Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: gratitude28 on February 21, 2008, 09:57:21 AM
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Here are my ideas (in a nutshell). Please add any you think are important.
-Grow as an individual, apart from the N(s) in our life.
-Deal with life on life's terms.
-Create healthy relationships with good people.
-Teach our children (if we have them) to be self-sufficient, happy people with good self-esteem.
-Learn how we can avoid past errors.
-Learn what is good and useful in our lives.
-Cast out negative tapes, low self-esteem.
-Help others on their journeys.
Love, Beth
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Dear Beth,
Is this, your thread in response to my question on the other thread "Hermes"
as someone posted that we all are disordered people on this board posting !!! --- which startled, shocked even, me personally.
Thanks,
Love, Leah
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Dear Beth, I have copied and pasted my question from the other thread. Leah x
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Not saying it's easy, just suggesting that staying aware of the fact that it is a board for disordered people to express themselves is wise.
What startled me, yesterday, or the day before, was the above statement on a thread post.
I would feel reassured to know exactly what is the Purpose of VESMB ~ and for Whom exactly is the board for ?
> Voicelessness
> Emotional Survival
I may have it wrong, but personally, Voicelessness means to me, that I was voiceless as in never being able to Voice the injuries incurred. No-one to share with as no-one understands the reasons why.
I would sincerely value any feedback.
Grateful thanks, Leah x
PS > Leaving definitions and conficts and triggers ASIDE from the question.
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Yes, Leah, I think it would be reat for people to chime in and state our common desires for the board in a clear fashion!!
Love, Beth
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Here are my ideas (in a nutshell). Please add any you think are important.
-Grow as an individual, apart from the N(s) in our life.
-Deal with life on life's terms.
-Create healthy relationships with good people.
-Teach our children (if we have them) to be self-sufficient, happy people with good self-esteem.
-Learn how we can avoid past errors.
-Learn what is good and useful in our lives.
-Cast out negative tapes, low self-esteem.
-Help others on their journeys.
Love, Beth
Dear Beth,
I resonate and agree with full accord, as your listing was my understanding and reasons, when I joined the board, and remain my understanding and reason for being present here on the board.
Just remembered, we had a thread on "reasons why I am on board" (or words to that effect) a month or so ago.
And this recent statement was not posted then that we are all disordered people on the board posting
as I recall.
Love, Leah x
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> Reciprocal journey of healing, recovery, restoration and growth.
> Excavating one's authentic self with freedom
> Supporting another with openness, sincerity and honesty, likewise.
> Serenity to accept that we cannot bring change and to accept.
> Acceptance
> Freedom to stand aside from one's feelings, thoughts and emotions
> Freedom to Walk Away from the Table
> Freedom to Forgive and Forget
> Freedom to Let it go
> To be able to say "No" "that's not okay"
> To be able to ask "Why?"
> To BE authentic, as oneself, a unique individual human being
> Work out one's journey as an integral whole person (human being)
> Instead of Assumption and Presumption -- ask questions / seek clarification
> Hear what the person is saying
> Give support and understaning with kind consideration
> Step into the other person's shoes for a moment of thought before responding
> Reciprocal kindness, genuine, consideration for another
> Seek, search, research, evaluate, ask questions, and grow in learning and enlightenment
> Express a sense of humor and inner joy
Leah x
It's a Wonderful Life out there! Worth living with fullness of inner joy and contentment -- to simply, BE ! :)
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--letting go of gripes and grievances
--learning to let go
--taking ourselves less seriously
--voicing pain and pleasure
--holding silences
--forgiving
--learning to stop repetition compulsion
--accepting loving criticism
--offering same
--sharing goofy pet stories
Hi Henry!
xo
Hops
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I LOVE these ideas!!!!!
Especially anything to do with Bad Ol' Henry!!!
-Lessening the impact of the N on our life (if still a part of our life).
-Letting go of guilt imposed by the N.
-Being comfortable with ourselves as we are.
-Making sure we are giving love to those around us who deserve it, instead of using that energy to combat the N.
-Reveling in the snoring of our aminals (OK,, maybe that one is particular to my household).
-Reducing the amount os assuming we do in daily life (this is a big one for me - I am always assigning emotions to people FOR them out of my fears).
Thanks all for keeping this going.
Love, Beth
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- to not feel alone in my experience
(other than that I have no agenda, no goal)
if I or anyone else grows, learns how to deal with conflict, or builds self-esteem then thats all incredibly valuable gravy for the meat
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* to be heard
* to be understood
* to be accepted for who you are
* to not be judged
* to get a hug
* to give good advice
* to ask good questions
* to not assume anything without further clarification
* to be kind
* to be there for others
* to accept people being there for you
* to not be defensive
* to accept constructive criticism
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((((((((((Beth)))))))))) This is an awesome thread. Been sitting here just studying your original post and I already feel refreshed!
Thank you for this breath of fresh air.
With love,
Carolyn
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Beth,
Great post.
To give back some of care I have received
To continue to receive what supports me
To hear voices which challenge me with respect
To be reminded of the gift of being Nfree
To be part of a generous and holding community
To be heard
To value my silence
To laugh out loud
axa