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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: isittoolate on November 06, 2007, 01:42:27 PM
Title: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: isittoolate on November 06, 2007, 01:42:27 PM
Hey all
A couple of months back I posted that I had told this 'long-time acquaintance' man that I no longer wanted any phone calls from him that took an hour to tell me all that my daughter is doing.
Then the woman who was here caregiver, began the same thing, so I emailed back "Please! no more emails filled with info on her'.
Then I thought, well except for my broken leg I had not emailed my daughter so I send one the other day, called Changes and mentioned a few things about how life has changed since I was younger, as I have done on here, then updated her on my 'new cast every week' thingy and mentioned my eye infection just as I was ready to use the car.
A friendly little piece with no pity me, pity me in it, and asked how things there were.
She replied the next day (yesterday) and it was a longish friendly mail mentioining my leg and eye and things there, how her very best friend had a heart attack, my youngest grandson is now 6'1" at 15 & granddaughter, 18, is going travelling in Europe.
Daughter says she is lonely and son is eating her out of house and home (as boys do)--last summer I think he was about 5'7".
I decided that if I want to know these things, then I want them to come to me from her, and not from some outside source that appears to be spying on her, and lording it over me that I don't know, but up to their dates, I had heard almost everything from her in bits and pieces.
I take nothing for granted; there were no harsh words either way, and receiving her mail felt good. This time she asked questions, which is 'asking' for a reply.
Love Izzy
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Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: Hopalong on November 06, 2007, 02:08:47 PM
:D :D :D :D :D
love to you and D, Izzz....
:D
Hops
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: lighter on November 06, 2007, 02:09:30 PM
((((Izzy))))
So glad for you..... and what's going on with the guy who lords over you with info about your daughter?
How's everything healing?
I think my pink eye was really just part of that stomach bug virus :shock:
It left when the stomach bug left.
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: Ami on November 06, 2007, 02:40:33 PM
Dear Izzy, I am so happy for you . I can tell that the e mail brought you joy. It is wonderful. Love Ami
(((((((((((((((Izzy)))))))))))))))
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: Poppy Seed on November 06, 2007, 02:51:34 PM
Good for you, Izzy!!
Poppy
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: changing on November 06, 2007, 03:16:41 PM
My Dear Izzy-
I have been praying and praying for this and you are on the prayer list as well!!! I cannot tell you how happy I am for both of you!!! This is the best news!!!!
Love to Both of You,
Changing
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: cats paw on November 06, 2007, 03:25:28 PM
Hi Izzy,
I was happy to read this and will be waiting for your next installment.
cats paw
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: Leah on November 06, 2007, 03:27:50 PM
Dear ((( Izzy )))
Such a great step in the right direction and I am truly so very very happy for you.
What a good choice of picture too ........ 'New Horizons'
Such a joyful message of Hope for you and others here on board.
Love, Leah x
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: isittoolate on November 06, 2007, 03:57:28 PM
(http://www.slrkelowna.ca/thyou.jpg)
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: teartracks on November 06, 2007, 10:36:06 PM
Iz,
I'm so happy for the mutuality that seems evident in the email from your daughter. You're so cool...
Love,
tt
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: isittoolate on November 06, 2007, 11:12:20 PM
Hi tt
Thank you
I love the word 'mutuality' in this case. It fits. You are cool too. xx Izzy
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: gratitude28 on November 07, 2007, 08:21:14 AM
((((((((((((Izzy))))))))))))
That is great news and you handled your relationship beautifully. I think you two are on the right track :)
Love, Beth
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: changing on November 07, 2007, 11:46:38 AM
Izzy Dear-
Your news has been a real blessing to me (you are too ). You both deserve the love and companionship that you have been missing due to the wreckage created by super-Ns. What hard lessons you have learned, but now the answer is clear- Isittoolate? It is not too late!!!!!! Not by a long shot!!!!Your life and love are ahead of you yet!!!!
I am so glad for you both!!!
Love,
Changing
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: isittoolate on November 07, 2007, 02:28:06 PM
Thank you Beth and changing,
Just because it's me, I don't take for granted this will continue, but I hope so.
I don't beg, nor do I use guilt trips.
She has one child left at home, and spent a fortune having him tested for any problems, only to find out he was just lazy. Now he's pulled up his marks.
She didn't say so, except for being lonely, that her daughter likely is now not living at home, at 18 .
She even made reference to some things that I likely had gone through that she is now!
Hmmmmmmmmmm
Love Izzy
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Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: changing on November 07, 2007, 08:15:20 PM
Hi Izzy-
Your daughter's picture is so adorable. Now through her own experience she knows even more how much you did for her and what you mean to her now, what she means to you- it is geting normal!!! Not perfect, not devoid of all human frailties, but no N wackiness dominating the scene. She is truly blessed to have the benefit of Izzyfication! She seems to be intelligent (like you) , as well as pretty. Now you can see what your beloved daughter and grandbabies (I know they aren't babies anymore) are doing first hand!
Love and Happiness,
Changing
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: isittoolate on November 07, 2007, 10:08:45 PM
Thank you changing,
Adorable little gal who is 1/8 Algonquin Indian, olive skin brown eyes almost black hair.--and her father's nose--goody!
I just wonder if she understands the life of a disabled person. She saw me in action, but she wasn't inside my head------I don't think.
I just posted like 'a year in my life' I really don't know how it will be received but I hope the responses will be what each honestly thinks.
Love Izzy
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: changing on November 07, 2007, 10:32:42 PM
Oh Izzy-
Now your adorable daughter is seeing things from a new perspective and a mature conciousness- she can only have a redoubled respect and affection for you. The challenges that you overcome to go about your life simply show how magical you are, and how precious life and love is. And I am sure that you are proud of her accomplishments as well, and will let her know. Little by little you will knit together again, and share the true affection that has always been there, sometimes buried. A lovely flower bursting through.
Love and Hope,
Changing
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: isittoolate on November 07, 2007, 10:40:37 PM
Dear changing,
What a lovley person you are!
(http://www.slrkelowna.ca/pink_flower.gif)
A lovely flower bursting through.
How poetic. Love Izzy
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: lighter on November 08, 2007, 07:17:48 AM
Izzy..... I can't imagine all the guilt your family would feel about your journey, if they allowed themselves to.
I feel guilt FOR them when I think about what they did.... and didn't do.
That would be a terrible thing to reconcile with oneself.
Title: Re: Nice email from my daughter~~~~
Post by: isittoolate on November 08, 2007, 01:42:57 PM
Thanks Lighter,
I, too, think they ought to feel guilt , but I see it ,like I was when younger, naive, don't know what to do, don't know what to say. I see it that way now, but not when it was all happening. I was a bottomless pit of anger at a family, and at myself for being angry, who didn't appear to care, who had no empathy, who lived their own lives, and I lived mine.
I am so happy to be 2000 miles away from them all and to feel free of the anger.