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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: ddklevine on September 05, 2007, 07:03:29 PM

Title: Re: Ami's Story
Post by: ddklevine on September 05, 2007, 07:03:29 PM

I am new to all of this.  I am almost 50 years old and have just come to the realization that I have been emotionally abused by a narcissitic father for all of my life.  I am finding the strength to walk away from him and not allow him to dictate my life with his cruel criticism.  I have walked away from a family business, gone back to school and am starting a new job.  All of this is happening while I fight the internal battle of wanting to believe I am a good and capable person and not the insignificant waste of time he has treated me as.  I hope to grow as a person now that I know that the problem is with HIM and not me.  I have gone my whole life trying to please this person. I Do Not Like Him, never mind love him.  He has been a constant threat to my survival.  I feel like I am not alone in these feelilng when I read your stories.  Thank you for your honesty.

Title: Re: Ami's Story
Post by: Iphi on September 05, 2007, 08:28:34 PM

Hi ddklevine and welcome.  I know exactly how you feel.  Your battle is my battle too.  We need a battle cry, don't you think?  Welcome.  :)

Title: Re: Ami's Story
Post by: Hopalong on September 10, 2007, 12:51:39 PM

Welcome, DDK.

I also was in my 50s when I first discovered what narcissism is.
You have company!

Glad you're here. You sound focused and strong and I think that means you are going to do a whole heap of healing.

Hopalong

Title: Re: Ami's Story
Post by: Ami on September 10, 2007, 12:55:43 PM

How did my story get on someone else's thread--lol?                                         Ami

Title: Re: Ami's Story
Post by: Overcomer on September 10, 2007, 08:08:08 PM

Quite an eye opener isn't it?  To realize when you are middle aged that your life as you know it SUCKS!!  And it is all because you lived with an N parent -  a disapproving, self absorbed,  arrogant, self serving, critical parent!!  Welcome to the board!!  And you will realize that one of the nicest and most helpful people on this board is Ami!

Title: Re: Ami's Story
Post by: changing on September 17, 2007, 01:02:21 AM

Ami-

I want to thank you for being so kind and supportive to me. And I want to commend you on your new appetite for life, food, and healing. I smile whenever I read your heated defenses of your friends when you perceive that they have been treated badly- this is true heart and spirit. The Ns can't keep you down, that's for certain!

Love,

Changing