Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Overcomer on August 23, 2007, 07:58:10 PM
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Hi all. My surgery is Monday. I am busy cleaning out all the stuff from my house and am sore and tired. I am trying to do everything before Monday because then I will be holed up for a few days. Wish me luck!
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I MEAN WAY TOO BUSY-TOO TIRED TOO!
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Hello Overcomer-
Try to be nice and rested for your surgery, and take good care afterward. Soon you will be ready for your elegant new Ann Taylor Loft wardrobe!!!
Major Hugs To You,
Changing
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much good luck to you -though you shouldn't need it if you have an experienced surgeon! Heal fast, get well speedily and enjoy having some downtime.
Love
Dandylife
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Hey OC,
Good luck with your upcoming surgery - I will be thinking of you.
When you feel up to it, please check in to let us know how you are doing!
Much love,
Peace
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Dear Kelly,
I will be praying for you on Monday.You can get great designer clothes on e bay when you are a small size-- for really good prices. So, you can look there, too Love Ami
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Safety and a peaceful spirit and rapid healing to you, Kel...
I will be thinking of you Monday.
I am glad your good dream is beginning.
with love,
Hops
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Thanks to all! it is 5:54 in the morning and up to get the kids up. To the dentist then more purging. There will be a lot less toys and junk when I am done. Starting a protein shake diet today. Oh and my 12 year old autistic daughter started her period yesterday so that adds to the stress! My other girls were close to 14 so I figured I had well over a year to wait! I will keep you all posted and actually the two days after I might be on just to say hey!
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(((((((Kelly))))))) You are a courageous woman!
Good rest to you, a safe and successful surgery, and a rapid recovery... all the best blessings! You're in my prayers.
Hugs to your 12-yo, too... I hope your household simmers down and everyone will work together to help you breeze through this time.
With love,
Hope
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(((Overcomer)))
I hope it all goes well ending in speedy recovery.
See you when you can get back.
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Get well fast!
towrite
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I am in the hospital waiting for an IV and it is taking forever! I thirsty! I will let you all know how it goes!
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((((((((((Kelly)))))))))) Saying a special prayer for you now. You have a good "snooze" and please do check back in when you can... will be watching for updates.
Love,
Hope
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Dear Kelly,
I am praying for you, Friend.Can't wait to hear from you next . Love Ami
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Got to the hospital at 6 30 am and got home at 5 pm. They were so busy we had to wait for everything! I am ok- just a bit sore. I say the band through an x ray. I had to drink some white stuff to make sure I have enough of an opening. I have no solid foods for a monthi! I will lose some that way too. Overall I am very excited!
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Dear Kelly,
Glad you're back home and I hope you're able to be comfortable... and get waited on hand and foot for a bit, at least, while you get adjusted. Thinking of you...
with love,
Hope
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Overcomer,
I am happy you are doing well. Glad it all went ok. I really think it takes a lot of courage to take a step like this. I think it is a great thing. It is good to be through that first big hurdle.
--love, poppy
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Yeah I was a bit sacred and it crossed my mind once or twice but I am determined. Today is much better than yesterday-I was so thirsty but could not drink for hours. They were so busy that I felt forgotten most of the day. My H was mad as hell! They said I would be at the hospital for 5 or 6 hours and we were there for 10!
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HEY OC
Take care!
did my flowers from a month ago, last?
Good Luck now and after.
xx
Izzy
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WOW Kelly
I am very happy am so glad that you are O.K.. You sound great. Love Ami ;
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Kel,
WHEW!
And welcome to the New You!
Hops
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Hello Overcomer-
Hope you are doing well and taking it easy. I am glad that you are realizing your personal dreams in your own way.
Careful Hugs ,
Changing
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This morning I feel pretty good. I think this will be my last day of lounging. I do not feel like I have a foreign object in me even though I was afraid I might. Just to get a month to in by so I can bet real food! Today I am drinking decaf coffee so that feels great! Love my coffee! Wish I could do some housework but I do not think I will have the stamina for that!
