Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Overcomer on February 19, 2008, 01:27:27 PM
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Three years ago my aunt got let go from the job she "inherited" from my mom when she retired from her first career.........a direct sales company.................my aunt could not stay qualified and they warned her for years to try to get her group sales up. She went to the pastor to ask what to do and the pastor said, "get your sales up."
So she came to us and asked for a job.....some of you know that she came in and started whining about the bookkeeper being mean to her, etc. She forced her way into the management team, didn't get it etc. So I told her......"the time when we make bad financial decisions for the business is over....................we were even stretching it to pay her $14 per hour.
When she was let go she got a lump sum severage and a monthly pay out for like two years. They took their kids to Walt Disney World. They bought Brighton bags. They lived well. So my uncle hurt his knee and doesn't work and my aunts monthly buy out just ended so without my knowledge my mom increased my aunt's pay to $40,000 annually.
She had gotten a raise before that and was making I think $17 per hour and my mom put it up to $40,000!!!
I am FIT TO BE TIED!
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Hi Kelly,
I resonate with Izzy's post.
From what you have shared todate of the business, I genuinely struggle to perceive the business acumen of such an increase.
Standing in your shoes -- I would feel exactly the same.
Leah x
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Your M is a continual "bite", Kelly. I am sorry. You deserve people who appreciate you, Kelly. The stork must have dropped you in to the wrong family(LOL) ! Ami
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NO THE BUSINESS CANNOT AFFORD IT. MY AUNT NEEDS IT SO RATHER THAN MY MOM GIVING HER SOME MONEY SHE MAKES THE BUSINESS DO IT.....SHE IS STUPID!!!
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(((((((Kelly)))))) If you're on your way out the door, this is no time to be fit to be tied, you know?
Are you in or out? Can this just be another in a series of doofus moves by someone with whom you are soon to be no longer in business? Feels to me like as soon as you let it be just another doofus move, then you'll be untied and free to pursue all of your other worthwhile plans?
Just a bit of (hopefully not too unwelcome) perspective.
Love to you,
Carolyn
P.S. The title of your thread just now dawned on me. Rant. Okay, so in the posting book of etiquette, is it allowed to give calm perspective on a rant threat or is that considered bad manners? :D ((((((((Kelly))))))) more hugs
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Oh I could go on and on....................yes, I am out but not until I can afford to get out. Meanwhile just the sight of my nmom and her stupidity drives me crazy. Oh, I should be better by tomorrow...............tail end of my PMS..................and I think I am going to track it on the calendar and just announce to my mother....."mom, I will hate you for the next five days so let's just remove me from the situation and we will all get along much better later................."
So my new son in law's dad is in radio and I emailed him and told him I wanted to be a guest host.....he acknowledged that and I was embarrassed but if there ever is something that comes open in radio and he wants me.................wouldn't that be cool??
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It probably would be good for you to realize that the PMS times are always the" same"--you are not "right" so, therefore, you should not expect to be "right" . It would probably make it easier for you ,if you planned that time ,in your head, and "knew" that you would be upset , then.
I think that the issue with your M is like a chronic illness;it is always there. S/times you can deal with it better than others.
That seemed to make sense to me. Love to you, Ami
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Yes, I admit it but I cannot go on antidepressants again.....that is what made me gain 25 pounds last year - just enough so I qualified for the lapband...............but I hate being fat for an extra year..