatever happens, I can handle it!
Take care and Later
Love Izzy
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Just a note to say I went down the block and did my grocery shopping today.
I had a canvas bag with a dozen water bottles on the back, stretched to each handle, and another bag with laundry detergent (heavy) and all the rest of my groceries, except my bread and a Maple cake that were in a plastic bag last so they wouldn't get squished.
I noted to the girl that I hoped I was balanced and didn't tip backwards when popping a wheelie up a curb---ha ha and squish my bread.
I was almost home when an old, old, woman, about 68, passed me walking and pulling her little wagon full of groceries. She smiled and we said, Hi then she proceeded to unlock the front door, go in, and let the door slam ......with me coming along behind.
We don't know one another but now I know she is rude, uncaring, thoughtless, and has no sense of humour.I just said that about her as she did that and let myseelf in--went to the elevator and tried to turn around in it, but I stuck out too far with groceries. So I tried to get back into the position of when I was facing the rear wall and my wheel was caught somewhere, so the door closed and squished my bread. I hit the button to reopen the door righted myself and backed out and now all is well.
How do ya like them bananas?
Oh I also heard the prettiest music as I was coming up the sidewalk. I wondered from where, as it seemed to follow me. It was my canvas bag rubbing on the wheel!
up to date Izzy
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Ahhhhhhh, Izzy.
Warms me heart to picture you eating maple cake and hunting through a fridge full of fresh nummies: )
The rude old lady with the wagon reminds me of a woman sitting next to me on a flight.
My bag was sitting between us, on the floor, sort'a close to the imaginary HER SIDE/ MY SIDE line, lol.
What did she do?
She looked at it.... kicked it over to well beyond said line.... and didn't look up, lol!
Funny stuff and it was so odd I couldn't get angry at her.
Same thing with your little lady.....
whatever in the world happened to them....
to make them act that way? :shock:
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i hope I never become that cranky and rude.
I am doing my laundry now and dinner is a-cookin'
LaterLighter
Izzy
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You won't ever become that rude.....
ummm.... about the cranky part, lol....
hee
What was for dinner?
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Lighter
I never told you! It was steak and a salad, I think.
All
Anyway on to my leg--update
I have a knee bend in my cast now so can use my own car. Taxis are expensive....all totalled.
My leg is 'ugly' with all the bruising and the blood blister. I say that heel sore is NOT a pressure sore. They begin at the bone and the flesh and skin break down until it becomes an open sore (I ought to know from the ones I've heard about that you could put your fist into.) Just looks like the blood blister, drying around the edges. Bet it was there after the fall and in the first cast.
Every two week visits now, no taxi and can drive myself.
from Izzy, in a good mood!
EDIT) What you told Wes and me did not bother me at all, except knowing that it bothered you so much. This is what my sister, who visited, just said in an email. My Heavens! Does no one understand that feeling to be 'without feelings' is serious to me??????
from Izzy, who is appalled, but okay!
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Hi Iz,
Grettings and hugs right back at you. Glad you're able to drive the car again. Vroooooom! Vroooom!
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Asserting---
"No John, you cannot telephone me and tell me you are coming right over with the work." ( I was just getting ready to go out)
You telephone me, then tell me what you have and ask, 'When is a good time for you to have me to come'? I am going out in a minute, and good time would be 1:45."
Well that sure threw off his day. :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
He called at 1:45 that he couldn't come as he was helping his wife shop for dinner. He would be more like 2:00 and said, "But that is when your show comes on" and I said, "No, my show comes on from 3-4:00"
He called at 2:00 and said he couldn't come because his visitors needed a ride somewhere, and he needed a haircut.
He might be sobbing somewhere.
Mean Izzy
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Hello My Dear-
I tried to send a long post yesterday, then it died and I fell into a semi-comatose state (I was exhausted). I hope your wounds are healing quickly- I hate to think of the needless added trauma you are suffering in body and in spirit.
I am so glad that you can drive again- the cost in time, money and aggro is just too much when one is dependent on taxis and the like. Smart thing, you!
As for your "meanness"- although you certainly have a delightfully devilish streak, which I liken to a hint of spice, you are such a sensitive, just and kind person that you do yourself an injustice in favor of others. You are no mincing mewling crybaby, and you keep your teeth and claws sharp - but mean, you are not.
