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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: finding peace on September 18, 2007, 10:44:20 PM

Title: Authentic
Post by: finding peace on September 18, 2007, 10:44:20 PM

I hear you. 

I am sorry I was not able to be what you needed.

Thank you for your support, advice, and wisdom.  You are in my prayers.

Peace

Title: Re: Authentic
Post by: Ami on September 18, 2007, 10:51:32 PM

I have such a loss from her being gone.She was a voice of wisdom and humor-- a good friend. It feels like a "death" in a way -- a "death "in the family. However, I realized that as much as I tried ,I was powerless to get her to stay.Love you, Authentic                                    Ami
 

Title: Re: Authentic
Post by: Overcomer on September 18, 2007, 11:01:02 PM

I think Au needs space sometimes and I hope when she finds it she comes back.

Title: Re: Authentic
Post by: JanetLG on September 19, 2007, 05:18:34 AM

I shouldn't think she'll come back. She tried so hard to be listened to, and every time she said 'I'm hurting because this has happened' either she was ignored, or she was told to ignore whatever was hurting her.

Ignoring doesn't heal anything. Things have to be dealt with.

People avoid so much on this forum, by 'not responding' to threads they find painful, or by telling people to 'get over it'.

Before anyone tells me, I know that is their prerogative.

But the outcome is often what happened with Authentic...the hurting person leaves.

And so the ignoring continues....

I think this place will be a lesser one without Authentic's valuable, intelligent voice.


Janet

Title: Re: Authentic
Post by: Bella_French on September 19, 2007, 05:36:47 AM

I must have really missed something that happened? Authentic is such an important member of this community; I can't stand for her to leave.

Hon, you are really needed around here. There have been so many times when I've wanted to respond to someone in need of support, and you've written something perfect already, much more insightful and eloquent than I could have written. You are someone special, and you belong here.

I look forward to the time when you feel like coming back (tomorrow would be nice BTW).

X bella

Title: Re: Authentic
Post by: pennyplant on September 19, 2007, 05:51:34 AM

Authentic helped me and I wish I could have helped her.  I thought she was hurting but I didn't know what to do.  PP

Title: Re: Authentic
Post by: Ami on September 19, 2007, 08:43:26 AM

I guess that I have to respect Authentic's decision. When a friend 'moves away", maybe for a better job, etc, I guess that it is selfish of me to want them to stay with me. That is what I have been doing.
                                                                                                          BLEH      Ami

Title: Re: Authentic
Post by: Gaining Strength on September 19, 2007, 06:41:49 PM

Dear Authentic - I want to respond to you kind PM.  I am sad to see that you are pulling away though I do so fully understand that the recent experiences have been entirely too painful.  I have participated very little in the threads where you have been most active recently.  I have been in a different place in recent months - with much less to say that even in my life.  Frequently I have wanted simply to post to you - "Just saying hello.  Nothing of value to say in this conversation but wanted to say hello to you Authentic."  But I didn't say it.  I did think it.  I value you.  I ache for your pain.  I will carry the hope that you will find healing and will find your way back here in time to come.  This is a fluid place - the people and the temperature here fluctuate.  I hope you will find your way back when it is a more placid place.

I admire you and I long for us to find peace in our lives.  It is my fervent prayer. 

Your friend - Gaining Strength

Title: Re: Authentic
Post by: changing on September 19, 2007, 06:49:36 PM

Dear Authentic-

Thank you for the help that you have given me. I hope that you feel better and rejoin us soon.

Love,

Changing