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Housework :o!!!! Woman, are you mad?!!?? :shock: :D
Hugs, Kelly... so glad you're feelin perky! And I agree about coffee... wouldn't want to start the day without it!
Hey, do you have a menu plan for when the 30-days is up? Maybe putting that together would be a fun project to work on.
Take good care of yourself.
Hope
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Oh I know but we are moving so the house has lots of things that need to be done! I am thinking about eating and for some reason Salmon sounds so good! Apparently a lean cuisine will fill me up! Never worked before!
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lol... Kelly... :D I opened a can of red salmon yesterday and had some mid-afternoon, once I realized that I hadn't eaten lunch :?
Very good!
I hope that you can delegate the bulk of what needs to be done, at least for awhile, and sit back and supervise.
A whistle may be a handy tool :)
You have alot to look forward to!
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Dear Kelly,
I am really happy for you that you are doing well and feeling much better Love Ami
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Thanks everyone! This is great. For once I cannot do anything so if it doesnt get done oh well! Do remember the day of surgery? It is NEVER fun!
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Overcomer,
I say take it easy! If it doesn't get done, it is all good! I had to learn that lesson 3 times over with my pregnancies. Had to be in bed for months while my sweet neighbors folded laundry and helped with my kids. I decided that paperplates are a really great thing!! Do you have any neighbors or church gals who have brought in meals for you? Well, if I was there I would send something yummy! Good luck with recovery!! How long before you get your strength back?? Did the dr. say?
--Poppy
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No no one brought meals over. I cannot eat anything but my fam would probably like it. There is one thing that might not get taken case of so I will try not to stress.
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Wow OC!! Congratulations!!!!!
Take good care of yourself. You have had major surgery! Be gentle and kind and nurturing even if you have so much to take care of.
I am so proud of you!!! Take care - Gaining STrength
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Ditto on the congratulations OC - you have been wanting this for a long time, and it is done!!! YEAH!!!!!
(((((Take care))))))
Peace
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You guys are great! It has been a long haul. I took the band aids off and I have five incisions. The middle one was quite long and looks like someone stabbed me! I feel so much better. I am planning on going to work tomorrow. Now I am on my journey from 247 pounds to 150! I am very happy and cannot wait for the next year to go by!
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OC,
I'm so happy you're up and at'em. How long will your recovery be? I can't believe you're already going back to work. That's awesome.
You're brave and I've missed you.
tt
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Now I have a rash-maybe I am allergic to the med. I have to wait for the DAV to pick up all the donations but they did not sound like they were too keen on taking it all so we will see! Thanks to all for your support. There were some against it-even close friends but I think most people were just concerned about my well being.
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Dear Kelly,
Just wanted to say that I am so happy that you are doing well. You sound really upbeat . Love Ami
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Boy I was not upbeat in the hospital while waiting for an ICE CHIP! I peeled off the bandages and took a shower this morning. I actually went to the store to buy cat food-poor things-they were following me around. Cannot wait to start dropping the weight!
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So I stay home from work today and wait for DAV to come and pick up a garage FULL of donations. AFTER they are taken away then we can fill the garage up with boxes we are going to move into our new house. This will free the house of clutter and then I can list it.
So I am waiting for them. The dog barks so I run (well, as well as a gal that just had surgery can run) down the stairs and I see theDAV truck next door. I run out the front and start screaming YOU'VE GOT THE WRONG HOUSE!! OVER HERE!! OVER HERE!! So I run inside and call the DAV and ask them frantically to call the guys in the truck.....I'm here, I'm here. So she proceeds to tell me that the notes say the donations will be on the driveway and there was no mention to knock on the door. I burst into tears and tell her that I talked to the lady last night and told her all the details. I got hysterical. I have been waiting for you guys since am - it is now 1:15 and I see them drive away. I told her I just had surgery and I couldn't put a garage full of stuff out on the driveway. The night before the woman said they would only take 30 boxes so I told her I had over 50. She wanted me to put 20 on the next door neighbors drive. I was so mad and hysterical. I said "Call those guys and get them back here....I have missed six hours of work and I know they heard me!!" So anyway she went on and on about how the notes didn't say knock on the door. So I said ARE YOU GOING TO HELP ME OR NOT? THEN I SAID - NEVERMIND!!! I called my husband crying (don't get me wrong - these tears were way over the top - I think it had something to do with trying to hold everything together WHILE my gut hurts....)
