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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: alone48 on October 21, 2007, 11:23:41 AM

Title: Just wondering
Post by: alone48 on October 21, 2007, 11:23:41 AM

I believe that I am a fairly intelligent person, but hve come to realize that when it comes to N's they will always win the battle of words. I can argue my point with so called normal people and even if I don't prevail, I also don't feel stupid when all is said and done. Does this strike a cord with anyone?

Title: Re: Just wondering
Post by: changing on October 21, 2007, 11:33:06 AM

Hi Alone48-

Yes! It always seems that the Ns do not want to get to the heart of the matter, and have no scruples in changing facts, etc, and making personal attacks. Trying to work something out with Ns feels  for me like herding cats (or worse)!!!

Love,

Changing

Title: Re: Just wondering
Post by: tayana on October 21, 2007, 11:39:42 AM

N's always have to have the final word.  My mother's favorite line is,

"Well, I hope you're happy."  Right before she storms off and slams the door.  That was her reaction when I said I was taking my son and my dog and moving.

Or the variant is:

"You're just doing this to hurt me." 

Title: Re: Just wondering
Post by: changing on October 21, 2007, 11:45:10 AM

Tayana -

So sad that you have heard these tired lies instead of love and encouragement. "I hope you're happy"  really means- "I'll make you pay for this" and "You are just doing this to hurt me" really means "How dare you do something healthy for yourself and not let me hurt you anymore."

The heartless N twists. As Ami says, BLEEH!


Love,

Changing

Title: Re: Just wondering
Post by: Ami on October 21, 2007, 04:50:09 PM

Dear Changing
  That is so cute. You have the "story behind the story.'My addition is that if you CONTINUE to tell the truth and NOT give in----They banish you-----bleh .                                                               Ami