Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Whistler on January 07, 2008, 11:50:30 PM
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You know, I just read a post from "IZZY" where she said Whistler is gone since I called him a T.
I do work full time. I have tried to come here for support- I have tried to correct my "not responding back" enough-
You're right- I'm gone. I hope you feel good IZZY. Do you by chance know my wife???
Bye!!
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Heavens! T gave up after just 18 posts?
Never even thanked me for apologizing
Ah well Easy come. Easy go!
Izzy
"Caps" always make me think of a rageaholic
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Heavens! T gave up after just 18 posts?
Never even thanked me for apologizing
Ah well Easy come. Easy go!
Izzy
"Caps" always make me think of a rageaholic
Meow.... Hiss.. Hiss..
You must feel so smug to have run off a newbie poster.
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Amused amuses me as I am not amused about someone leaving. Smug? I have never been smug in my lfe! I've had a life of hell and I don't need phony people thinking I was born with Narcissism 101 clutched in my little hand.
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Whistler,
Don't let ANYONE run you off, Friend. Take it from me.If you read my past posts, you will see that I can say it '"with authority"(lol)
Whistler, you need us and we need you. You will find that the Board has good and bad aspects ,like all groups and all people.
You are in for the fight of your life, Friend.
Come back and ley bygones be bygones. Izzy wants you back, too(lol) Warmly, Ami
((((((((Whistler)))))))))
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Hi, Whistler,
This is just a place comprised of many different people and perspectives... and guaranteed to strengthen your resolve to heal and grow :) I hope you'll cowboy up.
Sincerely,
Carolyn
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Meow.... Hiss.. Hiss..
You must feel so smug to have run off a newbie poster.
<---childish defense mechanism...can almost hear the "nyeah nah nah nah nah nah" (tongue sticking out)
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Izzy - I have utmost respect and admiration for you and so I find myself quite surprised, perhaps shocked at your reaction to Whistler. I see no evidence that he is other than what he has presented himself to be. Do you have other evidence or has his presence triggered you somehow? Have I missed something that you gleaned?
I am surprised and a little disappointed that you would take it on yourself to belittle a poster and rejoice in a post about their departure - a departure pushed by unkind reception. From his descriptions his wife clearly appears to fit the category of N. I am always refreshed to find men posting here. There are far too few and I welcome their presence as a tilt towards balance.
Perhaps I have missed something and my opinion is based on incomplete information, but it seems to me the correct way to deal with someone who seems insincere or inappropriate would be through conversation with Dr. Grossman and allow him to determine that someone is here inappropriately.
I found your post to be quite jarring and it seemed so out of character for you.
Heavens! T gave up after just 18 posts?
Never even thanked me for apologizing
Ah well Easy come. Easy go!
I plan to PM Whistler to express my regret over the treatment he received here. Perhaps I am blind to something or am naive. If so please set me straight. I am sending a PM because he states that he is gone and a PM will be sent to his registered e-mail address. I am putting this in my post because I simply want to be above board and straight forward.
Thank you.
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Hi GS
I don't know how the talk of trolls began but suddenly there was a lot and Dr. G. verified that there was one on board.
I overreacted with the new and or anonymous posts takiing place and became somewhat paranoid. I wouldn't like to be humiliated by one.
Whistler appeared suddenly and had 3 separate posts that just felt strange to me.
I posted to him with an off-hand mention of T.
He posted back asking if I was accusing him and I then apologized.
He didn't respond to the apology and didn't post for a while.
Then he suddenly started this post, which was in a tone that he never read my apology.
No it is is not like me to do what I did, but when he quit I expected it was an easy way out for him--then this thread kept getting longer
I did post to amused
Amused amuses me as I am not amused about someone leaving.
Izzy
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GS???
Izzy
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Hey, Izzy...
you don't have to be perfect.
love you,
Hops
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Whistler, everybody has tried to help you here.
Have you considered the possibility that you like to use any opportunity to pose as a victim?
Have you consider the possibility that you did something similar to your wife?
Just food for thought. I am not saying that that is the case, just something to think about.
God bless you. You are in my prayers.
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Izzy, I think I understand your explanation.
I don't think he fully understood the most effective way to participate. But many newbies could use a little help figuring out the ropes. I see how your response was triggered by paranoia. It is unfortunate. I still think that reporting the problem to Grossman might be the most appropriate way to react.
Thanks for your response. - GS
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I appreciate all of your responses- Maybe this is just too soon for me to be part of this type of forum. For now, best wishes to all of you.
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I am sad, Whistler, that you are not staying. The decision does not have to be in "stone", you know. People come and go all the time ,and there is nothing to feel 'funny" about if you come back.
I am heartsick that you were hurt . I know when I was new, I was very sensitive. My heart used to beat fast , when I wrote a thread .
After you stay for a while, you naigate your way . .This group is like life.. Maybe,all groups are. There is much good ,but painful things happen to many of us here.However, they would happen in "any "setting with people. All settings have people(lol)
Consider coming back.! I thought that you had so much to offer and vice---versa.Many, many people say goodbye and are back shortly after. There is NOTHING to be ashamed of. The board has a combined intelligence and wisdom that can't be found anywhere(IMO). Warmly Ami
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It appears to me that this all is a series of unfortunate events. I, too was looking at new posters with some suspicion especially after that one person openly defied Dr G. Whenever I saw any unregistered name I did not want to engage. Or anyone new. I wish we could all tell all the names we have posted under. It would do me good to know if I was talking with an old friend with a new nickname. I used to be Kellydckm and then I think I was Kell but both names would jump out to a relative.
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And I just did not want to run the risk of someone reading all this personal stuff. I barely EVER MENTION this board to anyone. My two daughters know about it and think I am lame. They cannot know how it has made me grow. I do not think they bother but I changed my name when my oldest (Married!) daughter realized I was here. I love Iz and her reaction was one of a suspicious nature. Whistler if you knew her you would understand. Tell us more about what brought you here and we will be here
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Ahhhh, Whistler.
I never understood your timeline, in that you were thinking about divorce then you were being videotaped then you moved out and had no pots or pans.....
then you stated in another post that you;d been out for 2.5 months.
All very confusing esp when you never posted a response to any of our replys during a time when we have obviouse trouble with old posters coming round pretending to be someone else, under other names.
I'm sorry if this was all bad timing for you. Not your fault..... you weren't singled out bc of your posts. Everyone here has to be rather alert, and sometimes we're over alert. You'll understand soon enough.
If you do come back.... please resist, if you can, any private invitations to (into Personal Mailboxes) to view etchings of Sam V's work.....
or......
get aquainted intimately.
Just a suggestion, of course.
Gross overblown concern for someone can sometimes be a cry for attention and adulation, not real concern for the one being complimented, IMO.
This board can be an oasis for those struggling to get out of a voiceless situation, which is indeed what it sound like you're doing.
Come back if you find yourself very lonely or lost.
Many here have navigated through similar waters.
Sometimes another compass or two is comforting in the dark.
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I hope you'll come back when you can, Whistler.
We'll sort it out together.
(Sometimes I think men just "chat" less than women and don't realize an answer is due...and when feeling generally hurt or used in life, women can sometimes keep score. Reciprocity in participation does make a difference here.)
Well said, Lighter:
Gross overblown concern for someone can sometimes be a cry for attention and adulation, not real concern for the one being complimented, IMO.
Hops
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Overblown concern could be a cry for attention........Wow, I am trying to memorize it.
Hops, Lighter and I are in the same channel.