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Title: The best and the worst of times
Post by: alone48 on October 26, 2007, 12:39:18 AM

I'm wondering if it is an N trait to find that everything is either the best you ever had (done, saw, etc) or the worst of the same. As I think back over my relationship, I remember this as being a strange trait. Whenever we went somewhere or did anything it was either/or. At first it seemed endearing that N was so enthused,but I wonder if this is a normal characteristic or just his quirk.

Title: Re: The best and the worst of times
Post by: changing on October 26, 2007, 12:51:18 AM

Hi Alone-

There are many books, articles, etc with lists of N traits , many good ones on this site.

It surely seems that you may have been dealing with someone with an all-or-nothing attitude with you, as a device for keeping you under control and wanting the "all" seal of approval rather than the "nothing". As Ami says- BLEEH! You deserve support and love in your relationships, and are well-rid of that joker! No more mind control for you!!! You are in control now!!

Love and hugs,

Changing

Title: Re: The best and the worst of times
Post by: Ami on October 26, 2007, 08:53:29 AM

Dear Alone,
  I just want to say that I think that you are doing so well pulling yourself up from N abuse. You are learning so fast and are a real inspiration to me.                     Love  Ami

(((((((((((((((((((Alone))))))))))))))))))))))))

Title: Re: The best and the worst of times
Post by: alone48 on October 27, 2007, 08:38:08 PM

Ami,

Thank you so much, that means alot coming from you. I was several miles from N's house last night (met some friends for dinner) and he actually lives over 50 miles from me. I was so proud that  didn't even make an attempt to go by or anything. One day at a time, but no contact.

Title: Re: The best and the worst of times
Post by: Hopalong on October 27, 2007, 09:55:05 PM

Hi Alone,
Your first post here reminds me of the N trait of grandiosity, which I think morphs into exaggeration.

Just simple pleasures or simple disappointments seldom seem to apply...not enough drama!

hugs
Hops