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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: tayana on November 08, 2007, 12:08:28 PM
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I was poking around looking for information about divorcing my parents, and found some useful links I thought I would pass on.
The first is a Christian site, but I love this. I'm going to eventually read the whole site.
http://www.luke173ministries.org/templates/System/default.asp?id=39548 (http://www.luke173ministries.org/templates/System/default.asp?id=39548)
The second has a list of links that I haven't had a chance to check out, although I've visited a few of them before. Firelily.com has some great information. It's done by a trans woman who was abused as a child.
This list also includes links to Vankin's articles.
http://groups.msn.com/ADULTCHILDRENOFNARCISSISTSPSYCHOPATHS/npparentslinks.msnw (http://groups.msn.com/ADULTCHILDRENOFNARCISSISTSPSYCHOPATHS/npparentslinks.msnw)
Enjoy! I really like the Luke Ministries site.
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Thank you Tayana,
Always look forward to reading your latest finds on the web.
The Luke 17:3 Ministries for Adult Daughters of Controlling or Abusive Birth Families
has truly been a lifeline to me.
It is packed with helpful insightful articles that are breathtakingly validating and liberating.
The divorce article gave me such peace.
Have not come across Vankin's article to date, so off to read that now.
Love, Leah
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tayana,
Thank you so much for sharing these links. They are just what I've been looking for.
:)seasons
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Great links Tayana. I've been reading through the first one and it has so much helpful information. Thanks!
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You're welcome!
I particularly like this article: http://www.luke173ministries.org/templates/System/details.asp?id=39548&PID=466785 (http://www.luke173ministries.org/templates/System/details.asp?id=39548&PID=466785)
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Just read ... FAMILY JEALOUSY The Shameful Secret behind Abuse and Betrayal
and in particular the section .....
THE UGLIEST JEALOUSY OF ALL: WHEN A PARENT IS JEALOUS OF THEIR OWN CHILD
http://www.luke173ministries.org/templates/System/details.asp?id=39548&PID=466782 (http://www.luke173ministries.org/templates/System/details.asp?id=39548&PID=466782)
and the final section on ....
BEWARE OF THEIR "INTEREST" IN YOUR LIFE
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This is a very important point that we must all beware of: many jealous relatives are very good at getting you to reveal personal information which they will later use against you. Be very cautious about what you reveal. They are often shameless in their prying and nosiness. They will ask personal questions and become insulted if you decline to answer. They are OVERLY INTERESTED in every aspect of your life, including details that you consider less than trivial. Remember that this is a COMPETITION, even though YOU are not thinking of it in that way, and how can your parent or sibling compare her life to yours and compete with you if she doesn’t know all the details? If he can’t drag information out of you, he will go behind your back and try to get information about you from other sources or other people. “Minding your own business” doesn’t exist in the minds of some jealous relatives- comparing their lives to yours IS their business.
wish I had known back then !!!!
Love, Leah