So my H was gonna call DAV and chew them out. So they call back and were so kind and said they would come over tomorrow and take it all for me!!! I started crying again. I think I am about to start my period so I am PMSing while trying to recuperate from a surgery. The stress is over the top trying to get the house ready to sell and my two oldest daughters will not lift a finger to get the house ready to sell. I only asked them to go threw THEIR stuff. I said their deadline was the 29th.....and my 20 year old said "or what??" I really wanted to smack her. Or what??? Or What? Or we won't get our house sold and we will have double mortgage payments you twit!!!
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Kel, hon...
Post-operative depression is a real thing that can happen to people.
It's really truly physiological...
Don't be too demanding of yourself right now, hon...your body's
reacting to an assault (it thinks surgery's an assault) and it affects
you inside and out and emotionally too...it's an organism response.
That's all it is and you don't have to fix it, it will pass. But you need
to be extra kind to yourself right now.
Is there anything to laugh about? Can you delegate?
Moving is a BIG stress, and you're post-surgery.
hugs
Hops
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I am laying here and I have cramps AND I am constipated! I never have that problem so it is foreign to me. gotta get up and wait for DAV Again-I hope it goes smoothly! I am looking forward to three weeks when I should be all healed, eating solid foods and less emotional.
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(((((((((Kelly))))))))) I do hope you will feel better soon and the DAV comes for ALL the stuff, as promised.
I'm sure that Hops is right about what's happening within your body. It's so hard to be patient when you've got all these fantastic things to look forward to, but you can do it!! Look at how far you've come... :) You're doin great!
And I think that your 20 year old daughter is very blessed to have a home to move to. When I was 19, my parents put their house up for sale and let me know that their new apartment wasn't going to be too accomodating to me. She has no clue how very privileged she is.
Love,
Hope
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Hope: you are right. My daughter has always been a bit of a princess. She was the first girl in 26 years so we all adored her. My ex and I are brunettes and she came out a blonde. I think she has inherited my moms N tendencies. She has no desire to move-she has it too good here. I still do her laundry!
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Dear Kelly,
I can SO relate to you"losing it" .I can relate to you crying and telling them,over the phone, that you have PMS and just had surgery.
It is UTTER exhaustion--- mental,emotional and physical.
I think that there is a "let down" after surgery-. I have heard this from friends who anticipated a surgery for a long time. At first when it was over, they were elated. Then, they got depressed . I think that the enormity of the physical "assault' on the body hit them.
You have had many life 'crisis's" Moving is a HUGE life crisis.
You put many hopes and dreams in to the surgery and you may be having a let down b/c it is over ..Now, you are back to 'real life". Just a thought. Love to you Ami
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Very good insight Am. I remember being in the hospital for two weeks when I burned my arm several years ago-there was an extreme let down after I got home. I am laying here still waiting for DAV. It is 12 20 so I have been waiting for over four hours again. I am enjoying the laying low. I am feeling kinda sick. I just want to take a nap. I am supposed to go watch my daughter cheer tonight but I just do not know if I can!
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Dear Kelly,
I want to tell you that you seem like a really good mother to me and a really good friend. Just wanted to share that Love Ami
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(((((((Kelly)))))))) Gee, I hope you're resting.
Hey, I have a "blonde" daughter, too :lol:
Wish I could come help yours do that laundry... she'd learn! muhahahaha :wink:
More hugs for you... please rest up and feel better.