Wishing Love and Healing to You and Your Loved Ones,
Changing
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Thank you changing,
I was thinking about the infected eye I have right now, the pain, the headaches, the light sensitivity (have my eye drops since yesterday) and I realize how little actual Physical pain I have. I have broken so many bones in my legs where the pain feeling has gone, that I take things with a grain of salt. so am trying to do so with this eye and am managing quite well in spite.
I love the descriptions of me and how you soften them-- a devlish streak, with spice/teeth and claws sharp but not mean.
I usually have either -way scenarios ready for something whereby I don't know the outcome---be prepared.
I don't like surprises--that's what happened with John calling and expecting to come right over. I guess that fits in with the line above.
And how are things with you? Any more fence jumpers? Can you string barbed wire along the top, like prison and my underground parking garage?
How well are you getting around? How much pain are you dealing with now? School sounds all right/good. I saw that post and should have replied then and there, but have found I forget which thread where it is, so I ought reply immediately.
Also about pain, I know you responded about my stopping therapy and I felt you understood. I felt such unbelievably heart-wrenching emotional pain when the estrangement began with my daughter (so I was feeling then) that I had to 'put it away' as I had with all other pain.
Now I know there will be no grand re-union between us, I can take it because that feeling is gone. It is only the knowledge of it now. I decided I didn't want that pain back. EVER. I have all the knowledge of events and what I likely felt but it's all in my head.
I gather I can live with that. If I were ˝ my age I might have a different outlook.
I really hope all has been well re fence-jumpers and Bags of Worms in a big bag, namely Bagworm!
Love and Blessings
Izzy
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Hello Devilish Poor Thing-
You are really taking a beating, aren't you? The broken leg, wounds on foot and thigh, eye infections, headaches. I am so sorry that you have so much to handle Brave Girl. Have you tried hot/warm (not too) compresses on the eye? It draws out the toxins and soothes as well. I think you are worn down my dear- I know my adrenal glands have shrunken down to the size of 2 poppy seeds. Here are some heartfelt hugs for you Izzy. Wish I could whip those docs into shape for you (although my shape whipping seems a bit faulty right now!)
No one has scaled the fence lately- it looks like I am traumatized in my yard about once every 2 weeks, so there should be something coming up soon. The neighbors wouldn't give statements regarding the fence incident to the investigator I hired, though a child admitted they saw everything. So, so far I've wasted time and money, and the bad guys have gotten away with it. No more cookies and sympathy for the neighbors (I have helped them many times like an idiot)!!!!
I have this big deal paper due tomorrow and I have the flu. I have to respond to Bagworm's demand for support within a couple of days too, and I need a new lawyer. WAAAWAAAWAAA!
Izzy, please rest and eat well- your immune system is weakened from the various healings, duties and upsets. Maybe go have a little fun this weekend? Hope you are feeling better, and your friends and loved ones take proper notice of your needs behind the glittering facade of high intelligence, responsibility and independence.
Love to You and Yours,
Changing
PS- My neighbors should have that sign on your post on their fence- they certainly have proven the adage.
Hugs,
C.
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Quote from: changing on October 08, 2007, 09:38:54 PM
Izzy, My Dear Poetess- sometimes it is harder for those who see too well and feel so much- the raging wind that rasps the whitened bone and the slash of stinging salt water in the eyes (you remind me of the clean merciless truth and vision of Georgia O'Keefe in her stark and lonely paintings.)Izzy, you rock.
P.S. Collette certainly sounds like the late June Carter Cash!
Love ,
Changing
Changing
My you have a way with words, more poetic than I, but thank you for the kudos. I was struck by that knight in shining armour thingy as soon as that email arrived this past Spring, and over 10 years ago, I wrote that song as though I knew what she was thinking, with a bit of artistic license,
Collette does have a good voice and did a number of my songs
Take care now
Izzy
Then I moved it here, as I saw this last night just as I was going to bed to read, tired eye.
Thigh is healed over now, eye infection under control, pain and headaches gone.
I do get plenty of rest. I get into a good book, and will often go back to bed in the afternoon (read only laying down) end up falling asleep, then again at night. And the laydown is good for my leg.
I find it so annoying if my good turns to another are NEVER reciprocated.
Boy I sure hope Bagworm doesn't return--is he predictable????--I don't think Ns are, as then you would know where and when.
I appears you are always working under one handicap or another. Good Luck with the paper, and everything.
Love
Izzy
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