With love,
Hope
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I went to a wedding tonight-Everyone ate steal and chicken-I had a few cites of mashed potatoes. I think I like the oxycodon-I have bad cramps and those pills take the pain in my gut away AND get she of the cramps. I need this stuff EVERY month! I am really not hungry but I want some good food. I want salmon. I do not want chocolate protein shakes and chocolate pudding and sugar free popsicles and jello. I want delicious chicken or soup or salad! I have lost 13 pounds!
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Hi OC
Happy to hear you are still with us and ready to take on the world. all the best to you now and all your years to come.
Love
Izzy
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Thanks. All I want to be is tall and slender like Iz when I am 68! I am happy. I am starving but I do not feel like I am starving. I want to eat but I know I CANNOT RISK SCREWING ANYTHING UP!
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Congratulations, Kelly!! :D 13 pounds is a great beginning! Your thoughts and "hungers" will come into line with the facts of what your body can accomodate. This is a major re-training of the mind and you are so brave!
Love,
Hope
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Dear Kelly,
I am very happy for the weight loss. Thank you for your,honest story on the beginning thread.
Love Ami
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Dear OC,
You're a real trooper, taking your life one piece at a time. I'm happy for you.
tt
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jac- I really know what wor mean. Even when I was quite skinny in high school I thought I was fat. I believe the source of my low self esteem is my mom. I have never been able to compete with her-SHE had to be the pretty and skinny one but like I said in my story, I realize she is really a phoney. The fact that she has lost her power over me gives me hope that what she thinks of me just will not matter. But the problem was I got to the point hormonally or whaterer that I just could not
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lose the weight. Now with this tool I can lord weight and hopefully keep those negative self tapes from becoming too loud in my head!
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Overcomer-
I am glad that you are better, and have lost those first pesky pounds! Now is the time to keep company with those people who recognize and support your beauty, inner and outer, and for the rest- banishment. Soon those dreadful "tapes" will fade from your conciousness, and you will hear the small still voice that says "Overcomer is fairest of thousands, altogether lovely".
Love,
Changing
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Oh you guys made my day! I never have people say those nice comforting and complimentary things to me!
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Hello Overcomer,
I haven't written to you in a long time, just wanted to say how happy I am for you that your surgery went well.
I am going to endeavor, yet again, to lose weight. This time, I'm using a carrot on a stick, instead of just beating myself for having gained the weight. My carrot is an Alaskan cruise that is scheduled for 2008. I am going, no matter what, barring unforeseen events. I just know I will enjoy my self so much more by being healthier. This feels so different than the old "Oh, I have to lose some weight before ...... (fill in the event).
You said you weren't really hungry but you wanted good food. If you do not want to discuss this because it might take your focus to a negative instead of a positive, I understand. I was wondering what your coping methods are, and will be as you go along. Sure would be nice if there was such a thing as having oxycodone every month without the side effects, but I'm guessing that would just be another replacement for that "good food"?
How's it going with the new house and everthing it entails?
Talk to you when you're able -
cats paw
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Oh Overcomer! I so feel for you wanting good food.
When you do get to eat it again.....
try eating lovely green baby spinach salads with yummy carmelized chicken and toppings you adore like toasted nuts and raisins and dressings to die for.
See if you can't really get into habits that suit you..... that you don't have to suffer through.
Small portions every three hours, plenty of protein and don't get too hungry.
Keep that metabolism revved, appetite down bc you're fueling before you're hungry and eat live yummy stuff.
I've been blendingcfrozen berries in the mornings and enjoying them all day, kept in the fridge. So nice in this heat.
Maybe the key is to keep what you CAN eat on hand and in abundance, with great variety?
If you look in the salad bin..... and find puddles..... you're going to choose something else, lets face it.
Ok... ok.... another thought, for myself as well.
They say French women eat only 3 bites of everything on their plate. That's the rule.
That way they get to enjoy everything and still keep fit without having to agonize about it?
Not sure but so happy you're healing.
See you when you have time to pop in: )
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Hey Everyone!! I went to the doctor and got my stitches out day before yesterday. I was worried that it would hurt - it didn't. I do have five scars on my upper belly. One is larger than I anticipated - about three inches or so - that is where the port is. The port is where they access the band to tighten it. My first tighten will be October 5. Right now I am healing. The nutritionist told me I didn't really need to eat pureed food if I keep my diet to really soft foods. No veggies unless they are smooshy. I had a Lean Cuisine and didn't eat the broccoli. She told me for the first month it was more about portion control - no more than one cup at a time, then wait two hours and have another cup. I had some spaghetti tonight. I had a small bowl and no bread. It wasn't that I was trying to eat that little, it was because that is all I can comfortably fit in my stomach. This is different for me. Usually I eat a plate full and probably two pieces of toast. I guess that is why you lose weight - you just eat less food. And guess what? You do not feel deprived!! It is wonderful!!! I have lost 14 pounds!! You guys, I could have starved myself before and been lucky to lose 5 pounds.....
Today I got a bill in the mail for $13,000. I kinda freaked. I had already paid the doctor for the whole shabang. Then when I got this bill I though, "Oh, is it because they had to fix my hernia? Surely a hernia repaid doesn't cost $13,000." I called the hospital and they said they could see no indication that they had been paid at all. I called the doctor (with my heart beating!!!!) and they told me the timing was off and not to worry, they would take care of the bill. Whew!!! That scared me.
The move is coming along. In my past I would have had this house in ship shape - but with the surgery and all I do not have much energy. My goal is to finish everything this weekend. I have a cleaning crew coming next week and then a carpet cleaner....then I will list the house.
The only bad news about the whole event is my husband is stressed and going on and on and on about how my kids don't help, etc. And that the pool will be closed by the time we get there. It was 95 degrees and humid when we bought the house - perfect weather to dive on in!!!
The good news is that next summer when we open the pool, I should finally after 20 years be able to go outside in public in a bathing suit. Maybe I'll get a tan!! (which is quiet the accomplishment because I am white as a ghost!)
Thanks for asking. I am rambling because I am NOT on my phone and can type away!
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Dear Kelly,
I am really glad that you are doing better and that you have good things to look forward to.
You could try self tanner. Some of them look natural.
I saw a demonstration on Home Shopping with a really fair red headed girl who looked so great with the self tanner-- not fake at all.
I replied to your post about your mother on the Our Stories thread. Love Ami
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Kelly,
What a great update :) I'm glad for you that you can do "smooshy" and not just pureed... that's progress! And whew!! on that bill!
That's gotta feel so strange, getting accustomed to feeling full after just such a little bit. I kinda can relate a bit, since that was the effect I had after abdominal surgery (appendix) years ago... just never have been able to eat much at once ever since.
Sounds like your house will be in order in good time for listing. What a blessing that you can have a cleaning crew tend to the stuff you're unable to do right now... enjoy that! It's as it should be :) And hey, who knows... maybe Mr. Overcomer will learn how to do a bit more successful delegating through this whole thing. Sure would be helpful if the kids would pitch in, I know.
It's always great to hear you looking forward to the future... you make me smile :) Happy healing!
With love,
Hope
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Thanks!! I am not looking through rose colored glasses but have done that in the past - tHAT is what gets me in trouble. Anyway, I am sure it will still be a struggle to keep up with all the cleaning, etc. I have agreed with my H to have a cleaning lady come in every OTHER week. I wanted every week but the expense is too much. I also will ask my older two to help. They should both be out of the house in a couple of years. The oldest one will graduate from Beauty School and live there about another year - save up money and then hopefully move out. The younger one will go to college in two years and she has more of an inkling to move out of state. We will always have the youngest who is autistic.....
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Yes she is 12 and very verbal but has problems with spontaneous speech. She is pretty high functioning.